Well I have a personal problem about having a baby at this moment because of some reason but if you want I will private message you that reason... However I agree with whoever just said female is becoming head of households coz I shall be that head of household not my BF hence I have plans to have 2 careers anyways so I will be gauranteed steady income even if I do end up getting sacked from my original career because of my maternity leave wakaka
nah .. that's ok .. it's between you and your bf .. just don't plan too much because things hardly work out as expected and to force yourself to follow the exact path will only make life difficult for yourself. life should be full of surprises good or bad .. not planned ... Woman being HOH .. not in my home .. more of HOK .. lol ..
Planning is not a bad thing. Hence back ups are always there to make things work out haha. Of course I will be HOH coz I don't plan to move out of my parents home since they will be retiring soon and the house is too damn big for just the 2 of them so I will be living there to also help pay the mortgage to gain more respect from my dad and hopefully get the title deeds to it before both my parents pass away so that I don't get taxed 40% for inheritance tax >.< And yes I have told them that too so I am not being greedy but I will not pay 40% to the State for something my sister and I can own fair and square Also I will also get my family business too along side with my career HAH!
dang your pretty lucky there bb.i have to start from the bottom. i'll be done with school this year then chase after my master. 3-4 years later smacking real estate in California/Hawaii. open a shop with my friend.
I don't know but the fact that your bf lives at your home is rather disturbing. I can understand, husband .. but BF .. nah .. I will disown my daughter if she does that. It's unacceptable in my household.
he didn't move into the household just like that, of course my mum and dad decided whether to let him move in or not and they allowed it since he had no where else to live and that they have known him for a year already and the fact I have brought my BF home to the family and see them like the etiquette that you are talking about on your other posts
It's good that you introduced your bf to your parents if ya'll are serious about your relationship. HOWEVER, you don't cohabit especially in your parents' home. Ya'll should move out on your own or something. Ya'll are adult and should know better. Perhaps your parents are generous and easy going people .. it's still wrong. You don't mind your bf leeches off your parents? Your parents are only responsible to raise to 2 kids (you and your sis).. not 3 .. hello. What are you going to teach your kids later? It's okay for them to bring their bf/gf home and live??
We have moved out and tried, rented our own place etc. and my dad invited for us to move back in... That was the situation... All my boyfriend had to do was to work for my dad to pay back like rent if you get what I mean? Coz I originally work for him and I don't get full pay if we were to live with him (i.e. i get paid fully if I have had moved back out) Also he doesn't even use much, the idiot hardly eats and all he uses is the electricity for his computer mainly... We are not taking advantage of them and we have literally stuffed money back into my dad's hands for what he has done he wouldn't accept it. At the end of the day we have done what we could do in all scenarios. EDIT: atm, we are living out on our own as I'm at uni, we don't have help from my dad, we both have work to gain money to survive. So that is not acceptable in your eyes? I mean even when we do move back to my parents after uni or when I transfer back home, is it wrong to live back there even if we was to contribute on helping paying off the mortgage, helping out family business/errands etc?
LOL .. BBG .. I respect your family decision because that's you and your family's dealing. Every household has its way of dealing with matters. For me personally, I see that you put your parents in an awkward situation. They love and respect your decision; but have you once thought about them, being in their shoes? My daughter hasn't even graduated from univ yet, is engaged to a White man, living together, and under my roof. Should I say NO and put my foot down, she might just move out and be on her own (which I don't think she'll do well since she still hasn't grad from univ) or be struggling having to juggle univ and work (could affect her health) or I might not see my daughter again, etc .. all these thoughts .. out of love for you. Helping your parents when you grow older is a natural thing. I don't understand why you have to be paid to work for them. (ya'll are beyond the years of getting allowance) After all, like you said, your parents will eventually pass on the businesses to you and your sis. To me, that's like a household chores. Seriously, they didn't get paid when they gave birth to you and provided clothes, roof over your head, and all. I must say, your parents are very generous and easy going people who love you unconditionally. In my household, you would've been kicked out of the house. It' s just out of respect for the parents. Now that's just my take .. hopefully, that didn't offend you.
The food I miss for CNY is Yee Sang which mean raw fish with some crunch stuff ie. carrot, deep fry wonton pastry etc.
