I've talked about one of my coworkers on this forum before...but I have news. To make a long story short, I made a bet with another coworker that J no longer likes me. Well, it turns out that he still does. A few weeks ago, it turns out that he'd hooked up with his best friend's (M) ex-girlfriend (K). K and M have a house together, but they broke up maybe 2 months back because of his gambling tendencies. K and M still live together, as they own the house together, but K had spent a lot of time chatting with J. while we were studying for exams, K went over to J's place all the time to help him clean. Somehow, they ended up hooking up. K and J never told M that they were dating. One day, M decided to ask K where she's been going all those nights, and she broke the news to him... The day after this happened, J ran and told my other coworker (T) about this. He didn't tell me that he'd hooked up with a girl and still refers to her as his friend when he talks to me, even though their relationship is kind of serious. So T asked J if he's told me yet, and J says that he hasn't because he wants to keep me as a 'safety net'. Ok, now where does he get off thinking that he could have me as a safety net? Personally, I think it's wrong to have safety nets when you're in a relationship because you're betting that the relationship is going to fail. What do you guys think? Have you ever had a safety net? Anyway, I'm not interested in this guy at all, and now, I'm embarrassed to have even been associated with him. I think it's pretty sleazy that he went out w/his best friend's ex on the low while proclaiming the whole time that he was not interested in her. I'm also peeved that he thinks I can be his safety net. Where does he get the idea that he can have me any time he wants?? And it is pretty disrespectful, to me, to himself, and to his girlfriend to let the public know that he is 'keeping his options open.' I'm pretty sure his girlfriend doesn't know though...just ALL his coworkers.
See? I told you that you can't avoid drama. Hahaha. Moral of the story, J needs to learn to keep to himself. Now he's a sleeze ball and everyone knows it. He's already crossed too many lines and I think it'll be hilarious when everything blows up in his face. For what it's worth... yes it's bad of him to keep you as a "safety net" (and to let you know find out about it) haha, j/p. That guy's got no dignity. P.S. Do you women HAVE to elaborate on EVERYTHING so much? What's with the JKLMNOPQRSTUV? -rotfl Here's what the guys version would have been: Dude hooks up with a girl, dude doesn't want to tell me because he wants to keep me as a "safety net". I've never liked him but I still think that's fked up.
I like Avant's shortened version! lol. Shy, I don't think you were supposed to find out...obviously T is a sellout! I wouldn't tell a hot girl like Shy any details about how into my GF I am, unless specifically asked and I'd have to lie to avoid details.
Hmm...I don't see why she should leave...if anything I think J is the one who should leave. This is why you should NEVER mix business with pleasure. Perhaps you could go talk to your manager about it? I'd avoid 'stebo' at all costs though..lol especially after that whole 'e-mail' incident you talked about in the rant forum.
Avant's condensed ver was so much better LOL i cant imagine what wouldve happened if shy kept her long story... long. But i think everyone always has one or two people in mind that they think they can get with at anytime. Its perfectly normal to have a safety net in my opinion, just not when you already have a gf -_-2
Hahaha but the more juicy details the more entertaining! lol... Anyway, from what you've written, I can already tell that that guy (J) is a total LOSER/DUMBASS. I mean, does he like NOT know that you are friends with T? No wonder why you were never interested in him...-lol
"Hmm...I don't see why she should leave...if anything I think J is the one who should leave. This is why you should NEVER mix business with pleasure. " - mystery well yea i must've been on crack. she shouldn't be the one to leave but if it does get bad and the other people don't stop, it'll make work a living hell.
So do you guys think I should confront him about the issue or should I just close an eye, plug an ear and play along? He still doesn't know that I know, and I really don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill (esp. in the workplace) but this guy is really starting to push my buttons.
I suggest you go talk to him about it in private. Ignoring the issue doesn't seem to be working for you...
I wouldn't confront him about it...if you weren't supposed to know in the first place. Who cares if he's using you as a safety net? You don't need to know his secrets...unless of course...you're into him =P
hell nah dont talk bout it. Thats giving him your attention. Ignore him, stay away from him less he be some psychotic mofo.
Ahhhh, now this is interesting behavior. Some guys call this "safety net" while others call it "keeping the options open." I think it's pretty dishonest, and I doubt he realizes that he is doing more damage to his "chances" than actually helping. When someone does this... they are keeping the fact hidden so that they don't hurt their chances with that other person, and because they think that it will ruin any future possibilities that they will have. This behavior pattern is generally present in guys who are prone to cheat. To me, this would be like a huge alarm going off and I don't think I would want to associate with him on any level because it says a lot about his character (or rather lack of character). I honestly don't understand this line of thought, because if you are in a relationship, you should be dedicating yourself completely to that person you are involved with. If you aren't doing that, then what business do you have being in a relationship in the first place? I personally have never had a safety net, and I don't plan on having any in the future. I am an all-or-nothing kinda guy
