I don't know about most people but I noticed that whenever I was in a relationship, I spent most of my time with that person; not in a group of friend. Now that I am married, we only have one another. It's hard to make friends after high school and definitely harder once you're out of school and in the real world cuz everyone is so busy and when they have time, most people prefer to spend it with their love ones. I worked 14 hrs a day sometimes so I want to spend time with my wife and no one else. My frat bros don't call me nowadays and so are my regular social friends. SAD.
awww... poor u... like my parents they don't really have social friends... they do everything together... maybe u can think of ur wife as ur best friend... as ur buddy for life... i understand this is harder to deal with for younger couples... things will prolly b tougher when u have kids...
i got a friend who i knew since we did Taekwondo together when we were like 15 and when he was 20 he married a japanese girl in the UK. since then, we kinda lost contact and the last time i spoke to him was like a year ago. then suddenly he started posting stuff on facebook and i was like "oh no, they're not divorcing i hope" as she is moving back to Japan for good, leaving him over here and so i got in contact with him asking if things are ok, but apparently he will move over there too shortly once hes done a teaching course "teaching english as a foreign language" but she encourages him to see more of his friends as he rarely does. so i thought i'll hang out with him as he will be lonely and probably depressed when his wife goes back to Japan so yeah marriage, you spend more time with each other and neglect friends, only keep close friends who bother to keep in contact.
ya it is true i think after i got married i stopped hanging out with friends since i dont have much time anymore
yeah...... its how it happens... friends lose contacts since they kinda know you would not be free....
As ppl get older they have less friends, and it takes al ot of effort to krrp in contact with them due to schedule and all. Being married doesn't help every free time is to for family, at least you still have a family
Friends? Sure; I have lots. Mrs Ralph, Ralph Junior, Ralphie boy, and Ralpheala. See? I have lots of friends. :laugh: So, what's the big deal? No more hanging with the bros in tittie bars stuffing dollar bills into G-Strings. Now I get to sit home and bitch about taxes while I watch my feet slowly disappear under by belt line. Ain't life sweet? LOL... :biggthumpup:
comon... not even poker nights on thursday?... u need a hobby m8... one that doesn't involve a mouse and ur left hand i've ment a few married couples, or just guys(and gals) that leave their spouse's at home for the night on our weekly meets(i don't go every week hah) between RX-8 owners... we either chill at a krispy kreme for an hour, or have some fun at a sushi bar... so a hobby w/ a community is there, go explore!
I don't have much free time outside of work; thus, I am online. This doesn't apply to married couple but people in a relationship too. I didn't hang out much when I was still in the dating scene.
since ur at work a lot... not even small get togethers between employees? an hour at the bar after work? etc?
u gambling addict... -lol don't make it sound depressing... my fds disappear once they fall in love with someone... i'm happy for them... real friends don't have to hang out much... u just know they'll b there when u need them...
No .. there's no such things as get together after work. everyone has their own business. It's not like back in Asia where coworkers go out for a drink or whatever ..
dawny is a loner! my experience is that you must keep connected other wise they will drift and become the "ohhhh i havnt seen that person in years i used to hang out with but not anymore" friend and yes some people i know once they get in a relationship dissapear from the face of the earth. I don't want to be that person who has only has their wife/husband and child when im old and nothing else to do but to hear the wife bitch and children cry. It seems that way with all asian parents, but luckily we are the internet generation it should be easier to keep contact and ask people out. negiqboyz why don't u ask whatever group you are working with if they want to have a night out somewhere maybe bowling if not bar but make sure u do it weeks early.
puhahaha.....thas funny....the whole ralph crew huh....-lol and whut is with that style i have so many tutors that tuck their shirt into their pants and the belly hangs over the belt -___-" but yeshhh like others have said mebe ya need to make more of an effort by initiating outings with people...and not wait for somebody else to ask you...?? and ya said "theres no such thing as get together after work..."...mebe YOU should do something about it and change things...who knows mebe you all think the same but no-ones is doing anything about it....but at least you can say you tried right..?..
I have tried to organize something being their boss and stuffs but people just don't wanna hang. Most of my staffs live about 1-1.5 hour away from office so they all wanna go home afterward.
LOL, You're right, of course, that it takes an investment in time and effort in order to make social events happen. However, when you get to the "married with kids" life, you start to lose your need or attraction to such events. Though I like and professionally admire many of the people that I work with, I couldn't care less about them once I get off duty, and the prospect of having to spend my leisure time with them too (ie. at the expense of time with the wife and kids) is nauseating. I guess that's sort of what Negiqboyz was trying to say, that once you get to a certain stage, and especially with a busy schedule, you tend to selectively prefer to be only with people that you really care about, rather than seek to spend time with people that aren't as emotionally valuable to you. His comment: "...Now that I am married, we only have one another" is but the beginning. He obviously still thinks of his friends and the good times they had together, and it naturally still has some emotional pull for him (...bros don't call me nowadays and so are my regular social friends. SAD). But, I think that once they have kids, their world would become even more insular, and former friends would be even less important. These kinds of personal transitional social dynamics from single to married life are but an important aspect of a stable society. This is one reason why China is particularly worried about their progressive and extensive gender imbalance, as millions of men won't ever be able to undergo such a stabilizing transformational experience. This may open the door to the creation of social upheaval and anarchy, contrary to good public control and order. -ohmy LOL... But sorry, like a poorly parked truck on a hill with no emergency brakes engaged, I tend to run away with these things once I get started... :rolleyes2: Oh, and why do we tuck our shirts into our belt? We're trying to see our feet... :laugh:
if you love someone you don't get "bored" of this person that easily................................. there's so many couples being together for like... 50, 60 years... it's amazing.
its hopeless.....and just to wear a belt for your belly to splurge all over... and if ya really wanna see your feet just sit on a chair with your feet up.. or or or stand in front of mirror la....
