What Characteristics Do You Expect Out of Your BF/GF?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by mystery, Apr 18, 2006.

  1. mystery

    mystery Well-Known Member

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    When you are in a relationship, what things do you expect your girl/boyfriend to do or what character will you demand out of her/him? Would you try to change her/him in any way? What will you do or not do?

    Right now, I'm in a relationship and what I expect out of my bf is that he be kind, understanding, and loyal :). I haven't been with him for very long, but so far, so good! At the moment, there isn't anything about him I would like to change. I like him just the way he is -cool but in the future, if I feel like he is taking the wrong path, I will try to encourage him to change. Although I'm silently hoping that that day never comes..lol
     
  2. shy

    shy Well-Known Member

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    Must, must, must provide me with a sense of security. I want to know that he can/will take care of me in the event that I won't be able to do so myself.

    Must have goals/ambitions. We cannot remain stagnant in life... and I'm not about to take on a baby-sitting job.

    Must have respect... he should respect me, my family, and my decisions.

    I wouldn't be proactive in changing anybody, because you can't change anybody unless they themselves want to change. Loving somebody is loving the good parts about them and being able to see past their faults. Of course, if it's a big fault, then you obviously shouldn't look past it.

    But being in a relationship, it's all about compromise. You give a little, you take a little. If he sees that something about him bothers me, then he should try to change that. On the same token, if there is something that he doesn't like about me, I should try to improve myself.
     
  3. lionheart

    lionheart Well-Known Member

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    loyal
    funny
    fun
    kind
    smart
    understanding
    honest
    loving
    caring
    i think that is it!^_^;;
     
  4. KrossX

    KrossX Member

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    be cute
     
  5. peachey

    peachey Well-Known Member

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    UNDERSTANDING is a BIG must! He also has to be considerate of others, and have a good sense of humor. Don't really care much for looks as long as he looks better than William Hung. :p
     
  6. Me89

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    Sense of Humor
    Pretty
    Nice / Kind hearted
    NOT bitchy
    Comforting
    Outgoing
     
  7. swtlilazn4ngel

    swtlilazn4ngel New Member

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    When you are in a relationship, what things do you expect your girl/boyfriend to do or what character will you demand out of her/him? Would you try to change her/him in any way? What will you do or not do?

    when im in a relationship i would expect the boyfriend to have my bak stand up for me i dont care about flowers and candy all i want is a guy that would be there for me when i need a shoulder to cry on
     
  8. yoonlin

    yoonlin Member

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    understanding
    humour
    trust
    romantic
     
  9. mikeyh

    mikeyh Well-Known Member

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    Understanding, Loyal, trust, kind,nice That's all >.<
     
  10. YHL80

    YHL80 Member

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    lol..
     
  11. MSG

    MSG Member

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    Okay, time to start scaring people -devil

    Guys, you have to realize that the girls want as an ideal, tall (6'+ above national average), 6 pack, healthy, confident but not cocky/caring but not clingy/smart but not nerdy, charismatic/funny, tend-to-have-high standards as well type of guy. They worked HARD to get there. Number one, they get more girls courting them and they can easily court other girls if need be. Number two, if you did not meet their standards they can easily depart anytime. This DOES NOT MAKE THEM A PLAYER. A player is a guy who actively persues girls to have sex with them for a while, and then proceeds to dump/cheat on them and move on to the next target (or rather victim -lol).

    Anyway, in response to this thread, I expect my girl to excercise and eat healthy. Guys who have 6 packs (i.e. ME! lmao ok, I'm not this cocky in real life.. HONEST! -innocent2) have at least 10% and lower body fat, and have a very special diet, and/or excercise program to keep in shape. If they can't cook for the guy, that is NOT a big deal actually because guys who stay fit or have lean muscles tend to learn to cook or themselves. I certainly have... Sometimes I prefer to do the cooking.

    No stupid games and tests to get reactions. I hate those.

    Enjoys sex (this applies to the older crowd).

    Oh, and one other important message: Girls NEVER know what they want! Sigmund Freud was right... They just want what they cannot have... once they have that, they no longer want it, which goes to explain why the everchanging "bad boys" are generally more attractive to girls. Remember this guys remember it, remember it. This will make so much sense as you get older.
     
  12. mishi

    mishi Member

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    some characteristics that i would look for in a guy is that he can respect my descisons and like me for me..he has to be willing to stay with me when im down or when i need him for whatever reason. he also has to have a goal in life, not just be like all fun and games and not care about the future...lol buh not tooo serious cause then it's just so bLah! =P must importantly..he has to be hottttt and not so cocky && haha 6 pack! =P
     
  13. karenee

    karenee Member

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    I only expect my bf to not have expectations of me. You aren't suppose to find someone and mould them into what u want. They are suppose to be everything or most of what you want!
     
  14. Giniro

    Giniro Well-Known Member

    Trustful
    understanding
    loyal
    kind hearted
     
  15. rdm

    rdm Well-Known Member

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    agree with most other ppl and non-TB (teeny bopper)
     
  16. 3ric_luver07

    3ric_luver07 Member

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    funny
    good sence of humor
    luv me (of course)
    respect my family
    hab money
    romantic
    cute
    strong
     
  17. aljab123

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    i donno what i want, but i know what i don't want
    not a snob, fake, insecure, dumb, a cheat, unattractive...
    that's bout it, anything else i can accept
     
  18. osci666

    osci666 Member

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    kind
    loyal
    horny
     
  19. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    U mean he must have money to take care of u???
     
  20. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    -cool OMFG.

    All the girls describe part of me !!!!