@ wolf...longer or shorter period of time is just up to you...for me, being down and sad over a girl who doesn't love you anymore isn't worth...you might feel the pain right after but it's all in your head whether or not u are determined to get rid of it...trust me there are many thing that you can do other than being a real life zombie... forgive if i'm frank..i just think what you did to forget her is kind of childish...delete her name off msn and facebook, switch classes if she's in it....tell you what, the more you try to do this the more difficult you are going to forget her...just relax man... if not you are the one suffering, not her...this happened exactly to one of my friends...he did exactly the same stuff as you did and basically i think he could be nothing more than immature and childish...he even sms my friend and talk a lot of bad things about her and asked her to fuck off....the guy who did something like this will bound to repeat the same thing again when he encounter another failure...
To the OP, No one can tell you how long it takes to get over someone or heal a broken heart, because each heart is unique. Some people's hearts are made of rocks, they can be very hard and tough, so they only needed one day to get over someone. There are yet others' hearts made of glass, delicate and fragile. Once broken, it takes a long time to mend it and needs a lot of 'glue' -^_^ So depending on the type of person you are, if you are the sentimental type, you'll take a lot longer to get over it. But what can help? Make yourself busy of course. Getting your mind occupied is the best way to make time flies. And with each passing of time, your heart recovers a lil. Uhm, what are your hobbies? Try to indulge in them. Sign up for a course? Since you are still in school, set a target for yourself. Aim to be the best student in class or something. Competitiveness will definitely fill your time, as you will study hard to beat the rest of them. How about your fitness? Join a gym, or play some games, like badminton or soccer with your friends. Go to a library, and borrow some interesting books to read. Go to a movie store and rent some DVDs. (Horror ones are good). Join a club (whatever club) and get yourself involved in the activities. (btw, i said a club, yeah. Don't go join a Satanic cult or something -^_^) Do you have any religion? Christian perhaps? Go to a church, mingle with the people there, learn to be closer to God? Or if you are a Buddhist, then learn more about your faith through some books. Practice the teachings of Buddha. If you are Atheist, then read up on some evolution theories to get yourself occupied -^_^ Read up on science. If you go online, don't stop yourself from joining the online community (facebook and MSN for example). They are means of getting in touch with your other friends. You don't have to cut yourself out just because of one girl you know. You can just delete her from your facebook group and block + remove her from MSN. Chat to some new girls online There are some pretty interesting ones out there. Well, there are so many things you can do. It all depends on how hard you are willing to work at it. Do not wallow in self-pity. Stand up and be strong You are not the ONLY one in this world who has ever gotten into a break-up. There are many people out there with worse experiences than you. Well I am sorry you think that way, maybe the girls you have met all the while have been jerks and 'bitches' but then again, there are so many girls out there you HAVEN'T met. So if you decide to stereotype and close your heart, that's up to you, but it's not a healthy decision. You might lose out in the end, if you end up lonely and bitter ... <_< Shame on you
Different people have different ways of dealing with this. Calling him childish for deleting someone's name and avoiding that person might be a little harsh.
doing those things.. finding ways to purposely avoid them is worse... makes u think of them even more... u avoid her in body.. but in ur mind shes there more often... it also depends on the break up... if she cheated on u... like mine did... lol.. see her more... look at their pics more... it hurts.... alot.. but more it hurts faster u'll get over it... jsut cause seeing her doesnt mean talk to her tho.. u see her... she talks to u... just walk away... be rude..... she deserves it!! if just those reason tht u mentioned then just keep thinking about everything bad tht has happened.. dont avoid it... face the truth... if anything find a friend tht knows all the shit tht she done and tell it to u non stop... it hurts but like i said... more it hurts faster its gone...
well in my situation, she was kind of avoiding me and stuff and keeping her distance. I dun think she even wanted to be friends anymore. So since she doesn't even wanna be friends, then fine then, to hell with being her friend. That hurt quite abit so thats why I wanan avoid her and try to hepl me forget about her.
^There are several reasons why she could be acting this way (guilt, remorse, awkward...). Best would be to talk to her and see where it stands on your friendship. Many a times, when we assume, we tend to be wrong and thats when things go haywhile. Besides, blocking her doesnt really make you feel better because it only adds to your frustration since it will be a reminder to you about WHY she did that to you. Best is to deal with this breakup in a positive way by exploring the reasons that this relationship didnt work out. Once you've found out, you've gained extra knowledge and who knows, maybe a place in her heart as a close friend. -^_^ But in the meanwhile, hope that you will find ways to get rid of this depressing feeling.
it also depends on what YOU want... u want to be fds.. or want her outta your life... if u want to be fds.. tlak to her and see how to work things out.... if not then fk it... just dont do things on purpose jsut to avoid her... she can do it all she wants.. not ur prob.. and if u relaly dont want to be fds with her.. keep thinking tht way... shes a B*tch not even wanting to be fds... think of everythng tht will hurt u the most.... just dont go emo and kill urself... harder it hits faster its gone.... =D
Like I said, there are many ways of dealing with a break-up. Maybe that's just her way of doing it. Having a clean break. In the short term, that's the fastest and healthiest way of course. You don't have to deal with those confusing feelings again if you speak to your ex (while trying to heal your heartache). So to her, "out of sight means slowly out of mind". Give her some time and don't feel bitter about it. You yourself need time to get over her. After you think you have healed your wounded heart about 90% or so, then try to contact her and stay in touch as a friend, if that's possible. Often, time can erase everything, even the hostility. I used to hate one ex of mine but he contacted me after 4 years of seeing each other (in class and not speaking) , and guess what, we hang out like old friends
Well, someone has to take the lead. The guys can't always let the girls be the boss all the time. -rolleyes
Its not a break up lol. I never even got the girl. I asked her out and got rejected then she was avoiding me and stuff, and kind of was distancing herself pretending to not see me unless it was really obvious that I saw her. Then she would acknowledge me. Started to go sit somewhere else in class etc. I wanted to be more then just friends. I don't think it would have felt good if I was her friend and still liked her while she was making out with other guy right in front me or out grinding guys at dance clubs. There was this other guy that was also after her, she knew him before me and when I saw how close they were it pissed me off and hurt really badly inside. Maybe later on in life when I get over her maybe we can become friends or something but at the moment I don't think thats possible.
Oh hahaha. So that explains it. She probably feels awkward too. And you are not helping by feeling jealous over her display of affection with another, when you have no right to be... Yeah, best thing is get over it, and then if you are still uhm, interested, then you can try to get her to be friends with you again.
well actually you said yourself "THE GIRL JUST DOESN"T WORTH IT" hey...you are a smart guy...you went drinking and u stop it cause she doesn't worth such dramatic situation. So what about your grades ?Does it worth to miss lesson or switch sections just because of her? She cause you alot of pain i know but just be brave and face your difficulties..so what if you run into her???yeap is gonna be akward but i think she is the one who should feel unconfortable NOT you.Cause she's the one who did bad things not You.Gosh don't run away from your feeling just face them
Just chill and lay back for a while... In the meantime, go enjoy yourself in hobbies that you like, who knows, maybe the One will be there when you least expect her to be.-^_^
Uh Yeah! It's sure is hard to forget someone that always on your mind but perhaps your trying too hard!
in ur own head theres a chart.... its different for each person.. time vs how much u love... if u love ALOT then time to forget = longer... and short for less... its up to u to figure it out... and plus for u to understand how long more u will suffer until she is out of ur heart completley
just keep yourself as busy as possible. And don't expect anything. When you see the girl just say hi and walk away..
