You can't fix the main cause of the boring personality by "polishing the leaves", while "the root are main problem" you can try to "do" the 'exciting' things with them, but you are not "being" an Authentic exciting person in the core and the Rotten Root is just a plain old common garden variety FEAR the fear that most human's have, the most addictive fear of all We all have this ABSOLUTE, iron-clad belief that OUR happiness, OUR survival, in fact OUR very existence is dependent on people……Liking us…… Approving of us Desiring us. Seeing us in a certain way. This unconscious belief is buried deep in our bones. This is our core fear. And it is the energy and presence of this fear that paralyses us and stops us from participating in and enjoying all the joys and pleasures of life. It is chronic fear of what other people think of you. And we are all addicted to it……..100%! It is this ‘ ego Structure’, worried about how the person you are with is perceiving you –that won’t let you really relax and go out and do what your heart desires. And what is causing this ‘Ego Structure’ of yours so much concern …… this terrible addiction and NEED for human approval and acceptance. That part of us that desperately believes (and it’s only a belief that we have always blindly assumed was true) that it MUST be seen, approved, needed and desired. And because we all believe this, we CAN NEVER TRULY relax and let go. We FREEZE. This compulsive concern we have with what other people think of us seems to be almost hard-wired into us. It subconsciously colours everything we do. It is like a psychic parasite that lives in us, sucking away all the pleasures in life we could enjoy, leaving us with only a tiny trickle. This parasite is our neurotic self-concern. Our obsessive self-consciousness that stops us from relaxing, letting go, and surrendering to the moment and enjoying the infinite pleasure and natural intelligence of our body. But to experience any of this, we need to be open, relaxed, free, and unconcerned. .. so what's the solution? To be a ‘nobody’. You fear nobody because you are perfectly content to be a nobody. to be continued
someone already write an article describing 'being a nobody' , there you go https://billwalz.com/On_Being_Nobody__II_IUDO.html , no more comments from me
Girls don't know EXACTLY what they want, they say they want one thing today, but don't want it tomorrow. To be an EXCITING Boyfriend, you have to be unpredictable.
Simple. 1. Keep his cool 2. Pretend nothing happened..then slowly..ever slowly move away from the bitch... 3. Tell the chick you never loved her and how you get nauseous the mere mention of her name!! 4. Tell the other members of the forum how fake she is..then have a field day talking about what makes her such a loser... 5. Have pictures of your real life partner uploaded on your profile pic..just to let here know that she was NEVER the one in YOUR heart! Ditto! This makes the best boyfriend..ever!
Surprises are always nice from a simple piece of paper in the fridge to a romantic fancy dinner. But every girl is different so you'll have to know your girl first, not all the girls like spontaneus and crazy things.
