Question for all the PA members out there...

So my question is:

Say you are in a relationship and everything is going well. Then, you meet someone (a guy or a girl) that has better qualities than your current boyfriend or girlfriend. Would you trade up?

(to "trade up" means to go for someone better than what you have currently)

For the girls, say this new guy is better looking, more funny, more financially successful, and has more similarities with you. He is honest, confident and thoughtful. Everytime you see him, you two have this good chemistry and connection. Your day seems brighter when you are around him. And you know for a fact that he likes you, but you have a boyfriend. Would you trade up for this new guy who is a better catch than your boyfriend?

For the guys, say this new girl has a hotter body and cuter face than the one you are with. Not only that, she has a great personality and brings a smile to your face everyday. She's smart, down to earth, and has more integrity than any girl you have ever met. She also enjoys doing guy stuff (playing video games, hooking up cars, ect.) and is very much into you. Now, would you guys dump your girlfriends for this new girl?

 

hmm i dunno what are your views on this subject matter?

 

I would like to think that if such a situation were ever to occur, I would not trade up. But that would only ever work in theory. In practice, nothing ever seems to work. If I do get put in that situation, I highly doubt that the decisions would come so swiftly. No doubt that our views will change as time progresses.

My original intention for asking this question is because I know some people who can love the same person for the rest of their lives, while others can easily change their minds.

 

I would trade up because there's a better chemestry between me and the new girl

 

of coz i would... ur not stuck with someone unless ur married to him/her... if ur still dating u have the chance to make ur choice carefully...

 

You mean like trading in an old car for a new car?

 

Well chances are, while I'm going out with my girlfriend, I wouldn't have eyes for any other girls so I probably wouldn't notice the better traits in the other girl. If by chance I do get to know her better, I'd still be spending way more time with my girlfriend so I wouldn't even get the chance to begin liking the other girl. But that's just me...

 

Well you could take a look at this...
http://www.dramasian.com/showthread.php?t=4527

well you already pretty much answered it... it's a tough decision... depends on how much of a connection you have with your current bf/gf...

if they're all around better than of course people are gonna go for it. It's basic human nature.... we always trying to have better things... why do you think people are willing to by a brand new Cadillac instead of keeping their low gas cosuming car... cuz they wanna go out ballin'.... simple as that..

 

I'll trade up, it's not like I marry to my previous GF. Well sux's for her but life goes on -_-2

 

I think your reference thread is a bit different from what the thread starter is asking. In the other thread, the guy wants to know about upgrading gfs/bfs when the previous relationship has already ended. Johnny here is asking about upgrading whilst still in a relationship, which in my opinion, is a much tougher scenario.

With that said, I have no idea how to go about answering this question. I guess I've never really given it much thought before. How about I sleep on it and get back to you tomorrow? hehehe

I mean trading up DOES sound pretty tempting -unsure

 

of course you can't just break it off instantly cuz thas just messed up..

 

if you think the person you're currently with is inferior... then you have no business being with that person... just like you... they should have the option to leave your ass as well....

 

yup... but what if yall been together for a really long time and been thru thick n thin...??

 

And that's coming from a Liu Yi Fei fan?

Why dont you follow your own advice and dump LYF for someone better? -lol

 

Peachey, this is how I imagine it would be 5 years from now:

Lychee: Have you forgotten abt ur beloved LYF?
Thomas: LYF is so old now. She's not as appealing anymore. At the rate she's going, she won't be getting anymore roles.
Lychee: But LYF is only 25, that's not old. Didn't you consider actresses in their mid 20's to be at their prime?
Thomas: But 25 is old.... 25 and above is considered old for an actress (like An Yi Xuan, Alyssa Chia, and Gao Yuan Yuan) At this age they start looking "not so good" anymore, and won't be earning as much money.
Lychee: Sigh, I don't get you.
Thomas: Check out that hot new 17-yr old chick who was just casted as XLN in Return of the Condor Heroes 2011. -inlove

 

y not take both? hahaah

 

LOL, I love your analogy. Especially the "check out that hot 17-yr old chick who was just casted as XLN in ROCH2011." -lol

I think Thomas totally missed the point hahah.

So if you meet a better one, you're not going to change lovers? -rolleyes

 

Me? Trading camps for a younger LYF? -rotfl Didn't u guys sense that tint of sarcasm in my comment?

 

Which part don't I understand??

From what I've read, you sound like this:

[Thomas standing on street with girlfriend]

Wonderful girl walks past (as great as Peachey -lol)

Thomas: (mouth drops open and drools a little) OMG, I like that girl. She's way better than my current girlfriend. (turns to girlfriend) Sorry babe, you know, you have to go for the better one. -cool

 

are you saying your as about as wonderful as a home wrecker..-lol