There is NO tradition. Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean, or whatever you are, you're bound to give something when invited to a wedding. You never go empty handed .. even to regular friends' parties. What to give depends on the closeness of your friendship with your friend/s .. breakdown can be like this: 1. colleagues/reg friends/subordinates = gift (pic frame, bed sheets, cookware, etc.. check out wedding registry) 2. friends (ok - close but not close enough) = $ or £ 50-100 3. very close friend = $ or £ 250 - 480 4. close and best of friend = $ or £ 488 - 4899 5. family (sis/bro and in-laws) = $ or £ 8899 - 100000 If you're a poor dude, just give whatever that's practical. I am sure they'll understand. After all, it's the thought that counts.
i see what you mean with the but sometimes 8 gives the money luck for the new family etc etc... unlessi m wrong only time when i swa the nine's when i was a "gee mui" at a wedding and we asked for 99,9999999 lol
^ 8899 .. the 88 means "fat" not necessary "fat choy" .. wealth in Chinese terms can vary from luck, money, baby, etc .. whilst 99 means forever. When you talk about business grand opening .. you usually give 6688 or 888 .. 66 means "on-going" and 88 means "growth" ..
^ sry .. coasters? are you kidding me?? who give coasters as wedding gifts??? That's like worst the being poor and might as well be thoughtless.
lol... nooooo some ppl have a registered list of gifts they want... and coasters r usually the first to be ticked off puahahaha...
^ whether it's expensive or not .. for wedding gifts, most want either cash or something practical .. who really want crystal or glass coasters? It's fragile and not everyone uses it. It's basically JUNK and most likely be on the list of being re-gifted to others.
well many gifts are considered junk, depends on if they use it or not, well then why is on the gift registry in the first place? coasters can be used as a decoration on the shelves... to be, anything other than cash or computer-related stuff are useless to me so it really depends on what they want it for
we should just end this thread with the OP giving cash as anything else would b uselesss most likely and the couple needs money to cover wedding costs...unless its a cheap wedding
seriously i don't like the idea of a wedding at all, you get invited, you are bound to pay an amount no matter if you attend or not and all these recycles when you put up a wedding and you invite him back... you "should" pay more because he/she is your best friend, and you invite some, and may have left other behind, they start to wonder if you dislike them or something... i either try to keep a distance with friends (and MAYBE pretend i didn't receive the invite OR say i was out of town, so that if they need to put up a wedding, they won't invite me or a vacation wedding as my gf suggested, no need to invite anyone, rather spend the money for a better honeymoon -^_^ i am already tried of attending those banquets (along with parents when i was a kid), you pay this amount, and i have to walk out to another store to grab food
Well, gift registry have all the practical items if you choose not to get a gift. Most ask for sheets and cookwares; something they can use everyday. Most couple like to reserve the crystal and/or whatever for display to be picked by themselves ... something meaningful to them ..know what I mean??
