Some people get married because of love, some because of money, some because of own preferences... It is all about choices and decisions they made... At the end, they need to be responsible for it...
Sounds like you like this asian girl but she is dating this awesome black dude with a way bigger wang.
ABC is not really "Chinese" but not "Caucasian" either. FOB is definitely not "Caucasian". So, ABC for ABC, FOB for FOB. If there isn't an ABC for an ABC, ABC for Caucasian is perfectly fine. If there isn't a FOB for FOB, there's the big problem. FOB is not really Chinese either...lol. FOB can't get Chinese from Asia either. So, FOB go figure it out!
I am Filipino-American, I see the ugly side in those relationships. I would rather turn my back on interracial dating, and be with my own (Filipina). As an offspring and living in a interracial family there are drawbacks...I am not doing this for myself but I am doing this for when I decide to have kids. I don't like the idea of too much mixing it's bad for the child, so that is one of the reasons why I want to find a filipina for a partner. To all Asian girls in general who choose to date outside, they should be ashamed of themselves. They don't have any values, this is just my opinion...but I feel sad for when they decide to get pregnant and have a kid who is mixed. Living with no culture, religion, or a sense of identity you will regret it.
lol what are these drawbacks you speak of? I'm half chinese half Canadian with a Polish/Ukrainian background on my white side. I eat chinese food 60% of the time and the other 40% of the time im rockin perogies, sausage, sour cream and cabbage rolls like a motherfucker. Culture? I'm one of the most cultured people I know. I can hang out with Asians and fit in no problem or I can go out with my caucasian friends without any issues. I have friends of every race and although I prefer Asian women I'm not against girls of any culture. My extended family is extremely multi-cultural and I think that only makes the links between everyone stronger. I have a white uncle with an african wife, a chinese cousin with a jewish husband, a half chinese cousin with a white fiance, another chinese cousin with a white girlfriend. And the ones who have babies have the cutest kids I've ever seen. You want to see an example of a mixed marriage? Boom: Personally I've found my identity in the fact that I can leverage whichever race I want in whatever situation I find myself in: Hanging out at the bar with a bunch of yuppies? I'm white as hell. You'll find me playing darts and drinking coors like its water. Asian night with the buds? Du lei lo mo, how the fuck you get 13 wonders in under 5 minutes you cheating motherfucker. What blows my mind the most about your post is that you're Filipino. You're born from a culture that was colonized by the Spanish in the 1500's and has been mixing races ever since, and even after the Spanish left, your country was occupied by the Japanese for another 5 years during WWII. My Filipino friend, who is super filipino, like the guy eats balut for breakfast, has told me he thinks Filipinos have such a weird history that there are times he doesn't even know how to define his culture. You speak of not identifying with a religion? Filipino people didn't even know what the fuck Christianity was until Magellan arrived and shoved it down their throats and now they can't live without God in their lives. You can think what you will about mixed race couples, but don't justify it by saying it's, "better for your children". All you're doing is hiding your own insecurities of having a relationship with someone of another race and trying to make yourself sound noble about it. Your post isn't about the betterment of any future offspring, your post is about lack of confidence in your own identity. If you appreciate who you are and learn to understand how to capitalize on the pros and cons of your individuality then you won't give a shit about what race your girlfriend is. It sounds like you're in a shell of your own making and instead of dealing with that, you're projecting outwards and saying you need someone who you can identify with to make yourself feel better about who you are. - Seacrest out.
Don't get me wrong...as a mix race it can be over whelming as kids grow up. It happened to me once, I had a identity crisis. I have at least 3 best friends who are Chinese/Vietnamese, 100% Peruvian, and mostly Filipino/Puerto rican. And no, I have not befriend with people who are white, even though I live in America. I just think that interracial couples are selfish when it comes to family and offspring. They would even escape from the in-laws. My father's mother (I would not call her my Grandma) was racist towards my mother since she came from Pinas and be married to my father. SHe thought my mother came here only to live in this country and to have more money. If you marry someone, you also marry the family keep that in mind. I don't want to get involved in that situation because I would feel awkward. I was never taught Tagalog/Ilokano. My Father prevent my mother, he thought it would confuse me with my English. Now I do not know how I can learn to speak fluently. I have less vocabulary. Trust me you will feel regrets if you never spoke any chinese. Tagalog is the only language I want to learn, through Rosetta stone or online it isn't enough. And yes, I do prefer Filipino food over American food. Food in America taste like shit. I don't want to look at Interracial dating because it reminds me of my parents. I know for a fact that I am better off with Filipina or other Asian (this is more of a preference, "white, black, Latina, or others that is outside my borders they are not for me that's all I'm saying). I would rather end up with someone who is not so different from me, to avoid conflict and differences. Interracial dating can be extreme and it has it's flaws. I pray to God that I will not be one of those interracial couples that you see in the mall. For some reason I get offended when I see a wigger dating a pure Chinese, or Filipina etc. (That sure tells a lot....don't you agree?) To clear things up, I despise the fact that Philippines is shaped by mostly Spanish/American Influences. They are self-hating when it comes to names of children, Spanish over Filipino names. They think it is ugly. I am glad that my family name is Mabaet instead of Santos. But still....I do favor Chinese influences when it comes to food. (I am not that white....I mostly have filipino characteristics).
i won't date other asians, i am chinese myself but live in london all my life, my boyfriend is white. not really interesterd in chinese guys.
Everyone has some type of history that's shaping their opinion. Their preference is their preference. Oh well. My life moves on.
I don't understand people who won't date people of their own race. I understand that they CAN'T date people of their own race due to the fact that they are in a location with no such, but if they just refuse to do so...it's just weird and a bit hateful in my opinion.
I had dated a Indian and a Korean girl before, i myself think that i can communicate better with my french girlfriend at the moment since i feel European girls can discuss more topics openly and i m Chinese by the way.
Is this really what the kids worry about nowadays? Fuck it. Be happy to date someone at all. Date a fucking rainbow.
I don't date people who are from the same background, I'd prefer the same race just not from the same country. As far as race goes......yeah.....idk I'd like someone but then overtime I'm glad I never started anything....
if u wanna date and have kids within your race, just make sure that the counterpart is not in any part of your family tree (if possible).....
