I wanted to tell everyone my love story. it seems alotta ppl on this forum have problem on forgetting their past lovers. and i can relate. also, i'm sorry that this post was so long. i tried to shorten it. but guess it didnt work. my 1st bf and i recently broke up bout a month ago. i am currently 21 and have been dating him since i was 15 almost 16. so we dated for 5 years. we dated back in 2003. within the 5 years of our relationship many has happened. ill list them in order of wen we 1st started going out to until we broke up. 1. my friends never agreed to our relationship because they believed he was a "player" because of this i slowly drifted away from my friends cuz i believed that i didnt need my friends. i believed that as long as i had him then it was all that mattered. i was really blinded by love. 2. in 2006 he cheated on me. 3 years into our relationship. he went on vacation by himself to visit his friends and dad and to meet his dad's girlfirend and her kids. wen he came back he told me that he wanted to break up with me. cuz he wanted to concentrate on school. so i take his excuse. then bout a week after he came back his future step sister came over to visit him and his brother. and my ex took a week off just to spend time with her. they stayed at his brothers apartment. i had a feeling that sumthings not right. but we were already broken up so i give him space. then one day he brought her over to pick me up from school and drove us to his brothers place. whlie she was in the shower he starts kissing me and says that we should get back together. so we got back together. it wasnt until after she had left when i checked his facebook messages. and saw that he had been messaging his friend saying "we fooled around every chance we had whlie she was here" her is referring to his step sister. so yes he fooled around with his step sister behind my back. u would think after i found this out i woulda left by then. but of course if i did, then we wouldnt have gone out for another 2 years. so we both tried to 4get bout it. and worked out for another 2 years. 3. at the end of 2006 we found out that he had a tumor on his leg. karma could it b? luckily the tumor wasnt cancerous. but now he cant be a normal person anymore. there are alotta things that he cant do anymore or else his leg will break. because of this my mom has told me things like "u should find someone who will b able to support u instead of u supporting them" "u should find someone whos healthy" basically cuz of the surgery it was her excuse to tell me to find someone else who never went through surgery. and is healthy. im not a cold heartless person who will leave someone cuz their not 100% functional. dont get me wrong, he can walk and do things on his own but sports he cant do much of. his surgery never bothered me. 4. my family. i am an only child so my parents r somewhat protective of me. they never approved of my relationship. cuz i started dating at such a young age. and cuz its difficult for my parents to communicate with my ex. it was the hardest part in the relationship. i always felt like i was in the middle of my parents and my ex. cuz my parents didnt like him and my ex didnt like my parents. it was quite hard to please everyone. 5. so now its 2009. not a very good year for us. Jan of 2009 we broke up. not the best way to start off the new year. but i felt that we just werent compatible. i still wasnt able to 4give him for cheating on me. i felt that he didnt respect my family. family is very important to me. and our views on how we should treat our parents is different. so i ended it. BUT again...we got back together. we both told each other that this time we WILL change. and this time we WILL make it work. 6. it didnt work out. on aug 20th i got really angry at him. we had planned a trip for the weekend to get away from home with another friend. the day of our trip he tells me that he doesnt wanna go cuz he wants time to himself. he feels depressed and doesnt wanna go. he pushes me to go on the trip. and i got fed up. i was really tired of him always being lazy and never motivated to wanna do anything fun with me. i did go on the trip. and throughout the whole trip i felt that sumthing wasnt right. i had trusted him that he would behave and b productive in getting his studies done like he said he wanted to. a day after i came back from my trip he messages me says "i need to talk to u" so he comes over to my house and he goes "i dont feel that we're compatible. i dont feel that spark anymore like wen we 1st dated. im starting to get bored" so we break up. i gave him EVERYTHING back. all the jewerly that he ever gave me. gifts that he gave me. everything! 7. the next day after our break up we went to have lunch. cuz i had more things to give back to him. it was very hard i gotta admit. especially when he complimented on how nice i looked that day. and walking next to him but not being able to hold his hand and giving him a hug but not being able to give him a kiss. but we knew this was for the better. i went on a family vacation at the end of that week. i came back on the day of his birthday to find out that he was already seeing someone else. he had told me that he is dating this girl who was his friends ex. i knew who it was. cuz we all used to hang out and go on double dates together. i congratz them like how a friend should. of course it did bother me but wat was i suppose to do? tell him not to date her? when they are so much more compatible. it was very hard to accept that right after him and i break up he goes and dates a friend of ours. but i took it. and we both thought that we could still b friends. and we were. we still chatted but of course it felt very akward. we both didnt want to lose contact with each other so no matter how akward it felt for both of us we still continued to chat hoping that one day this akward feeling will go away. we thought that we could b best friends. but of course many times exs dont stay friends. 