Social anxiety

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Jay89, Apr 27, 2007.

  1. xiaojia

    xiaojia Well-Known Member

    ^ lol.. and here for cheap entertainment?
     
  2. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Good point, looks like thats where we are heading. Lets host a social phobia PA gala. :p
     
  3. DuchSauce

    DuchSauce Well-Known Member

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    cheap but quality.
     
  4. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    no social anxiety here. i'm the loud type...the too loud type.
     
  5. Jay89

    Jay89 Well-Known Member

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    believe it or not, I was a loud type like 1 year ago.... but some of the things I said were weird; so people started making fun of me. That's why I dont talk anymore; because I am worried I might say something wrong..
     
  6. xiaojia

    xiaojia Well-Known Member

    ^ That is possible. but perhaps you need to re-evaluate? Instead of stop talking, find out wat is so weird.

    Perhaps its your frens who are strange and they make you feel strange instead? lol.. being the odd ball in a group doesn't mean you are wrong or weird. Learn to handle peer pressure. Not all that they do or say is correct.

    Then, if you really conclude that you are the problem, find out what makes you say weird things. Is it lack of knowledge? Insensitive to others? Or?

    Yea.. bottom line is, dun suddenly shut yourself down cos of what others think of you.. You have to be the one to decide who you wanna be :)
     
  7. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    most asians i know have social issues...odd...
     
  8. monkiesxrule

    monkiesxrule Well-Known Member

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    i was the loud one in class during elementary school. LOL!! then i got quiet in high school. i still act kinda crazy but just not in front of people i dont know. im really comfortable talking to close friends. i hate public speaking and talking to people i dont know. gotta get used to it since im going to college.
     
  9. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Yea, you should follow XJ advice. Shutting yourself to other ppl is not the way to solve the problem. Avoiding your "weird conversation" is not the way to deal with it as you would never improve yourself, best would be to have a talk with your close ones and find out where the issue lies and remedy it from there. :)
     
  10. skywalka

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    talking about eye contact,
    i saw something on tv about how asians feel its rude to directly stare at others, when talking to them, but thats considered rude in western culturee

    i get that sometimess, just dun wanna look straight at the face
     
  11. ch0ps7ix

    ch0ps7ix Well-Known Member

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    u know what..... theirs no point living life in fear so say what u want , do what u want, n act like u want..... if they laugh at u who cares(unless its ur friends) aint like they matter....and if it is ur friends ....y u trippin..... thats what friends are their for.... shyness just blends u in with the walls..... be loud n proud get noticed, u gotta fight enough in this world to be make something of urself
     
  12. asians have social issues? nah...

    its balanced out throughout every ethnicity.... youre gonna have roughly the same number of ill-social individuals in every race, not just asians..

    learn to go out to parties, hang out with friends, plan social events... or, you can learn public speaking to boost your confidence -lol
     
  13. nyckeion

    nyckeion ....Boo....

    we are the most socialable group actually well mainly chinese if you ask me there are more K- bars and bars out there in the big cities then most places you will always find a load of chinese supermarkets, restaurants, etc... so we are not all that shy actually look at william hung haha