You're been too nice girl, he'll trample all over you soon. Stand up for yourself and take control over him. Either dump him or tell him to get out of their. Don't regret your actions afterwards, cos you're doing the right thing. Sometimes these actions needed to be taken in order to achieve a perfect relationship. Flames out
hehe... i'm really not trying to b sarcastic... some ppl do choose to let it go n pretend they never saw anything... but they r usually much older... either married or find themselves can't live without the guy... -_- anyway... u'll never get anything out of ur bf without making him mad... he's mad coz he feels guilty and embarrassed... he knows he did something wrong n got caught... the more u try to talk to him the more he'll pull away :(
dont you get mad when he says that? arent you a part of his life?!?! i woulda thrown a brick to my GF if she said that
trust, compromise and beliefs he abuse your trust, comprise has occurred, he made your belief in your relation week. dump the fcker
from a guy perspective, if he's neglecting you then perhaps it's a sign of a split in the relationship is forecoming. i think it's time to draw the line and talk it over with him about the issues that you have with him. if he still think those issues to you aren't issues to him, then just break up and move on. when it's come to relationship, two people have to think in one direction if it concerns trust or love or whatever the foundation/fundamentals of the relationship. in your case, he should've clarified things rather than putting you through this anxiety or whatever you're feeling now. of course, you gotta let him know too. communication is the key to most problems especially in relationship where one keeps thinking the other partner know what s/he's thinking .. not always true. anyway, in my honest opinion, your relationship is over the min he said "he can't not mention his past" .. urg... hello, if he's fucking over with the gal, why the fuck is he keeps bringing her up in conversation. no matter from a guy or gal perspective, it's an unacceptable. dump the shitty guy and grab yourself another man before you're the one being kicked to the curb. it's not good to dwell on such a guy who doesn't cherish you anyway.
I think you've got a lot of good advice here. All I have to say is, I think you should be mentally prepared that to be able to leave this guy. I know it will be hard...you sound like you like him a lot. But once you prepare yourself mentally, and know that you are ABLE to leave him...(and I don't see why you can't, I never believe that crap that one can not live without another)...the road will be a lot easier to see. Sit him down and have a GOOOOD talk with him. I agree with negiqboyz, communication is key to a relatioship and so is respect. Ask him to be calm and ask him if he respects you and your relationship enough to have a good talk about the things that matter to you, the things that are making you uncomfortable. It really doesn't matter what the situation is...as long as it makes any one party in the relationship unhappy, it's a problem. Also, if he does agree to have a good talk with you. Don't believe everything he saids. You sound like a smart girl, don't let your emotions get the better of you. Listen with your brain, not your heart. Weed through the lies and decide...what is the ideal type of life you want for yourself.
