as dr.phil would say take away privileges and hold a firm stance and act like a boot camp instructor instead of being a sissy parent , there's only 1 option which is to run away if he has the balls to do it you'll find out how small they become.
i remember when i thought about running away for a few days when i was younger mainly to worry everyone when it comes down to it, i had my backpack, 1 bottle of water, loaf of bread and my nun-chucks. didnt go thought with it, to much hassle and i didnt think it through, like the "were am i gona sleep" part >.<
have your aunt and uncle had an "adult" to adult chat with their son? ie - what he wants to do with his life? - maybe tell him when he turns 18, he will lose most of his current previleges that he takes for granted now? Because a lot of people will not change their life style until the "shit hits the fan"
Doctor Phil is right of course, in that you have to be firm in these situations. However, IMHO if his parents knew how to do that, it never would have gotten to this dismal stage in the first place. If anything, the teen already has his parents figured out; he knows how to push just the right emotional buttons to get what he wants. The bottom line here is, that the power or authority structure in that home has not only been long undermined, but it has been effectively usurped by the teen. How the parents can take back their mantle of authority is going to require a lot more than just the setting down of their foot, I'm afraid.
teenagers having bad behaviors are absolutely normal. At their ages teenagers are very rebellious. if you going to disciple them, things will probably get worst. My suggestion is the best way to teach your cousin is to let him know that his parents are hurt by his verbal abuses. When they get older. they will be nicer to their parents so is not a temporary thing.
Hmmm...yeah the kid is spoiled little brat. My dad never hit me but Mom and Grandma wouldn't hesitate whipping me one bit when I was a naughty kid <_< If he respects you then you can reason with him. Ask him if he even loves or feel anything for his parents? How would he feel if his parents one day disappeared? If he really says no then slap the shit out of him for me. If he says yes then you probably can found out why he's acting like this and maybe turn things around. It won't be easy but it's a start.
What everyone has said is valid to this discussion. I think the kid's gotten to an age where he's spoiled beyond recognition, situation is almost FUBAR here, but there's always hope. Well the parents aren't completely negligent, they are worrying about his behavior and considering sending him off to bootcamp. I'm just concerned that he didn't get beat or punished by his parents for laying his hands on his parents. That itself is a huge problem. I guess its really up to the parents for now, they really need to up their game and stand up to their son... for godsake talk to your uncle, he's getting whooped by his own seed, any man with a dick and two hanging nuts wouldn't have taken that shit, they would have beat the living daylights out the kid. His parents need to show him the ugly side of life, deprive him of all the luxary that he has, he has to earn it like a man. Its not just for his own good now, its for the future, because once he gets out and gets a taste of what is called LIFE, he will have extreme difficulties in adjusting to societie's expectations and standards, he'll probably get his ass whoopped to for acting like a bitch that he is. If all else fails, then send his ass off to bootcamp, the toughest one too at that. His parents need to smarten up.
I still remember the day I told my eldest (at the time he was 13) "You know I expect you out of this house when you reach eighteen, right?" He was ashen and speechless. Nothing like a little desperation to sharpen a child's focus.
pour uncooked rice on a mat and make him kneel in it for an hour.... well thats what my friends parents made her do when she was young Y_Y (must ave been horrible) but seriously all of his luxuries should be taken away, no computer, no internet, no bed (naw jk), and do you have any village relatives in like Guangzhou you can send him to??..... But yeah his parents shuold really have a face to face talk with him, and be serious. Don't let the kid get his way. The parents should reinforce the bond with him and tell him they actually care and thats why their doing this. Having a strong family bond is the number one way to prevent all of this in the beginning. The most important thing is the kid knows his parents care and the way he is acting hurts them all. but still, that kid is a peter pan peanut butter bitch
Finding the root problem as to why he is like this is the way to go around it. It's just finding out a way to do it. Maybe try and find some 'behavioural therapy' doctor. And see things from his point of view (not saying he is in the right of course) but if you sort of 'go to his level' maybe hang out with him a bit, do some of the things he does, you can gain his trust and have a talk with him about things, he may end up telling you more than you think. It sounds to me like he wants attention. I could be wrong on all of the above, but that's just my opinion.
