This question came to me from a gay colleague who has been hitting on me left and right since I started working here. Anyway, he's a cool guy but I always keep my distance. So yeah, back to the question .. sex is not everything but we all have our own needs and if it's not reached, what should you do? Some will probably say that if you love one another, nothing else matters ... blah, blah, blah .. whatever.
hahahahahaha I read the title and was wondering is this a joke? LOL Well it depends on how you rank sex in your life. If you seem to put sex as a high priority in a relationship then your relationship is basically screwed and that will eventually leads to a break up I guess. Then there's some who doesn't even care about sex in a relationship and basically live there life happily without having sex at all. But for me I guess I'll talk with my partner about it and maybe consult a professional about it LOL no need to break up for over this matter. I might not have rank sex as top priority but I still want my sex >=[ LOL
imagine someone else when you have sex? just done yell out their name =x lol we were discussing this in economics class
If you are not satisfied. dont settle. If you love the person, try and make it better by talking and trying new things. if nothing works, you will recent the person later. so its better to get out.
Tell your partner what you like and what you want and I am sure you can both sort something out but be subtle and nice as you dont want to give the impression "your crap in bed". Sex is after all experimentation so try new things, places and even roleplay is good.
exactly, communication is important and if you have fantasies, go and share with your partner and you never know, it might open up new doors for you both
I myself have been in that situation, I like lingerie and sometimes a woman that really takes control (as in dirty hehe) but my wife is very gentle and romantic so we chatted one day while cooking and I didn't make a big deal out of it. So it ended up us both doing some lingerie shopping and now when she gets in the mood it's on with the lingerie and she unleashes the beast in her. I've made myself "happy" now.... lol
Communication is key but what if your partner don't wanna do it. I think it's easier for people who are in a relationship. It's a different story for those who are married ... lol. I feel sad for those people ... lol Asian gal/guy are rather conservative when it comes to the subject of "sex". If you one asks, the other will act up.
^ very funny .. lol I agree with people's suggestion about communication like my earlier post but it's important that both have the compatibility for one another; meaning that my gf/wife or I will go along with me/her if I/she expresses certain wishes kinda thing. Such trust usually build up over time and that's the different between the typical "sex" from "making love". Of course, priority can kick in (some don't care about sex) but one can't deny the physical intimacy between the couple is a whole new level of experience. Bottom line is that the sexual satisfaction is a mental thing. You can say it's not the most important thing to you or whatever but the yearning will always be there and more over time if you're not getting it. This is just human nature. Ok .. no clue what i am typing anymore .. this lunch food is killing me here....
If they have a low sex drive and you need sex it's something you must discuss, a relationship is about compromise and sacrifice. You need it and she doesnt but it doesnt mean she shouldn't let you have sex with her but at the same time you shouldn't harass her.
I guess it is a balance, totally not satisfied well is frustrating but not necessary to keep insisting on being fully satisfied either. But communication do work really well if the relationship is pretty stable.
