Okay, so I'm not sure if "player" would be the best word to use in this situation, but anyway, how safe do you think it is to get with either a really hot and popular guy or a really attractive and popular girl? Let's just say that he or she has expressed his/her feelings towards you, what do you think are the chances of them really meaning it? And if they do mean it, would you get with them considering all the risk factors that may follow (i.e. girls/guys flirting around w/ them all the time)? Ehhh...I'm having some difficullty answering this question myself, so I've decided to hear everyone's opinion first...
Based on your description of "player" (someone hot/attractive): Personally, for myself, I don't think I could someone "hot"... because then I would always feel second to him and intimidated by his hotness... and I would always have to change/upgrade my look so that I don't "embarass" him in front of other people.
Safe? By 'safe', do you mean not get hurt? With every relationship that doesn't work out, you'll get hurt, whether its with a 'good guy' or a player. If you don't take chances, how will you ever know if he meant it or not? There's no point in sitting around pondering the what-ifs. By the time you're done with the analysis, the ship would have already sailed. Take every relationship that doesn't work out as a learning experience. One of the best relationships that I've had was with a 'player.' He was popular with the girls and was flirtatious. A lot of girls wanted to get with him as he had the rep of being pretty good at pleasing girls. Anyway, I liked our relationship...I wasn't smothered by him, nor was I neglected by him. When I was with him, he made me feel like I was the only one in the world. As humans, we are naturally attracted to those who are charismatic and popular...that's why they're popular, and for them to be liked by so many people, there must be something decent about them other than their good looks. In order for the relationship to work out, it really depends on how you take the relationship. If you go into it with a pessimistic outlook, then it'll most likely not be an enjoyable relationship. Players can be serious too. With all relationships, I think you should have enough confidence in yourself. How you present yourself plays a big role in how long he stays interested in you, so keep that in mind BTW, I like your avatar...*wink*
*laff* Therein lies the problem. You can't. You would never be able to tell if a guy is playing you or if he is genuinely interested, especially if the guy is good at the game. Guys know exactly what to say to girls to get the girls to feel a certain way. The only thing you can do is to get to know the guy better...and from there, you can tell whether or not he has ulterior motives. This does not rule out the possibility of a guy starting out with intentions to play you and then genuinely falls for you later on when he gets to know you better...
eh unless there was like two really hot girls who was interested in me at the same time, I really see no point in bein a 'player.' Like shy said, I kinda like quality over quantity as well.
*ahem* BUSTED! The fact that you said 'unless' proves that you are a player (provided that you have the necessities). Players are liked by almost all girls...that includes the ugly and doesn't rule out the hot. Don't forget it was you who told me that it was 'okay' to want the whole bakery...
hahahha you have learned well young grasshoppa... well what I ment was, guys should not go around messin with other girls emotions and even try to make girls who their not interested in think they are... if ya got some1, there's no point in messin around wit the other girls. However.. *ahem* say ya not with some1 and there are a few.. hot candidates... then I think you can be greedy... thus screw the bakery, I'm takin the whole fukin Chocolate Factory.
'young grasshoppa'? ahahah...who said I was young? For all you know, I could be some nasty, scrawny, 60 year old virgin, pedophile, homoerotic male trying to pass off as a girl on the internet. *laff* In regards to your comment, well, even if you're not attached, and you mess around with a lot of girls, you'd still be what I'd consider a player.
i refer to everyone young grasshoppa, and if ya 60 ya must be young at heart and the freakin beware of online predators commercial was playin awhile ago how crazy is that... -lol.
I hate guys that send mixed signals. At first they say nice things to you, but after you fall for them they treat you like crap. My friend was in this situation. her bf treated her well when they were dating, but once they were officially together, he ditched her for another girl. <_< I would never date a player.
hey... i'm not just decent, i'm a champ... why can't i have a girl whos gonna make me laugh, listen to my problems, cheer me up, snowboard, play basketball, do the splits, somersaults in the air, karate chop a tree, backflips off a bed, and watch porn with me
Who said you couldn't have a girl? I don't recall saying you couldn't get a girl....in fact, I have a friend who's a gymnist. She's also a black belt in Tae Kwon Do and she can do the splits, summersalts, karate chop, and all those other above things you mentioned in your dream girl. I could hook you up! But you have to let me be a part of the 3some...or else I'll get angry. And you don't want me to get angry...
Yes, by 'safe' I meant not get hurt. Sorry for not being clear enough. Anyway what you said made a lot of sense. The thing is I've been seeing this guy (for about 1 week) and he's very popular among the girls in my school. And well, let's just say I'm not exactly the type of girl that most 'hot' guys would go for, so I'm not sure if he is just playing around with my feelings or if he really likes me. Any advice? You like my avatar? hehe I like your signature! who is he?
If you guys are already dating, what makes you think he doesn't like you??? Like I said in my previous post, players can be serious too. But since you aren't very far into the relationship, my advice would be that you not become too attached. If for whatever reason, it turns out that he really was playing you, at least then you wouldn't be as hurt. Don't wear your heart on your sleeves...be nice and be loving, but until you know that he loves you in return, don't risk yourself. Take preventive measures...that is my theme for tonight. *laff* In reference to the guy in my signature...that would be Daniel Henney, Korea's current hearthrob. *laff* He's appeared in 1-2 Kdrama's. Here's a bigger pic for your viewing pleasure: http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b388/401/00f5c33c.jpg
hahahah well with her somersaulting in the air, and you doin I dunno what... I doubt I'd be able to walk out of that 3some alive...
Thank you, shy! You don't know how much a little piece of advice means to me! What you said maeks a lot of sense thanks... ps: Thanks for the picture! He's korean? Hmm he looks mixed. Anyway, he is very good-looking!
