He lives in Cali and I'm in NYC and I know it is very difficult to maintain a long distance relationship. We used to talk for hours from 2am E.S.T at least 3-4 days per week. I am tired to wait in front of the webcam while he rushes home to see me. After months, he gives up and my mind tells me to stop cuz we know it's not gonna work. But I cant get my mind off this guy. We met while he came to NYC and we been talking since then. We have only met ONCE. Our feelings grow virtually. We still communicate even till now but no more webcam sessions which is very time consuming. And as much as I miss the person, the feelings has evolved. I dont know if he is the right person and he is 2 years my junior but my heart keeps telling me to proceed. I dont know about the future because I am thinkin of movin to Cali. Should I? It hurts to think about this everyday... What to do?
I think you should visit Cali and observe the living situation here before making a decision. A visit will allow you to know him better and test to see if it's worth the move for you. Don't jump to the gun so fast until things are mutual (feelings) .. know what I mean. Moving 5000 miles across the country and leaving behind everything without assured feeling is too risky. Love or not, gotta be realistic. It's not like ya'll have been dating for 4-5 years before parting .. too much at stake for you. Similarly, why can't you ask him to move to NYC?
I'm sort of in the same situation as you are but maybe my feelings aren't as strong as yours. Even though I would tell you to be realistic too but...maybe you should go for it. Go and seize love Go for a visit and see if he's truly worth loving. If he is, then you should continue your relationship. Even if it doesn't work out, you have at least tried.
For a name like Boss Lady.. that shits not very boss.. " After months, he gives up and my mind tells me to stop cuz we know it's not gonna work." that's quite a big decision.. moving all the way there.. if it doesn't work out then what would you do? Stop day dreamin' girl.. this ain't a TVB series.. he's probably moved on already.. as should you..
To be honest, this is the last board I'd go to for real advice on stuff like this. At least fly around and see how things are face to face. I don't think webcam and phone chat is enough. Leave the stuff from movies in movies.
thanks everyone. I have a long term opportunity to fly over to see him but I am still holding my horses due to all the possibilities (that you guys have mentioned...) Although I am still very doubtful, I am not taking actions.
