Friend or Family?

this is the most realistic answer you may read.

Going to your friend may upset your auntie, but on the other hand you hardly ever see her so what's the difference if you do see her this time?

Going to your Auntie, your friend may feel or most likely feel disappointed, however you can ask he/she what he/she would of done?

I think you should go to your friend because you face your friend more then you face your long distance auntie.

 

^but if she went to her friends instead, her parents will most definately lose "face"

 

wat r the times of the party?? adn wat time do u work? u should have booked off b4 =p

worst comes to worst ill go to ur friends party for u lol if ppl r getting drunk

 

dw your auntie will understand that you face your friend's more then you face her.

at the end it is your choice.

 

This is your solution. Call out of work for one friggin' day and make both parties happy.

OR if you don't want to do that, you can just swing by your friends place, chill for a bit, give him/her your present.. then explain to her that you have to visit your aunt, etc.. then bounce. Go to your aunts birthday, stay there until you got work.

 

ill go to ur aunt's party then lol

OMG!!! who has parties at 10am!!! lol thast not cooool.....u should tell ur friend to have the party at nite instead so then u can do all 3 at once .. 10 is just too early!! but u can still go there for 1 hr then go to aunts rite?

 

^Haha, obviously, this ain't no drinking/dancing birthday party. I'm thinking it's more of a get-together birthday thing.

 

ur cold blooded... :nono:

 

Sounds like plan but you don't hafta lie. Just call in work for a leave if both birthdays are so important to you.

 

i mean you could always take a day off or call in sick, but if you cant... family is always first no matter what
if he/she is a tru friend then they should at least understand where your coming from

 

did u have fun at leastt...day wisee

 

After reading the whole thread, I'm glad your friend was understanding about the whole thing. Just one observation in hindsight; that is, friends you can choose, family you cannot. Friends who are real friends will stick by you and be understanding (even through personal loss to themselves). Family are more like obligations (similar to taxes, LOL...); you really don't have to like it, you just have to do it. The danger if you don't is that families who don't stick together soon fall apart (as in, next year you won't get a birthday card from her, etc).

A good and real friend would be disappointed, but certainly see that with family, there is very little leeway. I think in this case, that was why your friend was so understanding, she's mature enough to understand the obligations involved, and she's putting your needs ahead of hers and making very little fuss about it. That's a real friend indeed.

Oh, and calling in sick, though a real option, is a poor one as it relies on deceit. You have to make peace with your personal sense of ethics, and if your boss ever finds out, it would lower their expectations of you. Granted, from what you stated, its family as well, but work responsibility is still there; don't call in sick unless you really have too.

Enjoy the day with your Aunt, and be thankful that you have a good friend.

Ralph

 

agreeing ralphrepo... family comes first, u can't choose them.. a true friend will understand... and u could always make it up with her another time.

 

but where's the fun in that!? dancey1