Wow...Miss Cheeks is correct. There seem to be many wedding haters here. If you decide to throw a big wedding, then expect to be stressed. As I mentioned before, don't be afraid to ask your friends and/or family for help. It will save you a lot of headache. Many weddings I've gone to are not paid for by just the bride's or the groom's family. For most the cost has always been split between the bride and groom themselves. That way they've been able to have more say in what kind of wedding they want.
The AMERICAN culture. I am not divorced so NO, my marriage has not failed per se. As for the prenuptial, I did mention about it in my earlier post. It will hurt more than help with your wedding. I am not rich so no worry for me; but doesn't mean you're immune from spouse support and craps like that after divorce. UNFORTUNATELY, most WOMEN think it's a right to take their hubby's money after divorce. FADING beauty .. as if the guys don't get old too. Cheating .. perhaps the wife should reflect and find out why things turned out that way .. taking the guy's money is the way to resolve anything. I can't say that for guys who are just JERKS though.
^ Of course, cheating doesnt mean the wife doesnt have any issues BUT to betray ur wife is something different no? when u choose to marry someone ur supposed to be FAITHFUL.... u married someone for a reason n ur not just gonna sleep with someone else when ur marriage goes bad... if u have issues talk abt it. if issues cant be solved then just divorce n ur good to go! taking a guy's money who cheats on me wouldnt resolve everything but it would make me feel a whole lot better... id go on a holiday with my friends n send pics to my ex husband dei kui saaay!
out of curiosity... wats the range of cost for a traditional style wedding and the range of cost for the western style wedding?
going to have an Americanized wedding in a remote location by the luscious beach. fuck asian weddings.
1) Prenuptial do not guarantee anything nor everything. In divorce court, everything will be looked at. It is a 'contract' in legal terms, much like a 'marriage', and carries with it, nothing more than legal status which affects everything else in the system. Before marrying someone, I think people should have already realized and understood the other person. If they haven', and if they find things out later, they really haven't put enough time into the relationship to escalate it into a marriage. It is sad how the Western & American culture has degraded the meaning of 'marriage'. And in it, it has created a society with no morals, no standard, and a bunch of hay wired sheeps. I would like to reserve my marriage just once in my lifetime. And I want it to be special, much like that high school graduation !! I wouldn't give up on my significant other, but if she 'insists' to divorce because she's with another person, what do you think I should do? Of course divorce. I would present my case in court. Differences should be smoothed out. But I hope that if I were to even marry, I would have understood my significant other thoroughly to avoid such future confrontations. --- On Asian Weddings & Culture. Weddings in general are stressful, but don't let it get to you. Give yourself time, and nothing matters more than the 2 of you. So when you folks are ready, take the step. If my wife was from another culture, and if she wanted things to be celebrated according to her cultures and customs, I would love to do it as well. If I had to, I would do just a small wedding w/ her fam&friends and mines. LOL But you know woman, they need that glitz, and glamor. They love that 'swoon'. LOL
I have 3 siblings who have already married in a traditional Chinese wedding and I still hate it. I like how we get to see family members that we haven't seen in years but at the same time it seems like it is always a wedding for my parents. They're always inviting people that neither the groom or bride know. It's all about respect and giving face. And aunts and uncles sure love to compare the wealth of the two family...
Any wedding without stress is bliss. Speak to those who have married! One way to reduce stress is to hire a 'stress buster' eg. reflexologist, masseur or do gym before the event.
ANY wedding is stressful!! if u think Chinese weddings are bad think again... Indian weddings go on for a whole week lol... and the girl's family pays for EVERYTHING... think of it this way... at least u only have to go through it once in ur life (let's hope) *fingers crossed* btw congratulations
its not a stress wedding as long as i dont have to spend a cent. all wedding are hell stressing if you consider how much money you have to spend.
Wedding is stressful as it is but then if u dont wanna pay a penny watch "Don't Tell the Bride" on BBC iPlayer get £12k to spend but the contract says that ONLY the male does the wedding planning, decide on the wedding dresses etc etc etc! lol
its only stressful if u make it so.. you should just make things simple and not try to pls every1 just see wats important to you and your partner..
To the original poster, A|ex - if you want to marry this person that it will be worth it in the end. All the hard work of planning will pay off. It will come quicker than you know. In the UK it's tradition for the father of the bride to pay for the family, but it doesn't always turn out like that, anything goes here nower days I guess. Anyway, good luck A|ex, like someone suggested, try and get a few people gathered together to help you - it will lighten the load
Well.. I prefer a wedding with both cultures... Chinese ánd Dutch culture... Since I've grown up here and living here since I was born, I'm sure I've adapted culture of the Dutch as well... Make sure it's worth it... And all stress is ok. About the money issue, who cares?! =.=
