How You Forgive a Cheating Partner?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by toshina, Apr 9, 2008.

  1. azn822

    azn822 Well-Known Member

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    Some mentioned the length of the relationship, but if the relationship had lasted longer and s/he cheated, it would be all the more difficult. I wouldn't forgive; trust is like a tree, if it grows very large it'll fall very hard. I wouldnt see it as a mistake; it is common knowledge to know its detrimental effects on others which implies the love and care the 'cheater' actually has for their significant other.

    Out of curiousity, to those who would forgive, what if your significant other cheated on you with your friend?
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    #61 azn822, Jul 22, 2008
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  2. kontradictions

    kontradictions Well-Known Member

    I'd pretend I didn't know. Then when I'm making love to her, I'd poop on her chest and leave the room.
     
  3. if i've decided to forgive him then i'll have to pretend this cheating thing never happened... totally wipe it out of my memory storage... but most male would find themselves unable to do it...
     
  4. azn822

    azn822 Well-Known Member

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    its gonna suck for him when you get in another fight; you'll end up bringing it up.... watch
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    #64 azn822, Jul 23, 2008
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  5. ahhhhh nooooo... i dun bring it back up... that's the whole point of wiping it out of my memory storage... if i can't wipe it out i mite joke abt it but never bring it up at fights coz it wouldn't do any good...

    i've done that before... not that he slept with someone else but they made out n messed around (or so he said)... anyway... i bought it... forgave him n never mentioned it again for the rest of our relationship...
     
  6. sillumjay

    sillumjay Well-Known Member

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    no forgiveness for me... prob cos i am too stubborn to let my pride go that i was cheated on xD also if cheated on there would be a big trust issue after o____O insecurities will settle in and then eventually things could break down. OR on the otherhand you can be totally forgiving put the past behind you and forget that it ever happened ( which is pretty hard =P)
     
  7. lala_bel_tempo

    lala_bel_tempo Well-Known Member

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    ya true, trust is hard to gain yet losing it is easy. It will never be the same...best result is just leave her.
     
  8. darkfire531

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    i dun think cheating should be forgiving as someone already said drinking is no excuse
     
  9. Jamien

    Jamien Well-Known Member

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    Well the decision is totally up to you. If you've decided cheating is a big no no, no matter how accidental it was (even if it's his fault for drinking) then just break up lor.

    But if you've decided not to break up, you have to forgive him totally and start all over again. Allow him to gain your trust from the start again. If you can't forgive his actions then please break off. Because mentioning this incident again in the future will cause sadness and pain to both of you.
     
  10. jiavis

    jiavis Member

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    of course! just leave and there is no need to be angry
     
  11. sars4tw

    sars4tw Well-Known Member

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    Honestly, break up with her. Getting drunk is no excuse. She abused your trust. Your relationship will never be the same ever again. You will always have the thought of "is she cheating on me again".
     
  12. cicak

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    If you really love s/he, you will forgive any mistakes that she done on you. If you didnt, you might regret it in the future. haiz...
     
  13. an0nymous

    an0nymous Well-Known Member

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    cheat on her / him to make it even.
     
  14. renegade

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    There'll be no forgiving.. i told my wife.. if i find out you cheat on me.. i'll kill you then i'll kill myself.. :)

    It kinda shock her... hahah
     
  15. that is sick......... why not just divorce her and make sure you get to keep 100% of YOUR stuff lol
     
  16. themvp

    themvp Well-Known Member

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    Will NEVER be forgiven!!
     
  17. koolbeans14

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    i think forgiving someone is easy. its just trusting them again thats the big issue.
     
  18. Okiesdokies

    Okiesdokies Active Member

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    One strike and he's out.
     
  19. Flames

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    This is what you call torture :shifty:
     
  20. gawain187

    gawain187 Well-Known Member

    I will forgive a cheating partner after killing them, simple! You have to be cruel to be kind