I started having a relationship online with a guy from the same forum (not here!). We started as friends and always had this strong connection to each other. It was late last year when we decided to be an online couple. We had an agreement to see each other in person and be together in real life. The thing is I use to place my real photo on my profile page, but I decided to place a different photo, an actress from abroad, as my avatar. He didn't mention much about it, so I continued to send photos of this actress, as "me" and hoping that he would find out the truth sooner or later and confront me about it..but he never did. So I kept on doing it. So when he came back after a 6 week vacation from abroad, he sounded happy to see me, then after a day or two, he was ignoring me and distant. Until today, I found out from a friend that he knew all along about my fake pictures and went on the forum and talked about me. Now he openly tells the forum how fake I am. I was hoping that he could have talked to me first but instead he took his anger into a thread and wrote stuff directed at me on how really awful I was. I know that what I did was wrong, but I felt he should have said it sooner, instead he ignored me or told me to give him time before talking to me again. I know this sounds stupid, but is there a chance that we can mend this and be friends again? He's a viet by the way. How long does it take for a viet guy to calm down. I know he wants revenge..but for a picture? Please tell me what to do. Thanks guys!
i gotta tell you straight up... if you don't live up to the avatar or even close to it... then its likely not going to happen.. you can ask for forgiveness and he may accept but things are going to be different.
It takes a viet guy as long as it takes any other non-viet guy, or girl, to calm down lol. So lesson to be learned, aside from not using a false photo: Don't hope that someone will do something ("I felt he should have said it sooner" or "hoping that [someone] would [do something]").
Leave the relationship. Dont have any contact with him. Hope he doesnt have any personal information of you.
he might stab you with whatever tools he has until he is spiritually calmed down and then he will say "Forgive me for what I have done, Gautama Buddha. I do what has to be done." Pretty sure you life is in real danger.
Seriously? No offense to the OP, but your methodology at, and understanding of people and "relationships" has about as much finesse and depth as say, ...a drive by shooting. In case you're still having difficulty comprehending what had happened, his being Viet has nothing to do with it; the complete lack of honesty and perpetuation of a lie, even as he quietly already knew it, undermined everything else you ever said to him. To him, you're essentially a bullshit artist that's not to be ever believed; that's why he's been warning others about you. The moral here is, reap what you sow, and you deserve every bit of it -what?
My friend, it's not the fault of the web. You can lay the blame on that guy, or anyone else on the web, but sadly, the fault lies with the initial act. It's just dishonesty. Whether you did this online, in real life or otherwise, people don't like dishonesty, and you can't expect people to call you out and confront you, because now you're blaming them for not calling you out on it. Is there a reason why you want them to confront you?
Posting a fake photo and pretending it's you, bad idea to begin with. You know you are at fault too right? Shit happens. Live and learn. Move on.
hahah ask these viet members.. how long does it take? see yall need to calm the f' down.. online dating.. with fake photos... oh you two silly kids.. so you've seen what he looks like for reals? I don't understand why you guys didn't just video chat instead of sending photos to each other.. fake ones at that. What exactly were you trying to get out of it?
He's not a friend and only wanted to know you because he thought you were someone else. you shouldn't have sent him pictures to begin with. Assuming I've never seen her if a girl wanted to know what I looked like I'd lose a little bit of the feeling I once had for her.
Don't you ever get curious to know what people look like, tho? If they match the impression you have of them in your head? I wouldn't ever push, but I definitely get curious sometimes.
