I just got an email from my female colleague. She thought the kiss was nice and was waiting for my call (didn't know that) but didn't hear from me, she was questioning herself until she found out that I was married through another staff member (ok, i don't wear a wedding band) She apologized for the kiss. She thought my appearance and clothes don't look like someone married (hmm .. we all wear suit, how can you tell who's married and who's not) Anyway, that's the update .. I haven't reply her mail yet ... I am rather flatter that she still thinks I am young ... lol
She was the one that start flirting and kissing you? You just kissed her back, right? I know for a man it is sometimes difficult to reject such an offer. But honestly from begin on you should make it clear to her that you are married and don't want to mess around with other ladies. I am sure, that she will not take further steps. Now you give her false hope, that's why she was waiting for your call. I know it is sometimes difficult to admit that you have made a mistake. The only thing you should do is make it clear to your colleague that you only love your wife. You made a great fault and apologize to her and make sure that you never make this fault again. Because maybe next time you are not so lucky and meet a crazy girl, that will ruined you marriage.
here we go.... the person who shouldnt feel guilty at all think guilty....she didnt know....*sigh* hey dont u care abt what ur colleagues thnk of u when they hear u kissed a random while ur married.... they might have a bad image of u lol
Think of it as this way, what would you think and feel if your wife did the exact same incident to you.
OKAY .. here's my answer to you people who asked me about how I would feel if my wife did the same. I don't mind if the incidence was unintended and unplanned ... in my situation, the gal made the move first .. anyway, I DO mind if my wife makes the first move. @MissCheek .. there weren't anyone around but yeah .. I am not too worry. If anyone under me talk shit behind my back and I heard it, they'll get the ax on the next lay off list that comes around my desk; those above me, I'll get even .. lol Did that answer your question?
my take after reading most of the posts is that u had no intention of kissing her but she liked u and kissed u. u prob was surprised by it all and so u took the kiss and could not push her back by the shock. stuff like this does happen. though i do think u know that by allowing her to kiss u, u did something wrong and as much as u constitute and try to keep telling urself its not cheating it kind of is and u know that. however, it is nothing major at all as u didn't have any feelings towards the kiss. but i do think u should tell ur wife. if she rele loved u she would understand and it shouldn't rele be anything major. besides u've built up a large amount of trust before this to get married in the first place and ur marriage should most def survive as she would understand that this was not expected and not intentional by urself which is the main point. i mean if i had a wife and she got kissed by someone, i wouldn't mind if it stops there as i can understand that sometimes people make mistakes and u are unable to push them back due to the surprise and shock of it all. as long as she didn't purposely do it and there weren't any feelings then it's fine as a kiss is rele nothing much. however, if it went further then the whole situation would change.
let's just say this is all a mistake and you had no intention to continue anything else further to hurt your family and wife or even to ruin that...
You dont feel guilty because you didnt get caught. Even so, it's not a good sign. Imagine if your wife did it to you.
Oh wow .. you're right on except the part of telling my wife. Honesty is the best policy ... if she asks me, yes .. ain't gonna tell her just like that .. Like I said earlier, women usually have scary imagination.
Still loving your wife and ending up kissing another girl is one thing...but not feeling guilty about it at all? I don't know about that one. There are couples married or not who heave been together for a long time who go though this probably due to lack of passion or but I'd say they would typically feel guilty if they did end up turning to another woman for it.
Most probably cos the relationship with your wife is stagnant tho you love her but things are getting boring so u need some excitement Its between love and infatuation.
The only advise that I want to give you is that you can better tell her the truth. I am sure when you wife ask you that question, you have a major problem. Now you have the opportunity to tell her. It is better that you tell her the truth then that she finds the truth by herself.
I agree this... if I had a husband and he did this to me... I'd rather hear it from him than from any other person... maybe I can forgive this one time... but hearing it from others would give me such a feeling that I can't trust him at all...
^ when you're married and in the same situation, tell me then if you still think it's better to tell your spouse about it. personally, i am not gonna take the risk of creating unnecessary problems for my marriage.
or she'll find out herself... and blame you for everything you did... even it was not planned and not your fault.
