they way i c it... hmmm... it's not a matter of how trust worthy he is... it's how well he covers up... or how forgiving u r... guys r only human... it's really hard to fight off temptation... if i was to get serious with a guy i won't go digging... n he must do his bit to make me happy haha... n if he's been naughty then he must do EXTRA!! -lol
Go see Adrianc or Ecko, they'll boost your trust in men. You mean if you are serious with the guy, you wont be digging his grave rite? hahahaha
that's rite... i won't dig into his grave nor will i dig into mine... he just gotta keep giving me the sugar time kills it slowly... marriage only speeds it up -whistle...
suggestion one: have sex in an usual place suggestion two: go have a second honey moon, i bet there are relatives, especially grandparents who would die to take the kids off your hands for a few days
Humans treat sex like a novelty, like it always has to be spicy and exciting. Unfortunately we are all born with the demand of marginal utility i.e. all the things that we desire are always great in the beginning, thereafter the more we have of it the satisfaction level increasingly declines. You can try all the superficial novelties written by sex therapists, but they are all short-lived. Develop your emotional intelligence (I.O.W. YOUR BRAIN) to learn how to foster strong relationships and learnings with your spouse & kids and you are on the high-road. To me this is the spicy part. This is easier said than done......and I think sadly a lot of us never get there because life and people are so complicated. And obviously there are the red herrings like sex and material things to distract us from getting the foundation in place. Confused? so am I.
I haven't been able to respond to all the replies. Hope this clarifies if you read it. It's not about sex. I guess it's easy to assume that it is when I used the word "spice". I was feeling a little down. Just felt the never ending routine and demands. I know what my responsibilities are (as wife, woman and mother) but I am also an emotional being. "Marriage does NOT kill sweet love you used to have." The love you had before matures. It may not be the heart palpitating experience that you used to have but it is at the level that will suit you as you mature. Like wine. Commitment is not for everyone and so is singleness. It does mean that you lack because you don't have and it doesn't mean that you are are complete just because you have. It's a learning and coping curve. How well you do depends really on God and yourself. Thanks for all your suggestions. It's good to know that there are people out there who care a little to put in a word or two. I am indeed not alone.
i don't really have any good advice for you. but i can tell you the truth is follow your heart, think what is right for you to be happy. i have 2kids and i am unhappy with my marriage, i have no more feelings for my husband, i'm still with him cuz of my 2 kids. i don't want my kdis to be in a single family. so i decided to sacrafice for my kids and i see them happy i'm happy
it is very hard getting 2 people together... but staying together is even harder... if u have a problem understanding maybe watch Revolutionary Road... or Eternal Sunshine For the Spotless Mind... no matter how much u love each other at first... things always change...
i'm married and have a kid and i think my relationship with my husband hasn't changed much. we still joke around and we enjoy playing with our son. i think it is important to try and find some time alone with your husband. get a babysitter for a sat. get brunch and go to the movies. you can try to dress a bit different to get his attention too.
