always nervous when i'm talking to a girl....

avant i know what you mean since when i move to canada i didn't know any english at all and i was shy to begin with and now i am still shy. But i guess what you are saying is correct. I'm a pessimist. I tend to look at things at a bad perspective because you won't be dissapointed when things do go badly. But I'm trying to not to think about what's gonna happens but bad perspective keeps poping in to my head before i even begin to react to the problem. For example after handing in some homework i know i'm gonna get about 65-75% but i keep reminding myself that i could get a 50% on it. Another example would be when a girl approach me to talk...when she's walking towards me i tend to think what am i gonna say...or what will happen if i give a bad impression. Then when i come back to reality i'm all nervous.

 

agreed. but OVERLY shy is just.....
well im sure keitaro will grow out of this stage of girl fright. =]

 

jerk it out, and u won't be nervous or shy.

 

lol freals? 2 years older than me....at 19 ill prob do more than tlk to a girl

 

Hey nothing wrong with being a late bloomer, but really girls aren't scary, and if you screw up in front of them, so what there are plenty more. Yeah being compared to your brother is rough, I get that alot, just have to be comfortable with who you are, and not try to live up to what someone wants you to be.

 

Maybe you should try not thinking about it... and just DO IT!

I think it's one of those situations where once you have summoned your courage and talk to girls, you'll think "Oh! That wasn't so bad" and become more comfortable and less nervous.

 

I´m 19 too and I was really shy 2 years ago (though i´m a girl) but I put myself together and started to talk with males. I changed myself a lot but I was still me.
So just try to be yourself..let your conversation with a girl flow naturally. Just start to say Hello and words will come out.

Don´t think about your shyness all the time..maybe most of the girls are shy too.
Just climb out of your shell. But your still young and have a long way to go and much more to learn. I still have much more to learn.

I was recently hurt by someone and my confidence aren´t on top, but I take this as a lesson.
But you know, I know one day, that you will have the confidence to talk with a girl. Just remember to be yourself no matter how much you change

 

you could try getting a part time job as a sales assistence, that way you must talk to strangers, be it male or female =)

 

well.... you could say hi to some girl and then just start talking to them, think of something to say first.
talk to them about 'how are they doing in school' or something that relates to it.
and then once they talk to you for a while, ask them for their email or somthing.. so that you could communicate better.
usually, some doesn't like talking in person, but if online, they would prob talk to you more once u know them.

 

OR! act like they are a guy and talk to them

 

^ thast weirdd....do u do that?/....just b like can i see your phone and call ur own phone and then call her

 

lol! no i dont do that, becuz i dont have that problem -tongue2

 

lol that's so lame.>.<

 

Haha, I'm sure you've heard of "the glass is half full". Why look down on things when you should be looking up?

Even with your homework example. Say I'll be happy with 50%. So when you get 65-75%, you'll be jumping for joy. See the difference? You get nervous around girls because you're expecting yourself to screw up while you should be expecting yourself to succeed.

Ever notice in class there are some people that always have their head down and are completely to himself/herself? If you haven't noticed, not many will approach and talk to those people.

So who HAVE you noticed that gets lots of attention? Are they easy going and appear confident in themselves? This is generally true because they give off that happy aura, and who wouldn't want to be happy?

So while you know what I mean, I don't think you understand. I get this feeling that you still believe your pessimist attitude will get you the results that you want, but if that were true, you wouldn't be here asking for advice...

 

Agree!! Firstly dun think she would give u her phone and secondly u didnt ask her premission for her number!! Maybe she didnt wan u to have it Stoooooooooopid kodtc yeh yeh!! -noclue

 

try to natural first
and think as if u were talking to a guy and then move on

 

I have always been very insecure when talking to girls,i am a very,very shy person but nobody realises this because i am very up-front,direct and loud and seem confident though on the inside i am shitting bricks.I just turned 38 am a father and have had a lot of girlfriends but still feel nervouse talking to girls so i can`t give any advice

 

Try talk to them about school/homework, that shouldn't be scary? It's quite a neutral subject and after a while you can change the conversation subject to hobbies and other things....if the girl(s) haven't already changed the subject for you.

But don't try too hard, that can come across as desperate!
Just build up slowly if you're really really shy, which means only chat about school related things at the beginning.

 

start being friends first.. that isnt too hard is it? but of cos.. there is the 2 ladder theory..

 

lol just be yourself & like pretend you're talking to one of your guy friends or something -lol & dont get too nervous and stuff. =)