8. of course all our friends knew bout this break up and how he had already gotten with someone else and everyone believed that he had cheated on me with her thats y he decided to break up with me so he could date her. at first i didnt agree to wat ppl had to say. cuz i didnt believe that he was that type of person. cuz i would think after the first time he cheated on me he wouldda learned. it wasnt until last weekend when i found out on the girls tweeter that sept 20th was their one month anniversary. so that means that on aug 20th, the day that i went on my trip and the day that we were still together, he had gotten together with his current gf. of course it really made me mad. the next day we chatted. and i pushed myself to tell him "leave me alone" i told him that i never wanna talk to him again. cuz i felt that if i still talk to him i wont b able to move on with my own life. i felt that wenever i talked to him i was still trapped. i wasnt able to escape to find myself. i knew it was the right thing to do. but he wouldnt let me go. he was very disappointed that i was able to just away the 5 years that we were together. he kept telling me to think bout the happy things that we went through. but really...wats the point in thinking back? y turn back to look at the past? y turn back to look at someone who doesnt belong to u anymore? so i gathered up my courage and left. ever since that day that i told him to leave me alone we havent talked since. 9. just cuz we dont talk doesnt mean that drama still doesnt happen. my guy friends and my ex are on this car forum. and one of my friends started a thread asking my ex y is he going out with his friends ex gf. especially when the friend had once defended my ex on the forum. wen everyone on that forum started bashing my ex that friend was the only one that stuck up for my ex. the thread really got heated up. cuz everyone started saying how my ex had broken the "man" rule. which is to never date ur friends ex. my friends began joining the thread so they could defend me and my ex's current gf joined so she could defend herself. the thread made her want to break up with my ex cuz she couldnt take the drama that was going on. i thought it was a stupid reason to wanna break up. cuz right from the beginning that they went out they knew it was wrong. they knew that ppl would b talking behind their backs bout them. they shouldda been prepared. but now this thread is over cuz someone had locked it. and now its the end. i really wanna tell ppl on this forum that its okay to move on. i can understand that its painful to do it. but its sumthing that u NEED to do. uve already read bout my relationship and im sure when u all got to the part where he cheated on me u all were thinking to urself of how stupid i was for not leaving him and continued to let it drag on until now. until now wen he cheated on me again. i dont regret this relationship cuz i learned from it. its the experience that we all encounter thats wat is worth it. right now i am very happy with my life. i feel that its the 1st time in 5 years where im free. i feel that i can finally b myself again. being in a relationship for 5 years has really changed me. looking back i actually feel that i was being held down. i feel that i wasnt who i really am. im sure u all have heard of the phrase "there are many more fishes out in the sea" and its true. just cuz one person wasnt the one, doesnt mean that there arent others out there. i know its easier said than done, but really, its not that difficult. im on the same boat as many as u r and right now i am enjoying my life. i believe that if a past relationship was meant to b then in the end u will b together again. and if a relationship wasnt meant to b, then it wasnt and u move on. i wish the best of luck to those who are trapped and i wish u all to b able to move on like how im doing it right now.
ok... this is a REALLY long story lol... and i'm more than half way through... i hope you've really made your final decision because YOU DO NOT WANT TO HANG AROUND A GUY THAT SCREWS AROUND WITH HIS STEP SISTER!! i know they are not blood related but it's still gross!! if he can't control his urge over his step sister then he's no different to a DOG!! i'm so happy that you are finally out of this mess and i hope you'll never ever see this guy again!!
hhaha pretty long but somehow i like to read all the love stories you guys posted^^ yeee love can really make you blind. my mum keeps tellin me that ~ yet shes still asking me sth like "would you still listen to your mum, if you found a gf one day?" haha ~ but reading from all the love stories here, i think its very hard to be on a relationship (yep... ive never experienced...haha ...) im glad that you are able to leave all the things behind you.... good luck ~
Hey... Such a sad story... I'm glad you're finally out of this mess. He's not even worth a second of your life (anymore). I really respect you for even accept him cheating on you. I would never forgive him. That's why I've always said... Once a relationship is over, the relationship is over... I would NEVER get back into a past relationship. Ex = Ex! But yeahh... I like it to hear you're moving on... even more respect for you! Letting go is really different after 5 years... I really hope you're gonna find a guy of yourself! ...who REALLY deserves your love and who is gonna give you even more love! ^_^ Good luck in life girl!
So glad to see that you've finally move on. Judging by the details that you've gotten into getting over him was no easy task, and it must had hurted...alot I wish you all the best in the future and find someone who you will share many wonderful memories with, (and hopefully get your parents approval^^)
your story is really sad but with a velly good ending and shows how theres hope @ the end of the tunnel for all those people in similar situations as you....... congratulations on moving on..wish you all the best in the future
