[FONT="]seems to be lacking intimacy[/FONT]? lol this reminds me of the story that some one posted about the cheating husban and the girl dew.
Love? are u sure what you know is love? what you did was probably lust....... booty call hahhhaah I don't know any of this... i am clueless about love so all for lust
^lol yes i do understand ur point of view... but that doesnt change my point of view, so i think u dun understand
hahaha yes... you're only thinking from YOUR point of view... what if the same happened to you... "your wife kissed a colleague, didn't feel guilty at all and not telling you?"... would you appreciate because "she wanted to save the relation and that's why she didn't tell you"?
^ the difference between my wife and I is that I am secured about myself and our relationship .. cough .. WOMEN are different than MEN .. always imagining things .. putting even the smallest stuffs into their head and they can totally blow things out of proportion. I assumed those of you here are "girls"; not WOMEN per se ... lol
You can't make it up by telling she's different from you... BIGGEST difference is that she didn't cheat on you and you did! Coz even kissing without purpose is still kissing the other. And erhh... All your doing (kissing blabla) is because of your definition of "your difference" (I'm secure about the relationship).
Number 1 - Never shit at the same place as where you eat (don't mess around with somone you work with) Number 2 - If you really loved your Mrs like you said then you really need to find out what the meaning of love is Number 3 - Like all the other people said "go get a root" but grow some nuts and tell your wife Number 4 - Maybe you don't feel guilty cause your heartless Number 5 - If you cheated on your wife and you weren't even drunk, can't imagine what your capable off when you are
I agree that you shouldnt tell you wife, so long as you still do love her, cause yes it will cause problems however your lack of guilt (from what i am reading) is worrying
After reading countless comments on your post you seem to take the defensive on everything people tell you and you don't seem to be looking for advice it seems more like a rant. Everything people say you throw it back at them just because it don't sound right to you or not your point of view so to speak. Well thats what getting advice is all about listen to what they say and say thank you why are you even arguing? If you think not telling and your wife because she will make the biggest thing out of the littlest then by all means tell her nothing. if you do and hurt your marriage then stick with your first choice don't say anything. But please understand woman or man isn't really a arguing point. Like many said how would you like it if she did it to you? and you came up with " the difference between my wife and I is that I am secured about myself and our relationship" well if you are so secured about it you wouldn't kiss a chick while you were sober. You wouldn't be feeling not guilty for something you did wrong. You are just avoiding your mistakes and giving yourself an excuse because arguing HERE won't do you squat...... Just cause you can convince yourself online that you are still in love and secure about your marriage it doesnt mean ANYTHING. If you think you what you did wasn't wrong hence you not feeling guilty then by all means put it behind you ignore what happened and deny everything. BUT if you do think you did something wrong then either make up by what you did by making sure you won't do anything to hurt your wife anymore or again deny everything still and take it to your grave.
It's definitely not fair to your wife. Why did you get married in the first place? I really don't think you were ready for marriage....are you 21 years old? So, I'm assuming that you got married in your early adult years or late teens. Most of the couples who are married young tend to cheat, because they feel that they did not experienced love relationships with other girls. You are not settled for a family life, at least not now. The reasons that you don't feel guilty may be: #1) You don't love her as much as you think you do #2) There is an empty void between you and your wife #3) You are still young and not matured for a family; you just want to fool around Go get marriage therapy! What's your zodiac sign between?
Okay... everything ENDS here .. I was wondering why I felt certain way after what had happened .. hoping to find some answers and I finally did on my own .. but the responses here ... some just sounded so off that I think it was plain silly. i do appreciate "those" thoughtful comments nevertheless.
^ your just too stubborn to take any advice thats different from what u wanna hear.. thats why u wave it off as silly....*shrugs*
yes i do agree with cheeks here but u also have a point about some of the advice being silly though tbh they don't rele count as advice. but at the end of the day, it is upto u and no one is forcing u to take the advice. i mean i think u and i both know that deep down u would want to tell her and that is the right thing to do but u just can't face that fact as u don't want to deal with the consequences that happen with it and to lose the relationship. this is highly understandable but from what i usually believe what a marriage should be, it should be an agreement of trust whereby one person can tell the other what they are feeling and what they have done. so rele it is in ur best interest to tell her and to accept what happens. i guess u do have a point when u say that women blow things out of proportion as from studies, women overthink and are overcautious compared to men. on the other hand i think that the consequences of this previous action all depends upon the way that u tell ur wife. if u make it into a big deal then ur wife will but if u just say it casually like it was no big deal then i'm pretty sure ur wife will be alright with it and this will then be better and there will not be any problems later on in the relationship if she does find out what happens from someone else. as if she does find out and u haven't told her, the relationship is much harder to salvage, well at least from my point of view.
tthat will be a whole new prob which i think can lead to divorce between him and his wife. play play can as long as not emotional attach hahaha
