That's why your "how am i giving the wrong vibe" thread is more appropriate for this particular situation. It's no good ranting about how frustrating it is to have all the attention in multiple guys hitting on you. EDIT: Eeek, babyrain just took the words right outta my mouth.
it's flattering the first time but after you said no several times, but they still keep trying to put their arms around your shoulder or them telling you they aren't going to move if they have a chance i mean of course i dont want my friend to move away, but i'm not going to say yes to you, just so you wont move
that's how it is with everyone, no matter who it is.. there are some things you just don't say to ppl unless you want to elicit some kind of reaction.. because you don't watch with you say with these guys, this is their reaction
So why can't you just tell them straight out that you don't like them and you just want to be friends?
aww... hey hey give a guy a chance! lol, makes me wonder if girls talk bout me like this behind their back "oh... dont like him, 0% compatiblity" with out even a chance T_T pick the one that seems to like you more and go on a date or two atleast. He already likes you, what'ca got to lose?
lol, oh come on sabaru. see... you'd be one of the guys that'd weeded out once you realize you have to actually work to get the one your after. even if they think there's 0% compatibility, that's only right then and there, women and the future moves in mysterious ways... since that judgement of incompatibility probably came from women's Intuition, it's not reliable!! it could be a mood swing... or something... i think we men have to be persistent to an extent to get anywhere...
That IS impressive -^_^ But sometimes being persistent can annoy the other person. It could end up one way or another, either you get the girl after all the hard work, or the girl still rejects you. So I guess it's a matter of picking which situation to be persistent in.
Whut! Put his hands around my shoulder?! That would be sexual harassment, not 'chasing' after me anymore... Well, personally, I don't have 'friends' like that. All they do are usually send me stuff (cards) and buy me gifts, or ask me out. That's the 'chasing' I meant hehe. But yeah, if a guy can't take a 'no' for a 'no', then it can be rather aggravating for both parties. That reminds me of this guy who kept calling me up even when I am not interested in him and back in those days when I don't have a mobile yet. My dad would pick up the phone, and that guy would pretend to ask for me in a girl's voice! Lmao. Thinking about it now, that is amusing... -cool
lets assume it's a "real' rejection and not one of those unsure things where the girl just says no because she's shy/flustered. Then, after all that hard work you'll probably always be on that girls mind from there on forth. maybe that'll leave a chance for a second chase, after she realizes what a loss she took. but yea, knowing when to be persistent is a good thing lolz. Gotta stay away from stalker status. but still beable to show the girl that your serious enough to take a mental beating. ^_^ i guess your fine then heh. quite a few of my other friends suck at judging that cuz rejection messes with a dudes head. the more confidence you had, the harder you'll fall. hah, did your dad ever suspect anything? lolz... like "hey you know your girlfriend has quite the manish voice" ah and one more thing to tie thigns up... though persistent guys have their good sides, watch out for the ones that are just after the chase. Those guys are jackasses... they wreck ppl and turn women against men
Of coz my dad ain't that stupid. He scolded that guy... LOL. and he only told me about it later... and 'mimicked' that guy's voice and said that "He thinks I am stupid! Pretending to be a girl! blablabla"
well, it shouldn't be harder fall whatever lor.. your friends can just think about it like play poker la.. so maybe sometime you interpret wrong, so what?? is just error, all they can do is say no.. there will always be another set of cards in the next round
heh, instead of thinking if it as poker, how about as in tennis? your down 0 - 40, do u and should u fight for it? YES!! cuz stuff can happen, if you stay mentally on top of things, he'll be at a disadvantage if u manage to get to 30. fight for every point. if one of those guys that fell for smallrinilady is really serious, i hope they endure this simple trial of love ^_^ and not just walk away think'n "psh, theres more fish in the sea". remember, trials make a man stronger!! of course if it really wasnt ment to be, or they turn out to be creeps, i hope smallrinilady finally rejects them
lol sure, in some instances la.. but not too much though.. coz like her and brain say, if is too constant, then is become bothersome.. which isn't good
this is basically where I am at i do one time i hinted at one guy i told him what kind of guy i liked, and what kind of guy i hated and then he said "i guess that you would never go for me then" was glad he got it yet i had to bluntly tell him twice more later that i dind't like him and he STILL bought and sent me birthday, christmas and VALENTINE presents to my house even though he KNEW i HAD a boyfriend!!!!!!! 5 years of telling him i dont like him, when will it stop why? i dont date for fun, i date people i truely like (i know, that it doesn't come easily or often, but in the end i'm willing to wait)
