nice triple duplicate post there... bloods thicker than water... you're gonna come out the loser in this one..
honestly, i will not supprised that I will be the loser, in fact half expecting it just hasn't happened yet so . . . . i dunno i guess this is the time that i'm trying to enjoy before it totally falls apart
Have you thought about maybe his last relationship did not go very well? so maybe he is trying to take it slow this time? Maybe it's a little too slow. If you still like him you will stand by him and be patient.
Sorry about the duplicate posts....stupid computer.... Patient? How many more months is she going to wait? Let's just wait forever till there might be a 3rd person in the picture. You've waited long enough. What's really there to enjoy right now? The fact that your status is uncertain? Smallrinilady, you said "u dunno" like u really don't. There are facts that you do know like you both like one another...and that his brother's the one you both are afraid of (namely him). You're expecting it to fall apart like you're not prepared for a fight. Well if that's your mentality....I don't see you maintaining a relationship in the near future.
what about enjoying the time i do get to spend with him those moments of joy, building memories how about saying, i want to wait for this whole brother things to blow over because the brother is a dear friend of mine too, i want that friendship fixed too and i want the brother to be happy for me I'm waiting for the brother to cool off, how would you like it if your siblings was dating one of your closest friends for a long time, and didn't tell you about it not happy huh? on top of you just dont feel they are a good match, even more unhappy huh? and your talking 3rd person, dude i'm not fucking worried about issues like that and your right, i am fucking scared of his brother I have lots of respect for his brother, and really care about what he thinks about me too, and you know what. if i need to wait, but it happens eventually, then it is worth it it also shows how much i truely care about this guy i already took a stance against the brother, i tried, i failed it caused the rift between us to grow even more right now, this issue isn't quite as simple as you think it is and you wanna know why the younger one can't stand up to the older brother? you try acting disrespectful to the one who is covering your rent and bills, and refuses to take your money, even when money is tight you try acting mean to your only family here with you in the united states you try acting rude to the one who is loaning you his car everyday to go to school why dont you critize the one who not only puts the food on the table for you everyday, but is also the one you prepared it for you after a tiring day at work the brother is older than him by five years, the older brother looks at him as a younger brother, the one he has to take care of, especially since the parents are not around, doesn't look at him like an adult the younger brother respects the older brother, is thankful for all he has done, and at time may need to be submissive, the same way teens still need to do what there parents say, although you do not like it you still have to do it they have grown up under very cultural traditions, especially when it comes to family values
he's still my friend too i mean if he wasn't, than that's a different story and i would have no excuse why not to
yea.. well sometimes.. you just gotta make some sacrifices... -lol I don't think there's much advise anyone can give now.. it's pretty much a waiting game now.. either you guys will persevere... or the brother never comes around.. and something something will happen.. -lol
I still think that the little brother views you as an older sister and wants to stay close to you, but doesn't want THAT kind of relationship. The only way to truly tell is to express how you feel or ask him?
^^ nah i think they both like each other and know about it, it's that the little brother is afraid to step up because his older brother doesn't approve of it.
Little, sorry if I sounded a little offensive with my earlier post. I understand that his brother's the one forking over the bills, putting a roof over his head and doing whatever it takes to help his little brother. It also means that big brother always care for his little brother no matter what. Wouldn't he be more incline to agree on a his brother's relationship with a friend he knows very well than a complete stranger? You definately can not critize the older brother who has done everything for the younger one. However I think it's fair that you both sit him down and decide to have "the talk" with him when the time's right. There's really no such thing as a good time to do it. You two need to sort that out and realize when it's appropriate to do so. I never stated to act disrespectful...that will only make things worse. In fact, you two have to approach him with the upmost respect and consult him about his opinions . If he's against the idea, ask him for his reasons and be prepared to come up with some thought out answers. I really think it's better this way than going behind the older brother's back and just be in a state of confusion. Since I assume that the older brother's a close friend of yours, u'd probably value his opinion before moving forward. Further more, u'd want his blessing.
yes i very much do want his blessing and i know whether i sit down with him and talk about it now, his feelings will not change the brother is going through alot of that lately (i have posted another thread about "big brother is stepping in" in this forum and it explains alot about the relationship/friendship problems me and his brother, AND many other friends are having with him right now) I know if i sit down with his brother right now, he will tell me directly, NO i do not like you going out with my younger brother he can also use the argument, that if i want to be respectful to him, that I SHOULD be the one to back off and the argument will be won by who is louder and dominating, who ever gives in first to the fighting will be the loser or he will hang up on me like he did last time we had an argument on the phone the argument will not be about facts and feelings, but physical and emotional domination i know it sounds like he is not being a good friend, and honestly he has not been a good friend lately (he has changed alot recently, but like i mention if you want to know more about that, read the other thread first) but he is still my friend, i still care about how he feels, but if he is going to just act that way, for now i'm just going to avoid him until he calms down
Haven't had time to read all 5 pages, so I don't know what happened. All I have to say is: tell the guy you like him and you want to be more than friends, straight out. You'll get an answer.
hmm.. obviously you havent read the 5 pages.. cuz you would know that that wont work in her situation if you did read. <_< edit: meant for the dude before the previous post
lol, then i can have someone to celebrate valentines with wanna hear the weirdest story his brother EXPECTS him home tonight his brother WANTS to celebrate valentines with the three of them (older brother, older brother's gf, and younger brother) in fact, when he was trying to decline, even the older brother's gf got sad he was trying to decline what the?
hmm.. if that goes on.. the little dudes gonna end up gay. not that i have anything against gay ppl, but thatll ruin the story. plus, i cant believe the older brother.. being an older bro myself, i just feel like hitting some senses into him......
