holy shit i just read this full thread right now and it does not deserve to be trolled like this lmao (i'm such a damn hypocrite sometimes...i try)....that update was friggin over 4 years in the making holy shit.
I know exactly how you feel..it goes the exact same way for me too. Well most of my friends are non Asian, and I would want an Asian boyfriend...but I'm practically the only Asian in all of the classes I take. I would like to meet or have more Asian friends, but in my entire life..I know about 4? max..and I wasn't that "close" with them either. I tried joining clubs as well..but it turns out the Asian guys there just isn't my type. :/
Its not just about getting a girlfriend, its about how to maintain a relationship without you being to obsessive (like being with her 24/7 which just annoys the hell out of her). Ponder on that as well.
Personally I have no issues approaching and talking to women but the problem I have is that I dont have a clue how to indicate to females that I like them and want to see them more often.
first of all... i dont think you should approach this question, yet, given the initial post u had... so its what 4 years? i hope u got one within these 4 years, but if not... and if others have this kind of problem... you needa ask yourself first if you are boyfriend material... relationships crash because it isn't this "ideal" relationship they want or "like" what others have ... and not all women will think u are ugly and too short, so get that out of ur head. you know if u are boyfriend material if you can see yourself with a girl you've been talking to for a while... and picturing yourself what you would do for her. to start that, learn how 2 talk 2 girls... brief and simple convo. simple way to practice is to have the balls to go up to a girl, greet them with a compliment, and end with a "nice day" or however u wanna end it. be natural about it and be prepared. interaction is the key. how she responds to the topic test how well you can reply back to her, dont choke. When you feel you get the hang of it and ur heart doesnt beat like 200 per min each time u talk 2 a girl, then find a girl with a common theme you can talk about... books, headphones, skateboard, bike... just find anything to have a conversation and ask if you may join them. I've tried these methods and i encouraged local friends 2 do this too because they have the same problem as this. This helps them boost their self esteem and feel comfortable being around women. So the more they get use to it, the better it is for them 2 have a conversation instead of looking at their girl parts, so 2 say. If this is too long, then advice to take is this... girls like surprises, spontaneous events, excitement... why is that? its because girls always expect the guys to do something first... strangers can always become friends... its not always friends through friends become friends... no dont always think that and, this is important, it is NEVER awkward, unless YOU think it is awkward... think about it, stay focus
You shouldnt look for it i think you should just let it come. Thats probably the easiest way, Dont find it! It will come to you! And be open to everyone talk to everyone i know a lot of people who ended up together, that you would never guess!
Probably said before already but join clubs in your school or something. That's a good way to meet people. And in terms of girlfriend, it's not embarrassing that you have never had one before. Just gotta wait till the right time and right person.
For sure join clubs, the people you think you know may not be who they really are until really get to know them, it couldnt hurt right? Also its not embarrassing to never had a gf before, just think of it as saving yourself for someone special to come into your life plus girls will think thats sweet and that youre a pig trying to get into their pants because havent been with many girls anyways No point in getting into a realtionship, breaking and then regretting it for the next 3 years
