you need to calm down and rationalize. what are the circumstances that would make her do what she did.
By the looks of things, she's not worth your time and effort as she's apparently lying and cheating on you. Yelling at or arguing with her would probably just escalate the conflict further, and you should just end it with her right there - drama free, no hassle.
The answer is simple... and I always knew. But didn't wanted to believe that she'd be so selfish. I did felt that she loved me a lot during our time together.. When she was living with me, she had told me about her ex.. that he's a banker.. makes a lot of money.. drives a BMW.. etc etc... She kept contact with him making the dude think that they were still in a relationship because she wanted the dude to go to her house and visit her parents.. Turn on the webcam to speak with her parents and help her find a job at the bank and such... She chose benefits & gifts over me. The term gold-digger fits her pretty much here I guess.. But then the night before when I was pissed about her not telling me about Hainan, I told her "If u don't love or care about me anymore, just say it! So that my heart can die... and move on" She said she still loves me, so I really dont understand.. I gave her a chance to let me go and go our separate ways. But she chooses to keep this two-timing crap going... I guess love makes u do dumb things.. and u try to believe everything she says.. even if u know that they r lies...
I would say let the ex knows what goes on with you and her, let her parents know too, break up with her as well after that.
Beginning scene of Saw VII...... just dump the bitch and move on. Not worth your time, but you can do things just to spite her... but that depends on whether or not you want to be the better person or just hurt her emotionally...
She told me to call her 9PM HK time.. called her.. no answer. I waited for her since 1:30PM HK to 9PM. And she decides not to answer and play games. Tells me she went took a nap and woke up at 11:30. I feel that she's very disrespectful.. telling someone to call at 9 and then not answering phone... the least she couldve done is send me a txt message like talk a bit later or something. Even after waking up, she still didnt answer the phone or call me back. Called her house and her mom answered.. Her mom said she went to sleep (Obviously a lie). She was just texting me, but didnt pick up the phone. So I go and keep calling her cel.. more than 10 times already.. I give up and just tell a mutual friend in HK to call her and tell her to answer the phone or call me. She texts me back "I went to Hainan with my sister and I don't have anything to talk to u". The nerve.. I was furious! Waited so long and that's what I get? I text message.. so I had to use more hardcore methods I guess... I just couldnt get the frustration out of me at that moment.. I really had to speak out my heart with her at that time, so I text her "If you're going to play games, I'll play too! Just don't regret it later." Kind of a threat.. I know.. but that's the only way I got her to answer the F'in phone. Talked for 50 mins.. I guess the only thing I wanted was for her was to tell me truth. I already knew the truth from everyone (her dad & ex) else that she had gone with her ex to Hainan, but I just needed to hear her say it. So that I could move on. I asked her did your ex go with u? or was he there..? she kept saying no. So I threw in my ace .. I told her "I spoke with your ex this morning and he told me that u went with him!". Listening to this she says yea.. he went to Hainan to visit his father and I went to visit my grandma.. but we weren't together. Change of story here? Looking for a way around the obvious truth? And she goes like "You're not my anybody for me to tell u so much".. Then I just tell her "If I weren't anybody, why would u text me a message 2 days ago saying I Love you"? We just keep debating here and she breaks out and starts crying.. Tells me "Are you happy now?" How would I be happy at all... Im heartbroken. So her mom was sitting in front of her door listening all this time and breaks in after hearing her daughter cry. F'in takes the phone and starts yelling at me.. cussin.. Her mom dont even know the first thing her daughter did and already thinks I'm the wrong one. So after hearing this, I just let her go.. cuz it was already close to 1:30AM HK time. All and all she just kept lying till the end.. Is it because she's just embarrassed to tell the truth with her own mouth? To admit that she was wrong? Ive always been the better person with her.. But I was seriously thinking to hurt her to get revenge if she didnt answer that phone. All my frustration is out now after the argument.. so Ill just let it go and move on!
Distance relationship doesn't always work out. We are all humans, if we could choose we would prefer a partner closer by, someone who we can see and talk to everyday. Hope you find someone who will return love to you. Life is too short too dwell on one girl. Moving on is difficult but its the best solution for both parties.
thing is, there's not much u can do when ur apart (with distance and time) and if she's started to lose feelings and move on from u, unless ur back there with her... unlikely to work out
the mom of course will think her own daughter wasn't at fault.... despite the fact that she is a huge slut! Just get over her man, not worth your effort! Find a girl that respects you and you will be glad you never tried fighting for this one.
It's been months since she's been in HK and now have a job there, and her family is there too. Your relationship was doom from that point on. Still she should had told you the truth and instead lied to you and wasted your time and hurt your feelings. It's best that you end it with her.
gosh.......dude, you sound like a pretty nice guy, MOVE ON. You tried pretty hard already, put in lots of effort. But no appreciation is returning. You deserve better. "siu sah D" (sry this has nth to do with your problem but you sound like a Cancer lol, one of those water or earth signs)
Thanks for reading and commenting guys... I will move on from this relationship and hopefully this horrible depressing feeling fades away fast.. lol! Nope, I'm an Aquarius haha! Totally! I think I'll ask her to marry me tomorrow^^;
^ Off topic.. but.. your avvy.. Semaruu-Shokaa? But on topic. Seems like your efforts are not seen. Very few people success from long distance, but seems like you're not one of them. =/ Feel better & move on la~
If you treat this like a business case, she did the right thing. She put herself available to the man that was capable of raising her future babies. Her ex has a car, house, a good wellpaid job and other stuff she had bragged about him (which obviously isnt a good sign in a relationship, should have said to gtfo and tell her to fack that dude then) Plus the fact they both live in hong kong makes her choice a lot easier. And holding you as backup just incase is a wise decission. However, taking the emotional factor in account. She is just a manipulative woman and should just told you so you didnt waste you time on her. And her relationship with her ex probably wont last long, as it usually wont if it didn't work out the first time. When someone cheated with you, she will probabky cheat with the next guy. Good that you saw through her and got rid off her. As you deserve better then that. Goodluck.
