something is holding him back

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by smallrinilady, Jan 28, 2007.

  1. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    i'm 22, the brother is 23 the guy is 19
    we have a three year age difference
    there is also the issue he might be thinking, "she's my brother's really close friend"

    and also think about, would you want to date someone within your group of friends,
    now mix that a bit, do you want someone in your group of friends dating another friend within that group (that can cause trouble later on if things go bad)
    now then think, do you want someone within your circle of friends dating your younger brother (the person you need to take care of?)
    no matter if you trust them or not, anything can always arise

    right?

    so i kinda do understand why the brother is acting the way he is
    but doen'st mean i like it . . .
     
  2. oh my god.. youre 22 and hes 19?

    im jealous... LOL
     
  3. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    i dont know how to react to that

    it's interesting
    i always thought i would go for a guy that was older than me
    more mature than me

    i'm a little strange
    those silly girls, who act younger than they are
    but know how to act there age when nessary, like at work

    i act like a kid, but i know how to be professional i should say

    so some of my ex's say things like "act your age" or make comments to show they dont like me acting like a child sometimes

    anyways, like i said he's been refreshing,
    i can act as cute and young as i want with him
    and he also has this young, (non stiff) personality which well, makes me not feel so confined that i am acting to childish

    although i have had a few incidences that he even told me to act my age
    LOL

    but my personality, the youngness, makes people realize how much i love children
    i love playing with themmmm!!!!!!!!
    and apparently this guy loves kids too
    such an attractive trait of his
     
  4. well I know one thing.. bout 80% of the guys on "can I say no to a little kid?" thread would not be right for you... -lol

    ok if you don't want to risk it.. you can do nothing and stay as friends... I don't see the whole close friend thing as being something to be concerned about..

    maybe it's because u act too childish?? at first I thought you being older you'd be more mature around him...

    so now we have a guy thinking.. oh she's older than me.. but acts much younger...?? Maybe he expects u to be more mature..??

    But who freakin' knows what's goin on inside that guys head.. if he doesn't flirt with u much.. he's probably just not interested.. hell maybe he gets his brother to act an ass just so he can avoid you..

    I dunno.. lotta possibilities... what exactly are you planning to do??
     
  5. Edina

    Edina Well-Known Member

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    Hmmm...don't get me wrong, but if I have a really close friend and he/she is really

    in love or interested in my brother that wouldn't be a problem. Cause I love all my

    "close" friends otherwise they wouldn't be my "close" friends and for sure I love

    every single member of my family...do you know what I want to say? Why couldn't

    these 2 ppl I like/love are happy together? And if the older Brother knows what's

    going on between you and his brother, why doesn't he say anything to you, his

    close friend? Is it better for him to see his brother AND his friend sad? Does

    anybody understand me *g*-unsure

    Hmmm....sure I know what YOU mean with this circle of friends thing,

    but I (personally) don't see a problem in that.
     
  6. you are no different from my friend. and my friend's worked out great.
     
  7. Edina

    Edina Well-Known Member

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    But this problem I also know very well, my bf says that all the time to me ^_^

    He is the totally opposite of me.

    And I'm 2 years older than you...hmmm...maybe I should grow up..pfff o_o
     
  8. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    for now i'm waiting things out
    see how things are turning
    cause right now things are jumping in all sorts of directions
    i'm going to let things settle first

    if they settle in my favor, than maybe i'll try something
    if they settle in not my favor
    maybe it's time i move on
     
  9. yea please update us on how things go... goodluck.. -ccol2
     
  10. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    sure, but these updates could be weeks apart
    this is not going to be a very fast process
     
  11. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    thanks for ALL your support
     
  12. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    did i ever mention this guy sometimes gives me alot of mixed signals

    after not seeing him in over two weeks
    but haveing nightly phone converstaions 80% of the nights for over an hour

    i got him to come over for dinner
    (which involved his brother getting very upset)

    anyways, i think that's a good sign?
    he stayed much longer and we watched tv together

    the thing is i dont know if he came over because he wanted to
    or because i asked him to and he didn't want to say no again
     
  13. well was he acting very comfortable around you?? any touching going on? if he at least made the effort to have dinner then... wait nevermind scratch that.. yea so do you think he's interested in you??
     
  14. kdotc

    kdotc 안녕하세요빅뱅K-Dragon입니다

    ecko don't b so nosey..wat they did in her bedroom is none of ur business lol
     
  15. pshhh. whatever mang.. aren't you supposed to be sleepin??

    I can't wait to find out the ending to this story..
     
  16. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    no, we hung out like we always do

    he's a very shy boy,

    so ECKO you were correct about someone getting pissed, HA HA HA
    that wasn't very cool . . .
    we had to work around trying to manipulate how to get his brother to let him go
    that was a weird run around in circles
    all in all, once again proved that his brother hates us being together, even though we are still friends
     
  17. oh yes.. time to start my psychic hotline..

    well now we know his big brothers got a big part in this.. time to plan out how to make him disappear... -lol

    but yea.. he probably knows you trying to put the moves on his lil bro.. so he's pissed.. but the REAL question is.. does his lil bro even like you..?? or is his brother holding him back...?
     
  18. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    like i said before
    what I believe (which i know i may be wrong)
    is that he likes me, but maybe not enough to start something
    becuase he's not the guy who turns out a gf within two months of dumping the last one
    he's one who dates if he's sure that they may have a possible future
    . . .
    but i cant really say anything against that, cause i'm quite similar, i dont date for fun, i date people who i EXTREMELY like

    so he may like me now? but can't see me as his future wife
    WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
    so what? i have to do stuff to convince him so?

    i've talked to a few friends, for their outside eyes
    they see something is up with him, he obviously has some sort of feelings for me
    but dont understand what is going on with him
     
  19. if you're lookin' for a hubby and not a bf.. then you're pretty screwed..

    If he can't get over the girl after two months.. then it's probably best, you stopped waiting.

    And it is not the best to let him know.. you like him waaayyy.. more than he does with you..

    your friends may just be trying to make you feel better...
     
  20. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    it's not that he can't get over a girl
    it's that's he's not scared to be single
    he doesn't need to jump back into relationships

    not one of those who are afraid to be alone

    and the friends thing, in some cases i know what they are saying are to make me feel better, but in these cases i was thinking aobut when reposting, not really

    cause more than one of my friends have actually come up to me (with them having NO clue i liked him) asking me if he liked me