i'm actually interested in your story now that she hasn't really given you a straight answer. these people criticizing you texting to tell her are quite rude. at least the guy told her. sheesh
but the other side is that, he posted this on public forum - that pretty means, he wants to know what do we think about it, right?
Well you know in the text i even said i know this was a stupid way to tell you. She did reply but it was unclear to she wants. And yea I was pretty much expecting these kind of responses anyway since it was a non-traditional way to do it. but after that day i did spend the entire day with her so i don't think she took it the wrong way
Man up and ask her what she really wants. Spending an entire day could mean several things, in a relationship like this, assumption is not the best way to deal with it. Its like hoping for something and down the road you might get an unexpected answer "oops, i thought you knew that i wasn't attracted to you all along by what i said before."
we're not being rude .. he asked us if it was stupid and we're answering him .. and it's because she hasn't given him a straight answer, maybe if he told her in person she would've. or at least you can see how she reacts to it and you can tell what she's really feeling. a response over texting could be fake, because he can't see what she's really feeling when she's texting that he's better than the other guy or whatever
i'll ask her about it before she goes overseas. i didn't want to get into anything serious because she was going to be gone for two months and that would suck to start something with someone that's leaving. i'm a pretty shy person and to be honest, it's my first time doing something like this. being that we're like in an age where technology is everything, i'd figure it would be okay <.<
You should never have told that it was stupid!!! There's no such thing as stupidity when you confess your love or hat you like her!!! now she might be thinking it was not that serious!!! believe me, where I am from, We would let our friends tell the girl and say "My friend likes you"......-lol
Saying it via sms isn't the smartest way... but hey... it worked for a lot of peepzz... so why should it be thát bad?! For shy guys it could be a good option actually... and especially when the 2 of you have sms-contact recently. Good luck with it! Just enjoy your time with her =)
For those that are interested in what happened, a couple days before Christmas she told me her plans about what she wanted to do with her life. She's a very beautiful girl, so naturally there are a lot of guys that are attracted to her. She told me something that was hard to take in, which lead to a question I had on mind about a relationship not relating to ours. Then she basically dropped a giant bomb on me. She told me she was probably not going to stay in this country for long and was probably going back overseas because that's where she has the most potential with the degree we will obtain once we graduate. I was pretty bummed to hear it but the timing could have been better. Since then I haven't spoken to her because we got into an argument before heading out to meet with our friends. I basically want to apologize to her before she leaves but I don't know what to say. I don't know what the state of our friendship is right now, but I hope it's fixable since we planned our semester to have the same classes together. Is she still worth it? or should I move on edit: ps in case you're wondering what type of person she is compared to me: she's pretty well-off in terms of status and i'm middle class.
^ good to hear an update =) I reckon u should move on... first of, she didnt suggest she wanted to get romantically involved with u or tell u she had feelings for u, second shes leaving anyways... n i think u should call her n apologize if u want to... dont regret not apologizing...n u dun wan her to leave with u guys mad at eachother....rightttt be a man n take the first step la ... girls are more "siu hay" its good to have a talk with her before she leaves so that u guys wont part with lots of questions on ur mind! talk = good! @aringpingpong: we dont live in a fantasy world, here on PA ppl give their opinion... so...yea...there u go he just has to suck it up
Thanks for the tip, I just hope we can still be friends. Otherwise, it'll be really hard seeing her for an entire semester
^dw la...im assuming that its not a big argument...n seeing u guys have been good friends before it will be fine .... maybe u can take the first step...call her n ask her if she wanna have a drink or somethin hehe good luck! -flow
