i treasure friendship more than partnership... but i guess it depends on how strongly i like the guy?... been in the situation b4... a lot of times.. each time, i stepped down =]
I don't think that is possible that friends can like the same girl/boy that much that that it will hurt they friendship. For me option B, because friends are more important.. Btw Lionheart You a back -shock
depends how close u are to that friend if your close friends then friendship > relationship but if that person is kinda like an aquaintance or something then hell its fair game and may the best person win
i would back off and let my friend go after the guy. i would put my friend before the guy as i would have known her for longer
^But Mun mun; sometimes we cannot judge how deep a friendship or relationship and determine its worth jz by time right? You may know this friend for 12 years and then you may come across a new friend for 2 months... but that new friend could be a much better 'friend' to you?
i would probably try to see if the girl is interested in me or not, cause there's no point to forced the issue, if she doesn't; i'll back out and try to help my friend to the best of my abilities. If she does, i'll tell my friend first that i like her and hope he'll understand, if he refuses, i would still tell him to have a fair competition and dont let one girl ruin our friendship (especially if he's a good friend) cause "there's plenty of fishes in the sea". no offense to the ladies.
if my friend kno him/her first then i would back off and help them...if it dont work out then i go for it.
I agree with babyrain. I used to belong in a trio (2 guys and myself). The two guys have known each other for more than twelve years. I've known them for... 4 years only. But me and 1 of the guys really liked each other and we totally hoped the 2nd guy would understand. I heard rumours that the 2nd guy liked me too. Let's call the 2nd guy L ok? L figured he couldn't have me so he forced the 1st guy to choose between me and him. And our trio got broken because he forced his friend to choose. Good friends don't force you to choose between 2 ppl who are impoortant to you. If they're really your friends they'd support you if both guy and gal decided to get together. And we're talking about ppl who've known each other for more than half their lives. So I still say just let your intentions be known and have a fair competition. If the girl/guy likes your friend more, back out and support them. Oftentimes you both fall in love with the same person and you can't both have him/her. And it's unfair to back out EVERYTIME.
I'd tell my friend that I liked the girl too and that the girl likes me (scenario b) lol. Then I'd ask if he's bothered by it. Next action depends on the response xD.
It all depends on your situation, but honesty is the best, and true competition should really determine it, just to make it fair.
If he really likes the girl, then its pretty much setled. Girl becomes forbidden. No point being with the girl knowing that your good friend is suffering and feeling hurt coz he couldnt be with the one he really really likes because of you =X
Friendship is most important, guys always come and go... for this scenario, it really depends on who the guy likes, if he doesnt like you then he doesnt like you and that's that
IMO...it does not depend on you and your friend only....You have to consider the third party...the main party....whether who he/she likes more.If he/she likes my friend more fair enough then...But, do not try and seduce that person to like you more..Its a fair competition do play fair people!!-innocent
