that is so harsh but in SOME ways true! but in all fairness though you are totally screwing over your current bf. you shouldnt be with him if you still love your ex. your bf is patiently waiting for you to make a commitment to him and here you are wanting to be with another guy! dont make your bf wait for you if you dont want to be with him especially if he's a nice/sweet guy. let him be with someone that wants HIM! you need to breakup with your boyfriend. it's not fair to him or you when you dont care about him. you're being selfish by keeping him in your life. he cant be your backup in case your ex rejects you. as to your ex. if you want him so bad take the chance and tell him. and honestly, if you love him that much you would re-locate to be with him. you sound like you're either in uni or in a career now so you should be able to. stop being indecisive about things and take the step. if he says no then you know and can actually move on. in my mind, there is no "dream guy". there is an ideal guy for you but no one can be perfect. dont put him on a pedestal and compare every guy to him.
Well said babs i totally agree with u!! Don't hold on to someone you don't feel right with ur wasting your time and his....they guy is patient coz he likes u, stop this now u can still be friends but if u carry on there's no going back you could end up with none of them!!
if u love this kid, be happy for him for wateva his decision are, they say. it's fated that he's not the one for u or the one for u. there's more to life than being down for this dude. either u get him or u dont........ panicking, screwing around wit urself, nervous breakdown, angry, etc, etc, wont do u any good. there's notin u could do to get him back again. Those who challenge faith, r suicidal.........(Im one of them). If my girl decides to leave me, ill just join the army/navy and do something good wit the rest of my life because i kno for a fact that i cant take it. So ill let faith decide whether ill survive in the army or not.
jli how to say this... you are some fucked up asshole. she has to deal with this shit and your telling her to jump off a bridge? you are one sicko. instead of being fucking retarded why not try to understand how shes feeling.
why you gotta be so evil? what's your problem? it's one thing to give constructive critism but another to be such an ass. next time you want to post a comment/response do so with manners or maybe you should be the one to jump off the bridge.
i dont find the need to be nice to people like her. it is not me being an asshole, i am just expressing what i think about these kind of situation. she should expect to get these kinda comments already before she post because what she going through right now is not acceptable. i thought only guys are unfaithful but i found girls worse. sigh. cant blame no one because we all live in a fucked up world enjoy your two men and hope you can get with both of them so you don't have to worry about losing either
The world is like that, we are human, we are controlled by emotions and instincts. And when we are in love our common sense will always wonder off. At the end of the day we all just want to be happy. Whether its making yourself happy or wishing someone else happiness. I understand from a third persons point of view she may sound unfaithful to her guy, but if she is not happy then she needs to seek out the answer that will stop her discomfort.
Thanks for the comments and suggestions. Even the negative ones, though i agree with dave709394. But whatever your circumstances/past experiences, i won't judge nor comment. As for the situation: Right now: we (ex & 1) have decided to maintain our friendship instead of diverting each other off our current paths. The (friendship) bond between us is open and honest, and that's more important to me than another attempt at a failed relationship. I've wished him well with his new interest. The guy i'm dating. He knows. He understands my past and is fully aware of the situation. He has admitted to the fear of losing me due to the guy, however, he understands that some things are either meant to be or not. We also have a very open and honest communitcation. So.. Both of them have been VERY understanding, to the point where we can all get together and be civilized. They are bonding, perhaps to ease any awkward choices for me, and they are getting along. Perhaps time will tell, this situation has turned out better than i've ever imagined, so even though it's different, it's a positive one. I will keep you posted.
yeah sure but with a girl ofc for some reason i feel sorry for the dude cus it seems like you would drop him like a bad habit if the other guy asked you out. also seems like commitment would no longer be an issue....
Ya I agree with g. It doesn't really seem fair to the other dude. I dunno though, that's just me. In my relationships, I've always been very sure that I was emotionally committed and that it was something I wanted to pursue. I know not everyone is like that though.
I know what you're saying, and i've expressed that to him as well. But he really wants to try, so to compromise, we're just taking one step at a time, but really slowly to make sure our steps are going the right direction.
well at least he has agreed to the compromise. its always gd to go step by step that way, everybody is sure of what they are doing.
