Hmm, you know that gets me thinking. Maybe to you, those one-on-one outings are just 'outings' but to these guys, they may have a wrong idea, thinking that you are out on 'dates' with them, know what I mean? The best thing is if you wanna hang out with a guy friend one on one, make it clear to him that you two are not out on a date... so that he might not have the wrong picture. And by the way, what's wrong with the guy that chased you for five years? You don't like his looks? His personality? Or you just don't find him compatible? Tbh, I am quite impressed with his persistence.
IMO, birthday and Christmas presents are fine, but maybe don't accept the Valentines? And if they're not getting the hint, just keep trying to tell them. Hopefully, they'll get the hint someday ..
if you are choosey, then you have to bear in mind that it will happen in reverse too. but tat doesnt mean..im saying you can just accept any tom, dick & harry. & then regret for the rest of your life. give it a try if there is a little feelings...who knows sparks might blossom.
one of the MAJOR things that really attract me to a guy is one with drive,abbition, a goal (NOT dreams) to watch one push to achieve his goals, makes me feel so proud of him, and having a partner like that makes me want to push myself more too to me this is one of the top traits in a guy i look for, the guy (who has chased me for 5 years) is one of those who lives day by day with not enough money to pay his rent after he got out of his last job, he's been freeloading for a month off of friends (who want to kick him out too, but can't bear to be that mean) he can't keep a steady job (even making bubble tea) for a long time because he keeps getting fired for stupid things (like being late, even when he only lives 4 blocks from his work) and when he somehow gets some money, just a new job or something, he spends it on useless junk i dont need a pair of earrings and matching necklace from a guy who can't afford to pay for insurrance on his car. he also once paid 20$ USD for fan art of a anime series I liked i wouldn't even buy a real posted for an anime series i like, why the hell would i even care about fan-art he is also a dreamer, one who has these huge "goals" spending thousands of dollars on a project, which everyone konws is going to fail, not because he can't do it, but because he'll become lazy and have some excuse to why it wasn't the right path for him he keeps claiming he is going to start college, and after 3 years of saying so, he finally did and quite 2 weeks into it just because he "didn't feel like it" sorry if this rant got a little long, but you did ask the question oh this guy is actually in love with two girls, me and my high school best friend in the past 4 years he has also boughten her edible panties, and S&M lingerie (although i also think she's an idiot, because he actually changed into it and prance around in the lingerie for 4 hours in front of more than ten friends, SOBER!) couldn't she at least have a little more dignity
Maybe your friend is an attention w*ore. What decent girl would run around in front of people in their underwear. Maybe you should also make it clear to the guy that you don't like him, I mean plain "I will never like you ever in my lifetime". Don't give him the bullsh*t of "you're not my type but we still can be friend" answer too.
