If you find out that your girlfriend or boyfriend has a history of mental illness (eg. depression, ocd), would you stay and support her/him or leave as fast as you can? Of course, I am saying the illness is under control sorta speak. HEADS UP - this is NOT about me; though I am concern since my wife is pregnant and women can get postpartum depression.
so would you leave your wife if she had something like that due to pregnancy? lol i redirected the thread now!
as long as it's not genetic, & im not considering about marriage, it's ok. you can't just leave ur wife if she developed postpartum depression..wth lol
Well, I honestly and most likely to leave my wife if she develops depression. I don't think I can handle it especially after reading so many horror stories about women killing babies and husbands .. God knows when she might go all out whacko. People might think it's wrong and all but hey, I am only human. I can only deal with so much. If I have to continue a marriage with insecurity (like when if ever she will go crazy on me); then I will eventually go crazy myself from the stress and all. If that's the case, it's best to go our separate way.
I can't believe you. Your stupid to have had a kid w/ someone w/ mental illness. Your more stupid because your questioning yourself after the fact. If you have these, doubts, you don't know what love is. Have your heart broken, shed more tears before you realize what love is, before you consider marriage. I'm a compassionate person, if medical conditions arise, what kind of person would jet like that? For one to even think that, means his/her relationship would not last in the 1st place.
the obvious answer would be stay and support, that is if you can handle the situation under your provided circumstances.
i suggest stay. this an health issue. shouldn't u consult specialist for this kind stuff. i meaning doctor. therapy n etc. So its not god who knows when she go off crazy. if she did go crazy, its not goin be like horror movies. reality compare to wat on entertainment is never really the same.
OKAY PEOPLE, this ain't about me .. I am just asking the question as to how ya'll will deal with the situation if called for .. As for my personal view or whatever, that's just me. You don't have to like it. We are all different; just because you deal with the situation certain doesn't mean we all should do it. @Espresso ... I guess you really know what love really is and having a famly and all .. lol
lol ppl dont read ^^" wowwww that's so selfish.......u'll leave cuz u THINK u cant handle it, it's not like shes allow to choose not to have any kinda depression. ure her husband, meant to share a life together, thats too irresponsible to do. i hope that's just a plain concern
i find it kinda odd that u think ur gonna leave if u cant handle since ur the one who were putting pressure on ur wife to have kids n all >_<.... u wanted her to get pregnant but if shes gonna be depressed.... *sigh*... u c it aint easy being a woman... having to b pregnant for 9 months, having to push a bb outta u n then getting ditched by ur hubby cuz "he cant handle it" :( u guys r married...didnt u guys go like: "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health for as long as we both shall live." I guess words dont mean anything anymore for some ppl
Very true. But we have to be rational about the situation too. I definitely support her in her recovery and all but I am not sure if we can still live together anymore. "FEAR" is a terrible thing. Think about it .. when people get old, sometimes, the hubby or wify send each other into the hospice if s/he's sick and unable to care for him/her. This is just the same to me; doesn't mean I love her any less. Sometimes, things have to be dealt certain way .. not the best or perfect but rational.
Treat other as you would want to be yourself I guess. I wouldn't walk out on my significant other like that, and I wouldn't want them to me. Sending her to a hospice for being in a state of depression isn't really THAT rational is it? Those places suck, my grandpa is in one and it blows.
fixed Women at this time needs support, leave her now, just watch her tumble down a hill. Situations includes: Murdering the baby as soon as it enters this world. Massive depression that could lead to 1 body 2 lives (chinese saying for pregnant women dead/died/killed etc.) So try and get her to think positive about the baby coming into this world -sorc
Of course I will stay and support, especially if it is my wife. Mental illness, like depression, is not a permanent illness and it can be treated. Think about it from your wife's perspective; it is not her fault that she has depression. She cannot control it. People with depression needs support from other people (family, friends, etc...) Let them know that there ARE other people around them to support them. If you just leave your wife, you will hurt your wife even more.
