HAHAHA! Well I'm british born and so I'll work the english ways! Apparently the girls family pays for the wedding HAHAHAAHAHAH!
Does that include chinese girls from China though?! I'm guessing ABC would be fine, but the problem is the older generation chinese folks seem to have it in the heads that all china girls are after money and a green card (visa)...
I agree with ralph...dont think she needs u... the fact that she can study overseas probably her parents are quite wealthy... u know how much tuition fee those students have to pay each semester... i dont think my parents could afford that...n im from NL imagine how much that is for ppl from china! if shed be in the country illegally and working in a chin restaurant it would be a total different situation (not implying that all those girls hook up for immi reasons tho) i dont think it should b that hard to get a visa... i dont know how uk immigration works but here if u have ur masters n ur english skills are good enough theres a good chance for u to get PR.... in the end all that matters is that u two really like eachother and sometimes u just have to take a risk in love... if u let her go u might regret it and never find out what u two could have been -flow goodluck
Actually... if she wants to stay in UK... I think she can find work in UK... Guess a wedding is not the only way she can stay there.
^ well most companies help get international employees a citizen ship or something like that, there was a chinese guy who was in the same situation and national grid helped him stay in america
Yeah I guess there is that possibility, however, in the UK its slightly different...many companies ask the question weather you hold a Visa in order to work in the UK! Anyways, getting a little off topic now! I think the point I was trying the get at was, does anyone elses family frown up on relationships with chinese people from china...
From my own perspective when I got married, I found that the perceptions of the older generation is usually skewed by their own limited understanding of present day conditions in China. MissAngieCheekS notation on the potentially fragile financial status (her example of an Chinese eatery worker) of the immigrant is probably the image that is retained by most older overseas Chinese. When the question of marriage comes up, many never consider that the immigrant may actually be wholly financially secure; or in fact, be both educationally and monetarily wealthy already. The other unspoken factor of course, is the degree of alienation that many older overseas Chinese feel about their mainland counterparts. Many haven't seen China for well over a quarter of a century, and again, their perceptions of potential in laws are skewed by a past long gone. My advice? Seeing is believing. Take your parents for a trip to Shanghai. Once they see THAT China, they'll realize that it isn't the quaint little aboriginal village of yesteryear, but a dynamic progressive society on the forefront of modernity. That is, a social perception worth marrying a son into.
All the points are well spoken and well taken here. I agree any general statement of any race from any cultural background is too general and can't really accurately reflect the reality. However, due to the economic disadvantage of many communist countries including Russian. Many from that region tend to behave just that..."money gabber". There are many guys and girls out there in China. She might have boyfriends waiting for her in China. If not, she is probably an ugly chic only Americans would want. In that case, it depends on who you are, most Hkers would not marry her no matter how much love you are talking about. To be fair, let her get a "green card" herself. She is studying for her master degree and have been in the country for 7 years. It would be no problem for her to get sponsorship from her professional career development. The H-1 visa alone will take her pretty far. With that said, don't marry her until she can carry her own weight. Remember, Chinese cultural, you are never marrying her alone. Once you marry her, her parents will request your sponsorship to the country. You will then be responsibile for her entire clan. Unless you have a deep pocket, you can't handle her family. You are going to be "yelled" at by your own family. You konw what, after a decade, she is not that well-rounded and you will regret it. To be fair, I like the BBC dude's prospective. Hey we are in a western country. Shouldn't we follow the western culture. Make her pay for everything...lol. Better yet, make sure she sign the paperwork "and no penny for her if she divorce you", and you are not going to sponsor any of her family to the country. Let's see what she has to say. Hey, if you say she loves you that much, she will agree with your terms and conditions. Young man! She has a "lover" waiting for her in China. Even though she really loves you. Things can get really ugly when her lover comes to the State and chop you up!
