It's a policy of mine not to talk about my personal life at work because I like to keep those 2 separate. Needless to say, I don't date coworkers. Anyway, a while back, one of my coworkers developed a crush on me. I was too gullible to catch the signals. I was really busy @ the time, and this guy would always come down to talk to me and stuff. He got me in trouble @ work, and I was really peeved. So, I stopped talking to him. Then he started talking to my other coworkers about me, and how he thinks I hate him and how he has no idea why (this guy's 26, btw). This morning, I went out with my coworkers for breakfast, and the subject of valentines day came up out of the blue. They asked me what I did on valentines day, and I told them that my friend came over with some cake. One girl took it upon herself to translate friend to boyfriend. Anyway, she passed the wrong info on to this guy, and this guy was shocked that I had a boyfriend and was pissed that I 'led him on.' I heard about this from my other coworker. So now, I'm mad that this girl took it upon herself to pass on wrong info, but at the same time I've decided not refute that I have a boyfriend if it makes the guy lay off and just stop talking about me. This is one of the reasons why I don't like talking about my personal life to people I work with. Do you talk about your personal life to your coworkers? And how do you prevent gossip from surrounding you if you do?
I'm the type who people have beg to get any personal info out of me I'm not a book for you all to read, the less you know, the better. Haha. Gossip is inevitable and natural... learning good ways of dealing with it has worked out much better for me.
well did you ever let him know that you aren't interested in dating within the work place? anyway, i second what avant said. rumors are every where and they are not preventable. just gotta learn how to put up with them!
I've mentioned to him several times that I do not date within the workplace because it just leads to many awkward moments. He agreed with me, so I don't know why he was barking up my tree. I mean, I don't know where he got the idea that I was leading him on... going out for drinks with a group of coworkers with him included does not mean that I am on a date with him. I'm particularly annoyed at the coworker who went and spread the word that I have a man, when I don't. I don't mind that they think so, but she took it upon herself to change the friend to boyfriend, when that wasn't even the case. So now, unnecessary drama is surrounding me. I know that gossip is inevitable, which is why I only talk to certain coworkers whom I trust about some of my personal issues, but when somebody that I'm not even close to (i.e. the girl who gave me a make believe boyfriend) comes up to me and asks me personal questions, I don't know how to deflect that. So now, to end all of this, should I just tell these people who are talking about me to mind their own business? I'd rather be passive than aggressive on these things.
You could always just BI slap some sense into them! -clapclap That wouldn't start any new rumors at ALL -blush
