so there was this guy that i met in one of my classes. and we started talking to each other one day. he started coming to my lunch period very often. he would always tease me and make fun of me when he was there. and as time passed by, i realized i started liking him. on the last day of school, i told him to wait for me in front of his my classroom and i told him that i liked him. after that, we started hanging out alot, with our other friends. and one day, he asked me out and i said yes. so we started going out for like about a week. and it was summer vacation, and my mom and i were planning to go to taiwan. and more than a week after he asked me out, i had to go to taiwan for about 6 weeks. and when i was in taiwan, i didn't really get to talk to him that much and i guess we just started to grow apart. when i came back from taiwan, he went to hong kong with his family for vacation. after i came back from taiwan, i started thinking alot and i realized that i missed being single and stuff like that. and i'm not even sure if i like him anymore, after we were separated for a little while. i think i should break up with him, but my friends say he still cares about me a lot, and i feel really bad because i think i'll end up hurting him. what am i supposed to do? i feel really bad about this because i really liked him before. and after coming back from taiwan, i felt so distant from him. he's been calling me lately and i don't know what to say to him so i don't pick up and i make up excuses as to why i didn't answer his calls. is it wrong for me to do this? >< i feel awful when i don't pick up his calls, but i don't know what else i'm supposed to do. i don't know how to face him anymore.
i think you should start going out with him again.. hang out with him more often.. perhaps, you may bring back the love. if that doesnt happen, then you just had a case of infatuation at the beginning, and thats it. i think the main reason why many traveling couples break up is due to the fact of being distant... they forget the affection to one another... just my 2 cents..
Guess the best would be to talk to him face to face, telling him that now you feel different and that you would like to continue being his friend and nothing more. Not answering his calls is simply not the issue. It might be hard to tell him that, but you should since you dont want to keep dragging a relationship for a long time which will hurt him and you a lot. 2 probable outcomes will result when you tell him about braking up: 1. He'll be mad and wont talk to you. 2. He'll agree and just act casual and continues being your friend. As Dann suggested, it might be a good idea also to try his approach. Good luck and hope that you will resolve this issue asap.
you should really talk to him and tell him how you feel. there's nothing wrong with wanting to be single. tell him that you just need time apart and want to be single. you might change your mind later on after you get back into the swing of things by yourself but if not you might as well tell him ahead of time so you don't string him along.
well just try hanging out with him for a while more and if the feeling doesn't come back then it was probably infatuation like dann said. but if you really don't like him you should tell him straight out, then he won't always be waiting on you
^^i agree there's nothing wrong with being single (freedom!!) don't force a relationship when there isn't any... don't go out with him cuz you feel bad...cuz i'm sure that's not what he wud want anyway. if you don't feel the same way or you don't like him as much there's no point still hanging in there just cuz ur friends say that he cares about you a lot...i mean a lot of guys might still care about you a lot but that doesn't mean you have to go out with all of them.... hey just try beings friends for a while and make sure he knows that that's how you feel. if that doesn't pan out then call it quits but seriously if you are even doubting whether you like him at all anymore...chances are you might not like him that much anyway...if at all.
wooowww serious shit!!! My response may affect ppl lives!!! Tell him exactly what you said here. If he continues to be your friend then do so...) don;t tell him that doe. u noe something? I feel bad cus I ate a big mac...lots of calories...
Hmmmm..tough situation.... First of all u shouldnt feel guilty because imo u didnt do anything wrong...u can help it that ur feelings for him faded away...! That shit just happens... unfortunately for him.... I think u should be honest towards him though...just tell him u still wanna hang out with him and see if the feelings will come back or not... So....Like the others said...DO talk to him... He can either take it or leave it...not much u can do about it...its really up to him if he wants to take a chance or not... Dodging his calls will only make him feel bad and keep him wondering.... Goodluck!
I think dodging his calls will make him want to contact u more. Just let him noe and I wouldnt talk to him on the phone ALL the time either...it becomes boring..
don't be in a relationship just because you feel sorry/bad for him because the likelihood of that relationship working out is close to 0.
I think its a little irresponsible and selfish on your part, but thats just my opinion. I understand that sometimes you just can't control your feelings. I think you should at least try a little to make it work.
I think it wasn't much of a relationship to start with if you can drift apart only after a couple of months.
So the question is, if the OP knew she was going to Taiwan in a week or so, why would she start relationship with the guy?
i guess...sometimes u cant plan things like that....=/ of course it would be smarter to say...lets wait until we both came back...but sometimes it just doesnt work that way...
try waiting to see how it goes when he comes back and if the flames dont come back to you afterwards then just tell him i want ot be friends again its not working out its not that hard
