thats a good point. u sed u wanted him to ask u to get back with you but if he didn't it could have been that he was trying to break up with you but you asked first. either that or he doesn't really care about u so i don't think u should try to get back with him.
I'll one up myself. Maybe your ex was already going out with someone because he was bored with you. And he didn't know how to break it to you because he doesn't want to be the bad guy. And you helped him by breaking up with him.
if ur relationship was so amazing u had to use words like "gah" n "ugh" to describe it wot makes u think him asking for a second chance will do u guys any good?
or is he one of those guys who just kind of accept their fate? i'm not saying your ex is a pushover but knows that when impending doom comes, it's gonna come so why try and change it?
well... maybe its more something like an ego thing... when i broke up with my ex bf....i didnt feel comfy when i heard that he was seeing other girls after a month (selfish i know (A) )..... i was thinking...wow...after 2 years dating ur "over me" within ONE month? Also i was thinking...oh shit...hes gonna have a new gf....what if i let a good guy go!!?? i felt twisted...and started to have second thoughts....about whether i made the right decision or not.... i called him....he asked me out again...he asked for a second chance...and i gave it to him... bad idea....after a few months i saw his negative things....again =/ and had to break up with him again.... sooo....maybe its the fact that he didnt beg u for a second chance....that makes u wonder? if thats ur reason to want him back...i advise u to leave him alone.... dont go to the same thing again twice... oh and about excitement.... it depends on the guy yes, maybe he is a boring bloke... but also...after u have a relationship with someone for a longer period....its always gonna feel less exciting i guess...
^ you broke up with him because of negative things? and got back with him? well.. i wouldve dump the girl and go away, never return, if it was negative things lol i wouldnt be able to stand them..
its easy to say....when ur in a relationship with someone...u always hope ppl would change.... and after we broke up....he convinced me that he changed....and we got back together.... needless to say he was still being the same old him....
ppl lie about changing... its only to get back with the person who dumped them. one of my friends did the same as u and she dumped him after 2 weeks
^ i find that stupid... most of the time, when they lie about changing, they dont even know what TO change..
@ wong: yea..i know that by now...hence why i dont think id get together with someone i broke up with anymore... i admit....a part of me felt a bit lonely and i wasnt used to having nobody to call whenever i felt like it or someone to share little things with....thats what i think kaitou is going through its kinda stupid to give it another shot...because before u broke up with him...i assume u already told him u find him boring and all that? cuz before i broke up with my ex i did tell him what was bugging me all the time he just wouldnt change...but i was being optimistic and then went soft after he told me stuff i wanted to hear i guess... i thought hed really change... but after a while...it was the same as before... and i couldnt take it anymore... so i broke up with him again =/ we didnt keep contact this time and id bump into him while clubbing sometimes....and we'd just say hi and talk for a bit...i think hes a bit mad at me hes still being him....he still hasnt changed...at least thats what his friends tell me @ dann: sometimes they do know...and probably do really want to change...but dont know how to i guess?
the person just says i have changed please take me back..... then the other person is so stupid to take them back. (don't take this the wrong way. i'm not calling u guys stupid. i even called my friend which is a girl stupid)
Hmmmm.....thats not what he made me believe....seriously....and like i said....part of me was not used to being single & other girls wanted to have him... so i was like a bit jealous.... which made me think....oh shit...if i dont take him back now.... i might regret it!
i think u should of learned now not to regret the things u've done. after i broke up with one of my ex's, i kinda regretted it but lucky for me i didn't get back with her. i kinda regret breaking with one of my other ex's, but it was only for the best. but she looks fucking hot now after puberty hit her
hehe.....it might sound weird....but i dont really regret getting back with him....if i didnt....a part of me would still be wondering... at least now i know hes not what i want....and im better off without him aaah....all about looks now?
no not all about looks.... she is really a good person too. she is one of my ex's that i keep in touch with. we talk sometimes and go out to have drinks too.
i would like to give him another chance, but I want to know him all over again. I was so strange when we were together. So i'd like to start off with a blank sheet. Depends on fate. Whatever happens, happens =/
^ Good luck on trying to start as a blank sheet. Its not going to be easy because many situations create a deja vu sensation and we tend to fall back into the trap of being *prejudice*.
Hmmmm....but u sure about WHY u want to do it and those are the right reasons? You want to know him all over again =/....does he even know where he went wrong? Also if its his character....its really hard to change woh..... Anyway, If you really wanna do it....all i can say is....good luck....hope things work out for u guys then......!! -flow
