Two issues here right off the bat; the first, everyone already picked up on. That is, you have very little in terms of respect for her. Why that is so, is your own business; but it's frankly evident in the dismissive and insulting terms that you so freely chose to ascribe to her. Ad hominem labeling is generally an argumentative distraction when one debates with strangers; to use such denigrating devices when describing someone that one professes to care for is markedly revealing. You obviously don't appear to care anything for her at all, and likely view her more as a personal comfort object which has become disobedient. This would be similar to someone who gets poor gas mileage from his vehicle, which he then derides as his 'piece of shit'. Indeed, your entire focus centers around your needs and your dissatisfaction with how responsive (or lacking there of) she is, to those needs. The second point is, that these people (her friends) were a part of her life before you came onto the scene. Your expectation that she should distance herself from her past (important social anchors for her, but excess baggage for you) again focuses on you and your needs. But suppose these were her parents? Would you expect that she estrange herself too, from familial relations to satisfy your precepts and definition of where the parameters of your relationship with her, should be? Hardly. The flip side of course, would be if one of your own life long friends comes to you and tells you that he can't be friends with you anymore because his new girl didn't like you. Ridiculous? Of course; so now you may realize how you're coming off. How you or anyone chooses to live their lives and pursue their relationships is none of my business, but since you posted your question here, I gave you my honest opinion. I would suggest that you genuinely examine your own motivations and learn to view it from the other side as it may help you see that loving relationships are mutually nurturing, and not unilateral in importance or expectation. Good luck, ...to the both of you.
Lol, my personal experience in Epping Forest was fine! Maybe coz maybe we have managed to avoid what was meant to happen not too sure
ok... if i was a guy and my gf rather hang out with "friends" that makes her cry than me maybe that's indicating i'm not treating her the way i should... no sane person likes being around ppl who makes their life miserable... if she was happy being with u she would've distanced herself from those "friends" without having to be told... no likes following orders from their bf... i'm not trying to blame u for everything... but try to understand the girl... if she doesn't see things the way u do maybe u can try to see things her way and understand what she needs... if those are not her real friends she'll realise that one day and stick to her real friends...
i dont really wanna comment on this again but since a few ppl has comment on this, i think majority of you has taken this too simple, what i said in this thread ofc is not the full story no point in really writing in essay about my whole 1 year relationship, but i not saying your all wrong and i have taken consideration of all ur opinions etc In my opinion i think im fine the way i am im no love expert but just want a steady relationship i want things simple and straight forward with no one interfering
You know, it's hard to take you seriously when you resort to calling your gf all these names. Perhaps you two should show some respect to each other? I don't think it's always necessary to choose between friends and the gf/bf... balance means being able to handle both at the same time Life isn't healthy if you can only have one.
first of all calling your girlfriend all those names makes people wonder if you even really like your girlfriend or want to be with her so you might want to sit and think about that one. once you figure that out just keep in mind that communication is important in a relationship, talk to her and try and find out why it is that she is always around her "friends" maybe you'll get a different answer this time and will be able to work it out with her....
i think alot of people has said that u calling your gf a pussy is wrong, but in the other hand i get what you are trying to say, but u have to see from your point of view why your gf is acting like that, maybe you shoild speak to her friends about, plus dont you think you have a wrong in this to, as you said her friends dont like you and they always say negative things about, from this there must be a reason behind this, they wont just start stiring shit up if nothing had happen, but on the level i think u should think through what u do , plus i really think your gf need you right now, she must feel worser then you as she is stuck in between you guys...
