^ lol i rememebered my parents never took things away from me as a discipline.. more like standing at a corner like the naughty corner for hours in the middle of the night, torture i say as i gets tired all the time
^ooh and i always get slapped on the face as well.. not the bum or the hands.. the face!! >.< and hell my mum's slap is hard
lol the face, your mom is old sk00l, they should bring back spanking or whipping or whatever it was to schools too. no more kids defying teachers then and the kids can learn to respect people even if they have parents who cant be bothered to teach them. i remember walking down the road and the kid (maybe 3 or 4) was swearing at his mom proper, and she couldn't do nothing about it, she looked so embarrassed.
^ lol she is and wonder why i don't cross her, even her angry look scares me and is enough discipline to tell me something bad will happen if i go further, only my sister dares to cross it but never gets a happy endding but she gets it easy tho kinda as she gets slapped on the bum and grounded from TV, i have to go through the pain!
^ Thats how it should be, but slowly over time the media has brainwashed us into believing that its bad to do that, forget time-out
^ i believe in smacking kids when they are very naughty and the fact there is nothing else to do apart from hitting them
^ i duno, they cant tell me how to raise kids anyway, 90% of them have kids who are basically drunks and disobedient.
^ OMG YOUR SIG. i stared at it repeating like 10 times because i was like ... IS THAT AN ASIAN KID O.O man i used to think that my mom beating me was wrong but now i see that there was a reason for it >:
Just make sure not to abandon him, as saying something that you are a lost case or trash. You need a lot of patience when it comes to a teenager. It seems that everyone has agreed to send him in a camp, but I am against this idea. I am not a mother, I am still young, but if I was the 15yrs old little guy, and my parents is sending me to another place, I will feel like .. they don't love me or just don't want me anymore. (Which is not a very good idea) But, everyone has their own jugement on feelings so, you will have to know what is wrong, what is the problem first. Don't do anything as long that you don't know what is the cause of his behavior. If your aunt and uncle do really care about their son, they should put more time on him, try to understand .. find out the reason of his behavior. As long they are patient, show him what are their worries/loveand let him discover how he's acting like a j*rk. I'm sure hie'gonna be ok soon. I suggest that they talk to that young man to understand his feelings or let him see a psychologist. Usually, when a kid behave like this, it's because the parents don't spend enough time with the teen ( that make him feel lonely especially if the kid don't have bro/sis ), he meet bad people ( but i don't think so, because you said that he like to play on Pc. Maybe on internet ... ) If it's not one of them, i don't know what reason cause this behavior.
in all honestly, when your kid go crazy mode and you lose control over it, you can blame a big part on it on yourself, most of the time you lose control over your kid because 1. you raised him wrong (spoil him, dont spend enough time with him, trying to raise him with old gen culture style) 2. wrong neighboorhood you live in 3. you let your kid hang out with wrong friends once he has gone so far that you dont know what to do anymore.. well ten most of the time its to late already.. lolz
It sounds as if your someone that he respects - He probably understands where your coming at since you speak english and see the world in a similar perspective to him - I'd be lucky to have a cousin like you;
yes, he does get quite condescending when talking to his parents because their english isn't great. plus he weights only 120lbs. i can snap him like a twig (i lift heavy weights) so i think there's some intimidation on my part. lol
Ahh i wonder if he smack talks on the net a lot imo there will have to be compromises on both sides, his and his parents, he is to old to just do as he is told now, that period of time has long gone.
my dad's english isn't very great too and i am not condescending towards him and be disrespectful to him, only time i lose respect is when your opinions clashes where his thinking is very Conservative Chinese whereas i'm very British doesn't give excuse for your cousin to do that I see why he gives more respect to his cousins because you lot are peers and he treats you like a friend as well as a relative, at the endof the day you should have snapped him earlier on coz now it is too late for him to properly change his attitudes
Not just boot camp, but Chinese boot camp. They should ship his ass overseas for a year; that alone should straighten his act out.
^ i dont think sending him to bootcamp should be an option cause he isn't as bad as you guys think he is....its just a teen's struggle...wat i saw on jerry springer and maury were kids that were FUCKED up and uncontrollable...and bootcamp may just add more anger to him and probably leave home
