She used to be on my mind all the time, I would try to get her attention and tried to talk to her two years ago. However, she was not interested in me to start off with yet she kept on talk to me like she likes me. Then I found out she got a man and she told her friends that she was not interested in fat guys. (I was 194lbs and 5'7) .Not directly to me, but I got the hint. I was crushed and hurt and vowed never like another girl again. Now, I've been busting my ass off in the gym, working out and trying to get in shape because I just wanted to be stronger. Now I'm 148 lbs and when she saw the new me she want to date me cuz she's been single for a year now. I could never forget the embarrassment and the anger that she had caused me. But there's a part of me that wants to be with her, because I'd get lonely sometimes. But I hate girls that are judgemental and they only go for the guys who have nice cars, look nice and all that. Not going for guys who are smart and that are nice to them and not abuse them. It's really hard for me to find a girl here because most of them are taken or got kids, but I don't think I want to jump on this train either. >_< I hate the feeling of being lonely or seeing my friends start talking about their girlfriends, boyfriends, etc. and it just pisses me off so much. ok rant over. -_-
I don't think there's anything wrong in a girl wanting to find a guy who looks good. After all, guys do that all the time. You shouldn't judge her based on that. It's human nature to want to find a physically attractive person as their partner. Besides, being overweight is something you can control, if you want to. So at least she didn't tell her friends that she doesn't like ugly guys. If you still like her, go for it... -^_^
I say date her, keep things non-exclusive (so both of you are allowed to date others as well). That way you won't be lonely, but aren't stuck with her in anyway. Use this time to date other girls too as that's the whole idea. A girl wants someone that's attractive to them. Part of that formula is physical attraction. Would you want to date someone that's 350lb and looks like a train wreck? If not, than you hold some value to physical appearance as well... so don't hold the girl to a double standard. You should take pride that you start to take care of yourself and can attract girls that didn't find you attractive before! That's not an easy task by any means! GL
well like baby said you can't blame her,even tho looks aren't everything. i probly wouldn't hook upwith a fat girl maybe a woman whos a lil out of shape sure. but not fat,but if she got fat after we was togather i'd stay with her,because i got to know her and care about her. if you want her you should go get her if not keep looking
Hmm.. I'm still in training of my extreme workout right now, so currently I'm not too much in a rush yet. I want to concentrate to reach to my goal by the end of this month and then worry about it afterwards. I don't want any type of drama or other events interfering yet, not till next month lol.
Congratulations on your effort! She might not have found you attractive back then, but maybe now that she's single, she's opened up her heart to accept someone else? Sometimes physical attraction is inevitable, and something that everyone has at the back of their minds no matter how they deny it. My take is, if you really like her, why not?
This is the first time I've heard this excuse in not being able to find a girlfriend. Where do you live that the population of single girls are so minimal that you can only hit on 'attached' girls? Anyway, like others have said -- you can't really hate her for NOT liking fat/ugly guys. If you were in her situation, I can only assume that you wouldn't want to go for someone that's fat/ugly when you have the choice of being with someone who's more physically attractive. And hey, it's in the PAST that she rejected you because you were fat. You've changed and she likes the "new" you, why not give it a shot? The reason you worked out and lost all the fat is because you want a girlfriend, right? It's ridiculous not to be with her simply because of how she rejected your physical features before (who could blame her?).
you're right, well... I currently live on a small island. 30 minutes from one side of the island to the other. and mostly tourists and old people are around here.
theres loads more fish in the sea - quote: the streets - dry your eyes song... go for another girl...
If the "feel" is right, just go for it instead of thinking about the past. Past is past, future is yet to be determined. -^_^
Or you can be evil and play around with her then ditch her before she ditch you...but this can backfire big time.... My advice: Don't go for that one, high chance she'll ditch you again
fucken shallow women, we guys never objectify the female race to such a degree. We see them entirely for their personalities and strength of character.
Dude, y you still all over this girl? Just kick her to the curb and find another one. There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Come on playa!
