lol i bet that is easier for the guy to say than the woman. anyways if someone don't want choices in life because it leads to headaches especially when it relates to love and marriage, i don't they are ready for it at all.
If it were that easy, we would not have relationship problems, doubts, cheating, betrayal, faltering, mistakes, or 3rd wheels, or triangles. It does occur la. =) :ugh2: ---- Btw, I don't really care about looks, but to me it matters that she maintains an elegance, character, and loves me more than I love her. Also, she has to be healthy, and not too poor. If you care, I'll explain. =)
i don't get why you said that really. didn't i just say love wasn't........ahhh fuck who am i talking too? right....espresso...okie laaa...:ugh2:
My cousin and her husband are not that much older then each other bout 2-3 years apart i think. yeah my mother version on whats good for me isn't always my version of whats good for me. but parents will be parents. note she has already given up trying tofind me dates as so to spek since my older brother conviced her it was not the best of idea. And am a daddys girl so he is always on my side and my dad would never allow it even if she had suggested it. my mother always listens to my brother more then me and get away with everything, but then I get away with lots when it come to my dad. hmmm i wonder if thats strange.
this topic reminds me of a simpsons episode with Apu -bowroflarms... anyways... i think the tradition of arrange marriage has probably decline due to western culture and society...but mehh...thats wat i think...
arranged marriages..hmmm some people assume that arranged marriages = forced an that the couple chosen dont really get a say in it etc...an its the first time they've seen each other etc etc but sometimes the couple in the arranged marriage might actually go through with it cos they know each other already and they got that connection etc... so it can be a good thing..saves the hassle of getting the parents to approve of the couple if everyone knows each other already lol if my parents dragged me, which probably meant i'm getting forced...an i'm single but i liked the partner my parents chose for me..i'd probably go for it lol..or if they set me up on dates...why not its not like i'm guna end up with the guy after the date cos its just to see if i like the guy and if we click then we'd consider going out again...an take it from there... but seeing as i'm in a relationship already, i'd obviously refuse and if that didnt work, then i'd ask my bf to hurry up and marry me lmao so my parents cant marry me off lmao.... an if the parents dont approve...we'll elope As for traditional vs new generation...depends how open/traditional things are in your own family but i reckon a compromise between the two can work ^^ *note to self* longest reply i ever did lmao
You see....arranged marriage is mostly about the money, but for me feeling for one and another matters most, so screw arrange marriage, or your only son is going to be a buddhist monk. (Even though I'm not buddhist or the only child LOL)
^ ya especially when ur parents try to hook you up with a girl..but you keep telling them you're g@y hahahahaahahahhahahah peace out
marry the one you love but i guess in arranged marriages ppl can still fall in love after but i prefer you chase after your own spouse instead of arrangements
Arranged marriage saves a lot of time and maturity kicks right on. Do we really need that "chemistry" or have an attrative partner for a better marriage? We are all dying....either fast or very slowly... so stop messing other people's lives when you didn't intend to do IT in the first place.
I honestly think parents that arrange marriages for their kids are very SELFISH. do they ever think about the divorce rate nowadays. Arrange marriages will not work 99% of the time (end in divorce, or end with an unhappy marriage) because you can't put 2 people together and say "go get married!" and plus, the way i think of it is, for parents who enforce arrange marriages on their kids, my question is "are you marrying the guy, or me? If I'm marrying the guy, then I should have options to choose who it is that I want to be with for the rest of my life" If they just want you to marry for the money, I guess to them a divorce would get you even more money, maybe they're thinking too far ahead, I really don't know what crosses their mind when parents do that. In the end, think about this: who ends up having to deal with the pain of an unhappy marriage, your parents or you? so to me, their opinions don't matter because I'm the one that has to suffer if the marriage turns out bad. My quote for arrange marriages: Parent's happiness (at the moment) equals your suffering (forever)....
arranged marriage is so last century now! they have to love each other in order to get married...otherwise theres no point
nooo,it's not fully true,Chinese still do...i know many Chinese families in my country that do arranged marriages...they try to hook a Chinese guy from here to a Chinese girl from china...
hooking up and see if they get along? or just pull a male and a female out and say here is your bed, do yourself a favor and get busy or i will have to sit next to you and force you.
The arranged marriage was upheld when society still had respect and meaning in culture. In today's society, the choice of free will, trashy morals, and divorces are so high ! If your marrying so much, and divorcing so much, it doesn't matter if your arranged or not. Arranged marriages are supposed to be 'held' together.
