This is about FRIENDSHIP not love... but yea... i have a really good friend (female) who i met . Then for about the last 6 months we've been talking so much on msn and smsing like every single day... talkingn about our days and why we're happy or not etc etc... but suddenly she starts drifting off... for e.g.. she takes longer to reply on msn, doesn't reply to my sms's(maybe occasionally) and when she texts or msns... i can feel that she writes in a less... 'excited' way than b4 as if i'm like just.. a very normal friend... i don't know... but it really hurts my heart. I want to talk to her about it and ask if i've done anything wrong but i'm afraid if i do i might even lose this 'normal friend' relationship...has any1 experienced anything similar? what should i do....
r u a guy or a girl?? ppl drift off for different reasons... she mite feel uncomfortable with u if u were a guy coz she mite get some signals that u like her... or her bf mite not want her to b so close to another guy... or she mite b someone that needs lots of personal space... i hardly talk to my best fd on msn n we don't txt very often either... but we know we love each other n she knows i'm the sort of person that needs LOTS of space... or maybe she's just really busy lately...
maybe she is just bored of electronic msging. it happens to me as well, i just get lazy. also, after a while you run out of things to talk about lol
Your reaction seems like you like her lol xD Talking less, she could be busy you know, some things happen lol
maybe...she's scared of the closeness between u and her...cos it mite lead to u2 having a relationship... maybe she just wana stay friends...so she backing off a bit..
lol, she might think u like her and she doesnt want you to get hurt so she stop communicating with you
yea phoenix girl and phil... thats exactly what i was thinking... what should i do? talk to her about it like say i just wanna be good friends and nothing more? coz if i do it might be a bit awkward afterwards if i got her wrong... or just leave it the way it is... Do you thnik i should ask her what the reason is? =S
lol i would say shes confused, maybe u should wait a little while (only a little while ) then see if it gets better , or maybe she was just busy at the time
yeah i had a friend like this too.... we talked and saw each other like 5 days in a row, and we hung out and stuff but she also started drifting off i think it was because we were just getting close and i guess she didn't want anything to get any further than friendship so she talked to me less...
Happens to all relationships. The only reason why you are noticing the fact that she is drifting off is because you have feelings for her. Think about it, I bet you had friends who you used to talk to everyday..but then suddenly one day, you both just stopped. You didn't notice because you didn't have feelings for them.
I don't think it would be beneficial to talk to her about it. I had a similar experience before and it ended very badly. We talked so much about intimate things (of course it's easier to expose your true self on the computer than face-to-face) and we just exhausted it. We got as close as we could without actually meeting each other. If this is a long distance friendship, definitely don't try to make it anything more; it won't work. And once you take the net step, you can't go back. My advice is don't talk to her as much yourself. Maybe I'm just bitter from past experiences, but it seems to me that women want intimacy but then can't handle it when they get it.
it could just be a one off thing....so just see how things go for now... and if she's still being distant towards you... try talking to her about it... maybe ur friendship mite be affected by it but at least you will get closure...and not worry about it and blame yourself...
Best thing to do is send her email asking why are you ignoring me, and say you just want to be really good friends. Or something like that, if she's afraid of getting close to you for the liking reason, you cleared it up with that email, or if she says she's been busy, then you can just pretend nothing has happened and continue on.
lol if u think she doesnt like u, tell her u dont have feelings for her, lol so she cant tell u , so it can save you from feeling fish
dude dont worry about... its not lke she doesnt want to still be friends.. its just that maybe she ran out of the excitement and all that that you guys had before its no biggy but like if shes ignoring you and stuff its a totally different story if she is just talk to her about face to face, to see whats up
yeah you arent interesting enough for her anymore.. so she goes to look for someone else it is about time you do the same
