What would yooh do if yur GF/BF talk to their EX'S?!

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by bebe27, Feb 10, 2007.

  1. bebe27

    bebe27 Active Member

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    hmmm im in this kind of situation... so please leave LOTS of cooments for me!;)
     
  2. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member


    dangerous and bad situation to be in.

    Does the Ex wan to get back? is ur bf/gf a recycle type? What are they talking about? Are u having trouble with ur bf/gf?

    Do you have faith wit in ur partner?

    will need more info cause ur question is too general. Are u referring to a bf or gf?
     
  3. skid

    skid Well-Known Member

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    it really depends, if the ex is just talking as friends then yeah thats ok. but if i know the ex still has feelings or whatever i would really talk to my partner about it. haven't been put in this situation before so can't really offer good advice
     
  4. ch1v4s

    ch1v4s Member

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    I agreed with SKID.

    jealousy is part of relationship, but if you jealous without reason, it can destroy your relationship also.

    Just think positive....get involve in their conversation and try to treat the ex as friend.

    Trust is important in a relationship.....
     
  5. bebe27

    bebe27 Active Member

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    umm well the guy still likes me a lot n stuff but then i dont have any feelings for him.. I dun wanna be so mean and ignore the guy tho but my current bf is like all pissed off n stuff... cuz he hates him a lot.. but i cant just ignore the guy.. thats too mean.. i dont know what to do.. also the guy always wants to start shiet with my bf!! what should i doooooo?!
     
  6. SugaCutie0

    SugaCutie0 Well-Known Member

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    Um, that is a problem. If I were in your situation, and your ex is disrespecting your bf, I'd put my foot down. Set limits, you cant really change the fact that your ex dislikes your current bf, but in no way should he be trying to start trouble. In my opinion, that is. You don't have to be mean about it, just be open and honest to him (your ex) about the situation.
     
  7. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    OKay, I see the situation better now, but not 100 %.

    Firstly, u have to let ur current bf know that he is not going to lose u. (A very subtle hint to him is when yáll are together give him a light kiss on the face whilst the other guy ain't lookin (but don't rub it in to the ex and do it in front of his face)

    Secondly, if ur are talking to him secretly, then it is a no-no (like on the phone). Current bf finds out, then it will be over. If he calls, then try to talk to him another time (see him with current bf) by telling him some family friend is on the line.

    Thirdly, u have to understand that if ur ex wants trouble, he will have trouble. I'm sure ur bf will fight for u IF he knows that the ex is causing trouble for u. U have let ur bf know that, or he might think u like ur ex and let u go b/c he wants u to be happy.

    Fourthly, ur ex must understand that the relationship is over. OVER!! Meng. U ain;t worth trouble etc., nicer chicks in the world, etc.

    Now that I gave my opinion, is it b/c u ditch the ex for this bf? I can see why he fighting for u.

    ROFLMAO
     
  8. chabunky2000

    chabunky2000 Well-Known Member

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    Act normal first, and start to take action if thing goes out of hand.
     
  9. skid

    skid Well-Known Member

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    nah take action now before things go out of hand. you would rather be pro-active about the situation, just tell your ex to move on, intro him to some of your friends or something. just curious, how long has it been since you left your ex and how long have you been with your current bf for? seriously i reckon if you ignore him after a while he'll just give up and move on. if you keep giving him attention then he'll be persistent which can mean trouble.
     
  10. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    Another way to do it is to tell ur bf and ur bf friends

    Then go beat the shittte out of him for bothering u.

    Afterall , u guys broke up and he must have done something wrong. Give him the beats, he deserved it/ LOL

    Either that, leave the girlfriend stealling prick, and go back to the ex and have his friends beat the crap out of the gf stealer.

    u have to do somethin, meng. Don't waste time doing nothin. Solve the problem now,!!!! Fast
     
  11. ritchie_lew

    ritchie_lew Member

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    i would say..if u like ur bf/gf...then jus b true to ur ex..although it will hurt him/her...still tat is the right solution...if he still bugging u..then jus ignore him/her
     
  12. ab289

    ab289 Well-Known Member

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    there's a Chinese saying, in direct translation it'll be, it's pointless to keep the person if you can't keep the heart. so, he/she can talk ... as long as you have the heart.
     
  13. melroseddl1

    melroseddl1 Well-Known Member

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    Tell ur BF that there is nothing to get worry about cuz u love him. thell ur ex to back off or u won't be friends with him anymore. If ur ex can't then just stop being frineds with him, cuz obviously he cares nothing about ur friendship if he always wants to put u in the middle of ur bf and him.
     
  14. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    Give him the beats!!!
     
  15. heartcollector

    heartcollector Well-Known Member

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    There's no better way to get your point across than with a swift kick to the balls. Kick it in nice and deep. Works every time too.
     
  16. stylin2abyss

    stylin2abyss Member

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    ehhhh... u never no how the ex is gonan behave -_- wether he still has feelings or wut not.. drop him!
     
  17. ipepsi

    ipepsi Well-Known Member

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    smack that...
     
  18. scottiewolfe

    scottiewolfe Well-Known Member

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    I've been in this situation more times than i can count. On one occaision my gf actually cheated on me with her ex.

    It all depends on how much you trust your gf/bf i guess. Talk with them, tell them you aren't comfortable with the idea. See what they say. If they insist that their ex is simply a friend and they want to talk to them, respect their wishes. Obviously, if it gets to a point where the ex is seen more than you, draw the line.
     
  19. i would say... dont be jealous :p what do you wanna do id your GF wants her ex back? you cant really do anything about it..
    and if her ex wants her back.. well.. bad for him shes already taken XD
     
  20. Aznmask

    Aznmask Well-Known Member

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    girl hate his bf taht don't trust them if they talk to their EX mean they going back together. I mean u should treat your gf's ex like her regular friend. First of all Ex-boyfriend = Past boyfriend. YOu are the present boyfriend so dont jealous if she talk to her EX.

    ** Notice **girl also like to see how you react if she talk to their EX, they are testing you see how you react.