...if you grew really close to someone over a short period of time, say a week or two, and for the month to a few months after the friendship grew to almost-sibling kind of friendship. but because of distance and other factors you just stop talking to that person and only see them once in a long while. it seems when i first tried to talk to that person after that first period of no contact, that person had seemed to forget our friendship altogether or that period when we really got to know each other. but recently, that person has been saying "hi" and i suppose i want to talk to him but i really don't know what he's thinking? if we're friends, acquaintances or what? (in addition, when i tried to talk to him before, i felt like i had nothing to say except ask the polite questions "how are you?", etc etc but at the same time i wish i was good friends with him again) and no, i don't like him.
I know what you mean. It's the kind of feeling you get when sth is lost or just isn't the same anymore. Nostalgia feeling Neway, I'd say if the person starts talking to u; just take it easy and let it develop naturally. I mean, just enjoy the friendship without worrying over it. If it's meant that the two of you should become close again; then all the better; but if it's just not as close as b4; at least u got nothing to lose and still gain a friendship, although a not-so-close one.
It has happened to me already. People change over time and personalities change a bit also. Just remain as friends and chat once in awhile.
I kinda know how that feels like, hm, I guess when it comes to that kind of situation, I just try to "jump" into a conversation, instead of being in the "shy"/"so..how are you..?"phase.. even if I may end up sounding abit silly lol just to break the ice.. and usually it works, I act as if no time has past since I last spoke to the person.. That can be hard though, because people do change and no matter how bad you want things to go back to how it was before, it doesnt matter..
Best would be to act casual and continue the friendship. Also, its important never to second guess what the other one is thinking cuz many times, we end up being wrong and poof, there goes a friendship that was worth it.
well just say hi than just start talking and if u like talking to him/her than talk again if u have the chance
it happens to me all the time. some people are just not worth my time talking to. but if you really like talking to the guy, maybe you can make conversation about topics you guys have in common, like maybe the same interests, or about people you both dislike, or sth like that...that should start the ball rolling
Lolz, I guess it is a really common thing thats why everyone has experienced at least once...which includes me...I don't really talk to that friend of mine though we used to be really good friends....Well though i don't feel really sad now but i was before...If that friend of yours is one to keep then start forming the connection again, you've done that once so i am sure u cud do it again....-bigclap
but what if there has already been one time where you were talking but it got to this awkward point where you could have talked about anything to fill the silence but didn't want to talk about shallow things like the movies or weather and felt like running away as fast as possible?
maybe he liked you and didn't quite know how to react, but the distance helps so now he's over it and wants to be friends again
why would you feel like running away? because it's awkward? Well, there is this saying that the best friends are those you can sit on a swing with and not say a word, but still enjoy the silence. Well, something along those lines...I can't remember exactly
"True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable." Lol, i just quoted this in another thread... "Awkward silence"
Nah, honey don worry bout it...persistence...Now, now when ur talking to a fren nothing is shallow, you'll be amazed of the crap me and ma frens talk about.So, don worry bout it and don give up and runaway...If you really want him as a fren, i say keep goin but don freak him out by txting him 24-7 lolz.....-bigclap Gambate...
No doubt that some friendships take a certain level of 'adjustment' period after not talking to each other for so long. That's why you need to catch up. And also, don't freak out if you feel the friendship is not as close as before. Time can change everything; be it for the better or worse.
It all boils down to...is he really worth the effort talking to, and does he respond to you the way you want him to...otherwise, move on...not being harsh, just hope it helps...
^no, that makes perfect sense. i think it was my worrying that kind of kept me from talking more with him but lately i've been thinking about it and now that i don't care as much (in the sense that i don't wish as badly as before to be his friend) i find that i view him in a different way. it really helps not to worry about what he's thinking. and you're right; maybe i was grabbing on to the past and not wanting to let go. who knows? i still don't know. he seems friendly but i seem to be the one who stops anything from progressing.
