nah her bubble still struggling to survive it like it caught a second wind.... lol it cause she still is trying to be intimate with him in public which makes outsiders see them as a couple..... lol i had this connection with my ex where it was physical for me but for her it was emotional but then i sorted it out and she has accepted it and whenever we are in public its no more of that mess... but i hafta say this.... i never called her to come over for it she called.... :laugh:
I guess you guys are right. She just wants a rebound, you can't possibly move on this fast. She didn't come to school today, probably to hang out with that kid. I guess I do miss the attention. But lately, she's just doing all the wrong things. It's just recently, I mean, I love her (as a friend) and I should be happy for her. But the way she goes on about things really makes me mad. Yesterday, she left school super early to go home and get changed and pretty up to go to the movies with that kid. It's really not that much of a big deal to be doing all that. It's only been a week since they met and they're already hooking up. And there she was before talking about "how could u like someone you just met but not care for someone u've known for 4 years?" I feel like she's such a hypocrite. If she keeps this up, I don't know when I'm gonna blow and say really mean things. I hope things work themselves out soon, cus I can't stand this anymore.
maybe she's just using that guy to make you jealous...thats pbly the whole point of it hmmm....girls sometimes do stupid stuff like that....
why don't you just invite one of your girl friend's and hang out with her and see how you best friend girl would react?
Sorry but that is just really immature. yoitztrong if you two are friends tell her exactly how you feel. Being that you two are so close then you should be able to tell her the truth and be honest with her. Whether it is your feelings for her or her being a hypocrite. Let her know.
i have to agree as well..... in a couple of weeks she will be over that guy, but then again there is a small chance it might make something out of it..
I'm fine with that I guess, it's just annoying when I'm with her and she keeps texting him or checkin her phone for new msg. I guess I should be happy for her, actually, I think I am. But I think she just needs someone there. I mean she was in a 2 year relationship with her ex and they were really close and then all of a sudden no one's there. So she looks to the next guy, me. And when I don't return the feelings, she goes to the next guy she thinks is cute and likes her. Lately she's been doing everything wrong. And I can't get why. But I sent her a message on facebook since I couldn't really say that kind of stuff in person about everything that's been bothering me. I guess, we're good again. Today during art, my teacher was cutting paper and I was listening to some music, trying to take a nap and she hugged me from behind which kinda made me jump. I don't know she's been kinda "suggestive" lately? Stand my ground and keep my space right.
it appears so, it was in a really intimate way. then today, I walk into advisory and we usually sit by each other, so i walked by to sit behind her, but she locked one of my leg with both of her's and pull me onto her, and so i was sitting on top of her. and she starts biting my stomache? and complimented on how good i smell. it was just really wierd. I did already tell her that the physical stuff is over. and i'm just trying to treat her like a friend. =\ i dunno what she wants. she's alrdy going out with this kid and she hasn't told me anything yet. i dunno, it's just blah. she's really immature and and i'm not too sure on how long i can stick around.
i really dont get it.. lol i mean..if you don't like her.. then why did you let it happen.. i mean " the physical relation" that you were talking about...how could it happen if you dont like her..i dunno.. like you said its really mess up..i know theres no point to blame you about it but to me ..your the guy who let it happen so take your responsability for it..but on the other side..if youre forcing yourself to love her.. that could be worst too.. but then.. your a guy..if you didnt avoid the physical relation with her then you have to deal with it.. try it out..and always tell your self to be a perfect bf..even you dont know how to do it with someone you dont love..but what if you might really fall in love with her ?.. if things got worst.. im pretty sure she will be the one who make the first step of breaking but yea at least you tried.. you take your responsability for what youve done.. i know my english isnt that good and im sorry about it and i think you could manage to understand what im trying to say ..and yeah..thats it..
Just go away and end this crap with her once and for all. Till she matures, that's the day when you guys should hook up and talk about the past cause it'll be much easier to speak. She's playing two guys and you really shouldn't be there wasting your time. She's already screwing herself over, why do you want to get involved?
