i dont know this is a harder question if its the other way around what if the gf said it to the bf instead ... I wonder how guys feel
I dont drink/smoke or do drugs. I know what you guys saying about how theyle take advantage of your forgiving of them. But i would hate it,(possibly kill myself) if for once in my life, made one mistake of getting drunk ONCE, and havin sex with another girl resulted in the love of my life leaving me. Yes, id probbaly tell my girl what happened, and im 99% sure shed leave me even though the only reason why i told her was because id love her enough to tell her the truth. Its easy for me to say right now that no i wouldnt forgive them. But putting myself in their *possible shoes, id have to say... its absolutely horrible if u dont forgive them for the 1st time. Most girls will probably not forgive though. Its been shown that guys are generally more tolerant with cheating partners then girls. Dont mean to be offensive, but to me, it seems girls cant put themselves in another persons shoes when it goes against their emotions, or whats accepted in the norm.
even though he's honest about it but i don't think i will forgive him...cheating is cheating...no matter if you are drunk or not.
Being drunk is never an excuse to do anything. Drinking doesn't mean cheating is allowed. I drink, just not to the point where I am drunk. There is a limit to everything and I think he crossed the line.
Drunk an excuse to cheat... that's absolutely weak! Its kinda like saying... "daymn! Sorry honey, I was horney, you weren't around, so I went out and ***ked someone... hope you forgive me."
if the relationship meant alot to me then i would need some time apart and think abit. its really hard to know the answer if soething like this never happen to the person itself. cause when it comes at you, it could be totally different.
Having sex with another person and using the excuse *i was drunk* should not be forgiven. Even if they were drunk, there is still some brain cell of his/her that should be telling him NO, im not suppose to do this, blah blah. its just an excuse they use to sleep or cheat on you. There are plenty more excuses that he might be using later on once u fogive him. Plus he told u the truth cuss he dont wanna get busted by you later on. so its just to reassure that he wont be beaten up later.
I don't know...I don't know such a situation and it depends on the person..I really don't know and I don't wanna know as well.
Being hammered isn't an excuse, should've knew his limits. i'm a guy and i have friends who have done it. you just give them a chance to use that excuse everytime.
being hammered is no excuse. he should've knew his limits. i'm a guy and i have friends who have done this. it jst gives them an chance to say that everytime they cheat.
being hammered is no excuse. he should've knew his limits. i'm a guy and i have friends who have done this. it jst gives them an chance to say that everytime they cheat. ah jst make him prove himself to you, done.
if it were me.....??? i would need a little time to try to forgive him. and then maybe give him another chance. but i don't think i'll ever be able to forget it. that situtation would have violated the trust issue. but if the cheating thing and getting drunk excuse was in his past, i would never take him back. every guy should know his limit when drinking, whether there's someone waiting back at home for him or not.
I never believe that being drunk is an excuse for cheating on someone. If you really cared about your partner, you'd know not to put yourself in such a position. If you intended to get drunk, then you probably would have known that there's chance that you'd cheat on your partner, and therefore, its no longer an excuse. Everyone's conscious of the decisions that they make, however most people does not like to think about the consequences of their actions until after the incident.
i know this is an old thread, but i still wanted to put in my input yes, some people go totally crazy when they are hammered, i have two friends who literally dont remember what they did when drunk, so even if they had sex, they wouldn't have remembered man, if i guy did that to me? i would have to rethink things being drunk is no excuse but right now, he did something wrong, everyone does something wrong sometime in their life, and he confessed it (which is amazing cause so many people would try to hide it) if there is really true love in there relationship, let it prevail else wise it will crumble within itself anyways, because the girl will be to nervous and become a total wreck. i think if you aren't in love with the guy, dump him, dont waste your time but if this is someoe you truely love, and would do anything for, well problems arise in all relationships, try to work through it although . . . i wouldn't let the guy off so easy, even if i was going to forgive him, i wouldn't let him know yet, ask for a break, make him feel the guilt!!! sorry evil girlness coming out anyways . . yea that's my input
I been drunk plenty of times and without my bf there with me and I never cheated on him. I been drunk where I dance with other guys, but my mind is always on him cause I love him. If he was drunk as he stated, he would have been lying on the floor or too drunk to even have sex. No matter how drunk you are and you can still have sex, your mind is still thinking and he should have stop himself, but he didnt....therefore he a cheater and been drunk is not a excuse. So next time he goes out and get hammered and cheat, you say it ok he was drunk? and in regards to not remembering what you did while you were drunk, yes that is true...there certain things I dont remember, like taking pictures of some guys or been in some pictures or saying something. but to have sex with someone you remember, you never hear someone that was drunk saying I don't remember having sex (unless they were drugged) but you do heard them saying, I dont remember her/his face but than do you remember everybody face that you met before once?
I don't think that drinking can be an excuse to cheat on ur other half. it is just hurtful when the other half finds out.
