here,the mentality of others are very different.The students will see you differently,will criticize you and one year is long!
take her for a walk downtown and point out all the bums, telling her that she will be like them if she doesn't work harder. harsh, but all too real truth
Well, from my experiences, intervention was a bad idea. We ended our friendship because they think that nothing is wrong and that it's none of our business. BUT if you can make it work, go for it, bud!
maybe let ur friend have a check on this thread: Sign of a bad relationship: http://www.dramasian.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17872 and espacially this one: good luck!!
Does she realise that it's wrong to play truant? Maybe you should try a different approach. Instead of pointing at her bf as the problem, try talking sense into her instead. Help her realise what is wrong with herself
Sad to say you can't do anything, if you try to help her she'll eventually think that you're quite annoying and ending your friendship, for those situation you must let her solve it alone. If she's unlucky, then she'll have to learn it through the hard way. Thats real true, we had one guy who repeated yr 12 but he fully screwed it up again and everyone has been spreading rumours about him repeating again...
^Hmmm...I think it's pretty much the same everywhere...once you got to repeat, people tend to look at you differently. Which is why I'd rather talk to her and let her find me annoying rather than just let her be. Cos for now she doesn't even know where the problem lies. At least I know I've done something
the best part about all this is that she has admitted she has a problem and asked you for help. This is an excellent sign. But whether she can deal with her issues depends on how serious she is about making changes. It also depends on how much insight she has into her situation. You must continue to support her, which doesn't mean neccessarily bugging her or making threats to her. Nor does it mean you just let her do what ever she wants. I'm interested in her relationship with her parents and whether they know about the situation or how they feel about their kid. Now you must be careful, because she has entrusted in you by confiding in you her situation. She may not wish for you to tell anyone about this. It's important though that if the situations does not improve or dramatically worsens, you should act in a reponsible way. You must let her know that, if you (ur friend) trusts you enough to let you know her troubles, then she should trust you enough to do whats good for her. You must tell her about this first before u let anyone else know. What I mean by support is to continue to listen to her. Note I said, listen. Listening is more important than talking to her and giving her advice. Listen first and then offer her your perspective. For her to change her situation SHE must realise and understand the situation she is in and SHE must be the one to decide to change, otherwise, change is not going to be effective or long lasting. As a listener you must be prepared to REALLY LISTEN.....listen to what she is saying, where does the problem lie? it could be the bf, but it may be something even deeper, below the surface. Seek professional help or support from someone u trust if you (yes, YOU, the OP) need further support, because you are at a very privileged position at the moment. If your friend is willing to seek professional help / counselling, that would be great. If not, then you, mj9, u r in a postion where u could really help out ur friend by being there for her and listeing to her. Like i said b4, listen to her. Listen carefully. Understand what she is saying and wot she is going through. There might be contridctions to what she is saying. You can point these out. She might feel there is no way out or there is no alternatives to her position. Help her by exploring alternatives and ways to achieve these alternatives. You may also get her to write out the pros and cons of her actions. Get her to wiegh them up and ask her to decide what she would rather have. Whether to get parents / teachers involved depends on her age and the seriousness of the problem and also her wishes. If she is in danger, the you MUST let someone know. hope things improve!
its the guy.....the ting is, nice girls are always easy to persuade, and he problem got to her.....shes in for a tough life....but the only thing you can do is to try to be the best of friends you can with her and just slowly change it back..but you know you'll have to spend a lot of time.....so you'll have to sacrifice a lot, but if you can get her back to b4 thats great.....smoking? wtf/////that aint right.... [mj9] we believei n you.....use the force....sorry not joking