I think she is very confused. She just recently broke up. There is a huge void of 2 years in her heart. She wants to fill that void. She is doing whatever it takes, may it be you or someone else...or even both it doesn't matter. She is very reckless and she doesn't care. She just doesn't want to feel the pain. I had that experience before but you can't do anything. Not you anyway. Your complicated relationship with her only adds to her pain really. Your talking to her only will make her resent you as it seems hypocritical (you can't sound righteous and stand on a moral high ground when your relationship with her is not exactly without fringe benefits) and feels like yet another rejection. Perhaps that why she is not sharing with you about her new relationship. I believe that it's killing her inside. She is judging herself. She knows what she is doing but she is very destructive at this point. The only sensible thing to do is to give her space and let her come to you for advise. Don't allow her to mess around with you. Just be a friend when she needs you. Until then she is not ready for anything. Sorry, if this is long. This is my two cents worth. Hope this helps.
thanks that makes some sense. she's alrdy going out with some guy after 2 weeks, so i guess i'm not that important to her . still, whenever i walk towards her, intentionally or not, she hugs me in an intimate way not friendshipish (if u no what i mean) and I've been pushing her away whenever she does that like, I won't hug back. then how we usually walk together, i break off a bit to go to my locker or something instead of both of us walking each other. It feels a lot better now, I mean, things are a bit awkward, but I'm getting my space and it's not so bad.
Think of it this way, whether or not we started a physical relationship wasn't going to affect how she feels for me. You fall for guys you didn't start a physical relationship with, so that doesn't mean anything right? But since we were best friends, I though it would've been ok. I didn't think it would lead to all this. I don't have the kind of feelings I have for certain people that I want to get into a relationship with, towards her, so I can never date her and it would never work out. As that, "feelings will grow" thing. It's not true for me, it's never been. It has to already be there when I first met the person or it's never there at all. People are automatically categorized in my mind, and they cant be moved. It'll never work, she's planned our future together basically. College together, apartment and I don't think I can handle it. So as hard as I try, I'm gonna break off slowly and just be a normal regular friend.
In my opinion, if she hugged you in Holister, I doubt they will want to hire you. It seems rather unprofessional, and Holister will think this work environment will not occupy intimate love or any kind of PDA. From all you're saying, you seem to be falling for her. You miss all the attention and you're jealous that she is dating someone else. Do you miss having a girlfriend? And want to experience back all the sparks in a love relationship? I don't think you love her like the "true love", but I believe you're just like her - want to be loved and cared for. If you do end up starting a relationship with her, I almost can say that it wont go far. Because #1, she is too immature when it comes to love, she doesn't have any idea what "love" is. If she had a tiny clue about love, she would've dealt with her breakup properly. She doesn't do that though, she mends her heart TEMPORARY by dating/playing other men. #2, if you decide to be with her, I can almost say that you will not like her afterwards, because you didn't like her from the start. Once you experience all the "lovely" feelings at the beginning of a relationship, you might choose to leave because she's not the girl for you and not your type either - I was in a relationship like that once for 1 year, it was a total waste of time. I forced myself to like someone who was beyond my type. I also forced myself to believe I actually do like him, only to find out at the end of the year that all the feelings suddenly disappear when he didn't do anything wrong. "True love" doesn't disappear out of no where for no exact reasons, so it wasn't love. It's your choice, if you really believe you're starting to have a teeny bit of feeling for her, and believe you should date her then go ahead. Get it over with. But in my opinion, you are really wasting time. You never know that you might finally meet "the one" when you were with her.
stop playing games with each other. just have a talk with her when it's just the two of you. let her know that you feel uncomfortable when she hugs you in public and flirt with you because you are just friends. i can't tell if she's dating the other guy to make you jealous, but if you are jealous and you want to be more than friends with her you have to let her know that.
I just think she is emotionally unstable. She really doesn't know or understand what she wants. Yes, she is immature this way. It's not about you. I think you should also take time to access why you feel the way you feel (jealous, and unimportant). I personally feel that your physical involvement has somehow got in the way of your emotions with her as well. Physical intimacy is not something of a norm unless it's a job or your lifestyle. The boundary becomes difficult to divide when it's not clearly defined. Can you start over? I think its difficult and it takes time. Lots of time. I am great friends with almost all my ex-es but not from the beginning. I needed time out to put things into perspective (wise-up and grow up) AND only then can we start over as friends. Real friends with a past but with no intentions of rekindling and looking back. Just that we understand each other more.
i mean i would say be honest with her and stuff but you guys have a physical relationship so thats kind of bad so i recommend just go with your feelings and see what happens from there
sorry to say but she seems a fool lol tbf i thinks its mainly do with her breakup looking for someone or something to fill the gap with kinda thing but i assume she knew it was just a physical thing going between u just dont see her for a bit, its either guna be back to normal or shes still guna wana be more which is when ur guna have to stop being friends really theres no real way around it i was really good friends with a guy before & we're never guna be the same again we can joke about him having wanted to be with me but u just cant go back to friends really
