My ex was a really sweet and caring guy that always tried to put a smile on my face. But recently, I broke up with him bcuz I felt like I was drifting away from him. I was startin to lose feelings, and I was tired of the same old arguments, that happen again and again. Now that we officially broken up, he's tellin me he can change and be a better bf, and compromise with me. But I don't wanna even bother giving him that chance bcuz I'm just so tired of our relationship, and crying myself to sleep every night. He's tryin to beg me back now, and he's hoping I will return one day. He said he can't live without me and would never get over me. I know, u folks mite think he just sayin that to get me back. But seriously, he really can't move on, bcuz he loves me a lot and was planning to marry me after university. It really breaks my heart to see him like this, hurting himself, not eating, not sleeping. I do still love him a bit, but not as much as b4. I kept saying no to him already, because I don't want to try again. What to do??? Give him another chance, or stand firm and move on????
how far do you think you can move on any further with him in this relationship if getting back together?
Don't get back with him just because he is persistent and because you pity the fool. Do remember the events that led you to break off the relationship. You can't get back into a relationship blindly simply because the guy said that he's going to change. Although I'm not sure what you want to change about him, I'll be sure to tell you that even if he does change, it's only gonna be temporary. Within a few months, he will get back to being his old self. Don't waste his time or your time. He lived with x number of years before he met you; he'll be fine living the rest of his life without you.
To be honest, that guy sounds like a clingy loser. His willingness to change into what you want him to be will only make the relationship avalanche.
u should be strong -- u broke up cos u had all these things tht u werent happy with if u go back to make him happy (and eat again etc) then surely u're still not going to be happy? u can care for him but just dun do something that will eventually lead to u being unhappy cos u should both want a relationshp to work and not just cos the guy is sad without u
its better to not get back. y? cuz wen u guyz r together theres always gonna be fights, but wen 2 ppl get bak together, there will alwayz be the fights that start w/ "well remember when u did this wen we were 1st together?" its the things that will f up the relationship if the 2nd time around ever came, i can vouch for that, and it wasn't she givin me the chance, it was me giving her the chance, and it wasn't worth it the 2nd time around. u're better off lettin him be wat he is now. if he truly loves u, he has to respect u and understand y it was ended, then he'll be able to move on, but til then, hes just lonely and hasn't gotten adjusted to that life again.
Just as my friend has once told me, (and I agree with her), you shouldn't stay in a relationship if you have lost feelings for that person. And don't make the excuse to yourself that you should stay with him just because he still cares about you. Because what is important is that you still love him. If you still love him, then you should stay with him. If not, then don't. Otherwise, the only thing you are doing is dragging the relationship longer, a relationship that will not work.
heart breaker... doo... do.. doo -whistle... Can;t believe yall so hard on the guy... and he was about to marry you too... thas shady... Obviously you've made your decision so there's no sense in dwelling over it. I just confused about the part where he's "really sweet and caring guy that always tried to put a smile on my face"... but yet your crying yourself to sleep... "I felt like I was drifting away from him." So you lost interest in him? he wasn't meeting up to your expectations...?? Are you sure it was that big of a deal... or could you just sit down and think of the negative stuff that you may have been able to look past?? I dunno, all I'm saying is if some1 is "sweet, caring and always puts a smile on your face.." then they seem to be the one... just don't end up regretting letting some1 like that go. See him like months later.. with a new girl... maybe your best friend...-shrug he got like a whole new personality... while still keeping he's old positive traits... walkin' like he got a million bucks...in his pocket.. -batman and then ya gonna be like and I let that one go...-boat
i think u sud gv him chance a chance doesn't hurt let c if u guys can work it out o not or else break again at least u wont regret it this time every1 deserve a chance,don u think?
I am currently in the same situation with you. Well... in the case of myself, it wasn't as bad as yours.. Me and my ex-bf are in a seperation period... But i've finally made the decision to break up... It isn't an easy thing to do.. But u've gotta live up with the fact.. Life goes on...
Just block and delete him. Stop talking to him and he'll get over you... Or at least, you won't hear him crying because you ripped his heart out and spat on it =P Going back to him out of pity is what you're considering....and I don't think it's a good idea
I think if he wants to change then prove it, don't just say it. If he keeps begging u and hurting himself without doing something concrete to change hi attitude then u should leave him. That means he's not a strong-will guy and not dependable. If after several months, he's changed to be a better person, maybe u should reconsider him. Cause everybody deserves a second chance. The most important thing is what your heart feels. Don't regret everything after it's too late.
Damn..you peoples are mean....IT's better off not to talk to him...YOu can Call me..hheheh....jk...He will evenually find another girls college.
