This is the first time i've ever posted something like this on the net, im not sure why im doing this, but hopefully i will feel better afterwards. About 6 hours ago i got a text message from my girlfriend 'I think we shud stop seein each oda....' after reading the text to myself over and over I got the courage to ask her'why?' and to my amazement she told me she had no feelings for me. And that being with me it has caused her more pain than happiness, she couldnt describe why but some how i can feel it, I didnt realise it before i knew there was something wrong with her, but i could never put my finger on it. But today i did, it was me.....i have been causing her so much discomfort. I dont know how or why i caused so much badness to the person i love. There has been many problems between us over the years, ranging from parental issues, ex-partners coming back to haunt us. But we managed to get over it. I am not an ideal boyfriend, not even close, but i tried....i really did. But i guess for her its not enough, i know very well that she needs secruity in her life and this i can not seem to give her. Im 24 this year, and over the last 8-10months i have been seriously thinking about the future, mainly settling down with a family with her. . I wanted to graduate this years to get a decent job, then when the time is right, provide her with the security that she wants, to care for her, to love her. But this dream has drifted so far from me....Parts of me wished that i never left for university, then i would have stayed in my hometown there i can see her more often, then again if i never came to Sheffield i would have never got together with her. It funny how one thinks back to the past, wishing you can change things, but then the outcome wont be what you want. In the last hour i can say i have never felt so empty, my heart is in so much pain. I never did really understood love. I knew its emotion and a feel you have towards someone. I see and hear my friends how they are in love and how happy they are. But why when i love someone my heart aches so much. I know she now can concetrate on her work and have more time to herself. I am happy for her, but at the same time it feels like i lost something. Right now, i really dont know how to be around her. I know time will heal the wounds, but you cannot fully recover from anything like this, can you? Or is this true love? I do not know. At this moment in time, I feel lonely. Since its like 2am here theres no one to talk to, hence im am ranting on here. Thanks for listening to me blabing on about my problems.
All gravy bro ... life will go on =). I think its important to let by gones be bygones...and just live your life now. Though i've never been in your shoes, i can seriously say that you are brave to type it up man. Hopefully you feel better man, i think the best way it to not think about it so much..and just live your life. Best of luck bro. peace out
i totally understand how you feel right now, coz i've encountered the similar problem 4 years ago. only those that really love each other can feel what real heartbreak is. you can really feel the pain in it. anyway, after awhile i've let her go as well, tell yourself this, to truly love someone, you'll always want her to be happy. let her know, although you'll miss her, but will always support her decision coz u want her to be happy, therefore wish her luck and you yourself must let it go, convince yourself, its for her happiness, so you've done something good. life is full of trials, when you fall down, climb back up yourself, and get on with it, one day u will reach your destination.
wow, ur situation sound so much like mines. However, my problem turned out in a different way. My gf finally make up her mind and got back with me. Hope u will feel better soon
Hope that time will mend your pain. Whats past is past, now you gotta focus on how to become a better man.
it's sad reading it and i understand your feeling. i do hope time will heal your pain ... and yeah, all the best to you!
its sad just from reading ur post...but i really dunt understand...not mainly because im young...its just that love is never a thing for me...maybe i havent found the rite guy....but all i can say is...even if u feel life is worthless...in the end...ull finally over come it...isnt this part of life? hope u feel it through.....
Awwww...dave...i feel so sorry for u and i really hope u are okay.... hmmm...what to say about this.... interesting to read this because i was sort of in the sam situation but i was on the other side...meaning my ex bf was never able to give me the "security" feeling the whole security thing is a bit of a problem for lots of couples when their in their early/mid 20's i reckon its because of the fact that most of the women just grow up faster and are more mature but men sort of need more time for that.... its good that u realize ur mistakes and i guess u will lear from it...and maybe its not too late and u guys can still be together...when u have sorted everything out for yourself? wish u all the best dave!!
yeah....... i have had the same exact situation, happen to me..... and i really was head over heels for this girl but unfortunatly I did some things i am not proud of that really took its toll in the end but i was trying so hard in the last few months and thinking towards the future with her but it didnt happen and she broke up with for the security aspect as well and we fought more than normal... and at first it does feel horrible and lonely and you just wish you could just hold someone but at the same time you know you can't i had such strong emotions that my heart itself really started to give me sharp acute pains.... like moving my left upper body hurt and luckily it hasn't happen for awhile now but whenever i am pushed into the same situations sometimes my heart gets these pains, its pretty bad -.-;; But dave keep your head up! time will pass and the feeling of needing her will pass and you will eventually talk like friends again, it took me months to get over this girl but now im single and living life without having to please anyone but myself. Stay strong, and also i find it a lot easier if you can write down in text everything you feel onto paper or in a notepad on the computer and save it. It gets the problems out of you and off your chest. This is where friends are critical! Good Luck with the situation but i know you will be back to normal very soon!
it really sucks when a relationship ends but things happen for a reason. this experience will help you in your future relationships. there is someone for everyone in this world and you may not have met her yet or maybe she is right in front of your face. you are 24 and so you are still young. focus on YOUR future. finish school and start your career dont let this failed relationship set you back. take the memories with you and move on. if she doesnt have anymore feelings for you then chances are she wont be getting back together with you. dont dwell on this. i had an ex that didnt want to let go after we had broken up and it turned into a really ugly situation. you'll be upset for a bit and then you'll pick yourself up..... good luck and spend the weekend getting drunk that always helps!
Yeah giving yourself time will help u to heal however this relationship will always be in your heart as feelings like this will never fully disappear. take this time to figure out if this is the girl u really wanna be with and if so you could take her points on board and give her more securtiy. But if it turns out you don't see her as the girl who you will live the rest of your life with then this can be a valuable lesson learnt for future relationships.....
man i am in the same situation, my relationship of 3years just end like a week ago, i still can't get over it. life feels so empty. but you just have to move on slowly keep yourself busy and chill with friends. just try to look at the brighter side of life. wish u the best of luck.
thats prob bcos u've never actually properly loved someone. love for a person kind of develops over time and it is normally hard to recover after a long relationship. but everybody deals with it sometime and u just slowly move on. good luck dave! just focus on work for the time being. helps to ease the pain if ur mind is upon something else.
if u love her, let her go...if she comes back, she's yours...if she doesnt, she never was... i know how hard it is...but dont let your life stop just because of her, even if she meant/ means so much to you...i mean its not like u never tried, u tried your best...if it's just not good enough for her...its not your fault...she just doesnt know to appreciate it... hope u'll get better soon and take your time to go through the whole process...
Damn... I cant say I really understand how you feel, because I was on the otherside once and my relationship never went as deep as yours did. But yea it's hard for both people I reckon.. I mean I felt like a total dick when I told my ex... funny ain't it.. how a heart can be empty yet feel so heavy
love love love love, dam...bro. love is boring. there's more to life than love, u kno? Relationships, love and girls isnt everything. go search and find the light. u and i both kno tat this isnt wat u really want. so go out there and find wat u REALLY want.........
hey, i know no amount of advice can make you feel better. And your problems make mine seem like nothing too. I feel for ya, be strong. When the time passes though and u look back at it, u'll be happy you went through that. Hey, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger right? you'll grow with that experience, take my word for it - you know its true cause uve probably been there before. Best of luck!
